JoyieGracie Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 I'm a pretty nice person and am NOT shy to tell people what kind of girl I am. The thing is, when a guy seems attacted to me, I usually let them know, in a casual way, that I am the type of person that for the most part is innocent. In other words, I don't do sexual things to quickly. Also, I don't really like people touching my face, because to me, it's one of the most intamate parts of the body. Most of the time when I discuss my "face-bubble" situation and my "innocents" a guy who seemed interested ignores me from that point. It's seems like every guy that shows interests only wants one thing. I don't regret telling people the type of person I am, and I'm not saying I'm a stiff, because I'm not. I just think, at my age, things need to move slower because chances are, they won't last through high school. I feel like there's something wrong with me. Any advice/comments? Link to comment
tiger_lilies Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 You are a smart young lady! Do what you feel is right. If they can't handle that, they're not worth it! Link to comment
psipro Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 My girlfriend is the same way (exept the face bubble thing). We started dating and after a couple of weeks we talked about things like pre-marital sex. I would tell your boyfriends upfront that you dont like to be touched in the face, but tell them in a nice way so you dont seem like you are warning them. Save the pre-marital sex talk for later in your relationship, if they pressure you for sex earlier then you are ready for bring it up then, and they sadly proably wont accepct it. I'd recomend you wait to let them get to know you before you talk about sex. Also i agree with the above, if they cant accpect it move on to the next guy. Do not compromise because you will find somone who will listen Link to comment
Caldus Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 Aww...you'll find someone soon enough I'm sure. Those guys who just ignore you like that or not worth it anyway. Forget about them. Just keep being your nice self and don't give up! Link to comment
69_king Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 no problem, thats the way you're supposed to act, although the facebubble thing sounds a little weird. You probably won't have an easy time getting a boyfriend but I am sure there are a few nice/shy guys who would be totally cool with that stuff. Link to comment
Goddess4ever Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 hello! I completely applaud you for being so upfront and honest! Those are incredibly great traits to have. I understand that it is very frustrating when guys go "okay bye". However, the way that you want to conduct your life is your way. I would consider this to be a way of weeding through the players and finding someone genuine. Sleeping with someone after a date or a few or whatever is a personal choice....and you are mature enough to have made it for yourself! IMO, I think you should be very proud of who you are.....and although it is frustrating, there are many, many really great guys out there who will like you just the way you are. Don't be ashamed! Link to comment
psipro Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 Um I dont think the face buble thing is that weird, everyone has different personal areas. Link to comment
Jimbo10 Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 I'm your age so i geuss i can vouch for guys me age...hehe I find that SUPER attractive. Girls who are not afraid to say whats one their mind is SOOO COOL. I wish i could meet more girls like you, cause too many play head games with us guys, and it makes our brains hurt . Anyway, im sure lots of guys at your school feel the same way i do, and you just need to get to know them to see if you like them. Anyway, PM if ya like Link to comment
sisterlynch Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 I'm a pretty nice person and am NOT shy to tell people what kind of girl I am. Also, I don't really like people touching my face, because to me, it's one of the most intamate parts of the body. Most of the time when I discuss my "face-bubble" situation and my "innocents" a guy who seemed interested ignores me from that point. It's seems like every guy that shows interests only wants one thing. I just think, at my age, things need to move slower because chances are, they won't last through high school. I feel like there's something wrong with me. Any advice/comments? No offense, but this all seems sort of aloof and may make the guys think that you are stereotyping them. If you stereotype them chances are that they are going to stereotype you too, as someone that is cool... Link to comment
Strictly4MyGrind Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 Ayo u seem like u kno wat u want an i think ull find some1 thas right 4 u. Some1 hu respcts u 4 hu u are. jus stay tha way u are there some1 out there 4 u. Link to comment
Cloud802 Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 Hey now, it's all cool, if you can't find a guy who's willing to take it slow with you then he's obviously not even worth your frustration, slap him and walk away. I am fifteen and I know this, I'm one of the few teenagers who's not just looking out to get layed. Surprisingly there are a few girls like this, and an example is my first two g/fs. Of course, they're gone now, this is a premium example of what the world is becoming in this new millennium. People who want sex and nothing more than sex, true relationships that can make it through thick and thin are VERY rare nowadays, I'm just lucky enough to have one, once you find a guy like that it's all downhill from there. So for now, just ignore those imbeciles. Link to comment
