Text my Ex?

[paperboy48]

I broke up with my girlfriend of seven months, three weeks ago. For those who do not know of my story… unfortunately she was “my rebound” from a 16-year relationship. We started dating seven months after my M ended. I really and truly had some memorable times with this girl. She was truly very special to me. We shared some things with each other that I probably will not share with anyone ever again. After getting to known her though, I realized she was just not for me. She is a very special person with an extremely kind-gentle heart, she just wasn’t for me.

 

I just don’t want her to think the time we spent together meant nothing to me. I have had thoughts of sending her a text saying, “I want you to know I do think about you and the time we shared together, I hope you are doing okay” But, I don’t want to do it, if this will bring her back a few steps. If she has healed some, I don’t want to bring her back any. If you think it will help her realize the relationship we had actually meant something to me, than I will send it.

 

Watcha think?

[Edmund Exley]

I think you should let her be.

[justletgo07]

Don't do it. You'll only give her false hope. Ask yourself why you're wanting to contact her when you know you don't want to be with her.

[Edmund Exley]

Don't do it. You'll only give her false hope. Ask yourself why you're wanting to contact her when you know you don't want to be with her.

 

He's already said why, to soothe his own guilt, which while understandable isn't a good enough reason.

[paperboy48]

He's already said why, to soothe his own guilt, which while understandable isn't a good enough reason.

 

 

Not true, I want her to know the relationship meant something to me. If your are going to read my post and reply with feedback, read the whole post in its entirety.

 

I have been hurt before, with feelings of "did I mean anything to her?" My purpsoe here was to remove these feelings of "Did I mean anything to him?

[mhowe]

Dont do it.

[ChasingHope]

She doesn't need to know. The relationship was ended by you; it really doesn't matter what you think about her anymore. Let her keep moving on with her life. She knows how great she is, she doesn't need to hear it from an ex.

[kaylalynn]

It is still too soon and the wound is still open. I would wait. Wait till she has had significant time to heal. She may want to know that and it may make her feel better, but she doesnt need it right now. It will just hurt her all over again.

[No1]

Was it a bad breakup? Or did you two leave on decent terms? Was your current emotion conveyed when you two broke up? Did you tell her that it wasnt nothing but it ment something?

[DarthVader]

Recently, I was dumped because I was the rebound. She asked if she could ask how I was doing from time to time, I said no because I needed time to heal. Unless you want to reconcile with this girl, leave her be. It will only mess with her head, I know it would do it to me.

[Watergirl777]

Don't do it, you're only going to prolong her pain. She doesn't need to hear that from you. Let her be.

[East4]

OP, you broke up with this girl twice over only 7 months, you last got back with her beginning of April to break up with her yet AGAIN only a month a half later. It is high time you left her in peace. Your text seems to me as an attempt to string her along. Please, do not do any further damage.

[paperboy48]

I'll take the advice given here, not to text her. I seriously only would want to do it, to help her (if you all thought it would). I respect your opinions and will let her be! Thank you.