mahlina Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 Nothing is wrong with you JoyieGracie. In fact, I applaud you for being that way! =D> I'm that way too. When I date a guy, I tell him upfront that I like to keep things innocent, because that's how I am in general. I like to keep things in my life innocent, and I like to have FUN! But that fun doens't mean that I'll like to get down right dirty and kinky! And, if a guy can't accept me for that, then screw him. If he wants to find someone to sleep with, then he can go find a hooker on Sunset Blvd. JoyieGracie, always be proud of who you are. Deep down inside, if you are innocent at heart, then that's all that matters. Besides, we need more people like you in this world. I'm tired of seeing all of these wannabe raunchy girls try to act like pornstars. If guys want to date girls like that, then fine. Be my guest. Just think of it as your weeding out process. A person who's genuinely interested in you, will be interested in you for you, not for some kind of 'image' so to speak. Be proud that you're not fake. To me, when a person can be proud of who they are, and not try to change, that shows me more confidence than anything. Even if they're a straight up geek, and aren't ashamed of it! Enjoy doing what you love to do. Heck, my definition of fun on a Friday night would be going to the arcade with my date, or skating rink. Whatever's fun & innocent. I would even toss in dancing for the hell of it, just because I love dancing. And, when a guy gets pissed because I'm not letting him grind up on me, then fine. I'm over it. His problem. As long as I'm doing something fun & innocent, then I enjoy it more than anything! For a 22 year old, people find it odd that I'm this way, because some people my age are into the party scene, and don't know what the heck they want. They try to act a certain way, thinking that that's the best way to act. Surprise Surprise. I thought high school was done & over with! I'd rather be me and be young at heart, rather than try to impress others, by being some kind of stupid crowd pleaser, who can't think for herself. Be proud to be you! Link to comment
2rublueeyes21 Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 It's good to be honest..honesty is the best thing. You will get more respect from that as well. Link to comment
wanderer Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 i would interpret that as respecting yourself, which i find very attracitve in a girl. i wish my ex had more respect for herself... Link to comment
acts12 Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 No offense, but this all seems sort of aloof and may make the guys think that you are stereotyping them. If you stereotype them chances are that they are going to stereotype you too, as someone that is cool... This one's got it figured out.. I am looking for exactly a girl that doesnt want to do anything physical until marriage. And based on what you are saying, "guys that show interest in you are only out for one thing", if a guy like me showed interest in you, then you would assume that I was out for one thing only, when I'm really not. And because of your stereotyping you would have missed out............just food for thought. Link to comment
mr sad Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 nice girls dont finish last ... they have the last laugh. um hello JoyieGracie! i gather from what you have posted you are a very up front person, thats awesome. its a sign of confidence, self respect and individualism. youre one of a kind, dont conform to what a guy wants you to be. if you dont like people touching ur face then so be it, if he cant dig it then hes obviously not good enough for you. nice girls deserve to be nice with nice guys, just be yourself and you will find your nice guy. at 17 theres no rush, you have your whole life ahead of you. mr sad Link to comment
nexus532 Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 You are fine. People need to show a little more respect to thats all. If they can't the toss them aside. Link to comment
JoyieGracie Posted December 1, 2004 Author Share Posted December 1, 2004 Thank you to all who posted Link to comment
JoyieGracie Posted December 1, 2004 Author Share Posted December 1, 2004 No offense, but this all seems sort of aloof and may make the guys think that you are stereotyping them. If you stereotype them chances are that they are going to stereotype you too, as someone that is cool... This one's got it figured out.. I am looking for exactly a girl that doesnt want to do anything physical until marriage. And based on what you are saying, "guys that show interest in you are only out for one thing", if a guy like me showed interest in you, then you would assume that I was out for one thing only, when I'm really not. And because of your stereotyping you would have missed out............just food for thought. I appoligize for not being more clear by what I ment by that. The thing is, so far most of the guys that show intrest in me have completely blown me off as soon as they understood my values. I don't assum everyone is like that because I'm pretty open minded. I just think there is something wrong with me. Link to comment
Sebulous Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 You will meet some guys that only want sex. I've noticed that guys who have no problem walking up to a girl talking to her and getting her number are usually guys out looking for a quick lay. I personally take time to learn a little about a girl before I ask her out. Sometimes I don't even really get the nerve up to go talk to her. The 'Nice Guys' are generally the more shy group. I find that being told up front, well not right away, but on 1st date, about her limits and restrictions. I respect that. IF you think your face bubble is bad, I hate to be touched ANYWHERE by anyone. I don't freak out, but I just kinda move away from them if they touch me in any way. It takes a long time to get comfortable around anyone. I even really liked one of my co-workers for 2 years and I would still draw back when she went to touch me. Just a trust issue I know. course when have a bad dating history and a horrible realtionship history each ending with her cheating, you kinda withdraw yourself from the world to save face. Link to comment
ShySoul Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 JoyieGracie, nothing is wrong with you. Infact, I wish there were more girls like you. You are upfront and honest about your feeling and believe something that is very attractive. You want a guy who will respect you and take things slow, something that any decent guy would do anyways. Sadly, most guys don't think like that and it can get frustrating. Don't worry nice guys are out there and you'll find one eventually. Until then don't back down and stick to your believes. In the end, the nice guys and girls are the ones who end up together and happy. Link to comment
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