Not a rookie Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Last year a friend of mine got date raped. She was drugged so she can't remember what happened. She went to the police and went under forensic investigation. The police summoned her clothes to look for further evidence. They have contacted her and told her no evidence has been found on her skirt, shirt and other belongings. They(the police) told her she can collect these clothing items if she wants to. Otherwise the police will destroy all of the clothing she has handed over. She is rather confused about this. If you got date raped, would you go collect pieces of clothing which reminded you of that day? Or would you let the police destroy all of that? She was rather traumatised by this event. I have no clue how to respond to her so I am not sure what to tell her. What's your advice? Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 If its going to cause painful memories then she should let them throw it away. Its just clothing, not worth the pain. Link to comment
lukeb Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Last year a friend of mine got date raped. She was drugged so she can't remember what happened. She went to the police and went under forensic investigation. The police summoned her clothes to look for further evidence. They have contacted her and told her no evidence has been found on her skirt, shirt and other belongings. They(the police) told her she can collect these clothing items if she wants to. Otherwise the police will destroy all the clothing. She is rather confused about this. If you got date raped, would go collect pieces of clothing which reminded you of that day? Or would you let the police destroy all of that? She was rather traumatised by this event. I have no clue how to respond to her so I am not sure what to tell her. What's your advice? From a practical point of view I would say there is no point in collecting her clothes unless she is interested in sending it to another lab. Even then it is better for her not to collect these clothes since they are in a secure location now. It would have been better of course if the evidence was collected right after it happened, I would think chances are high crucial evidence if there ever was any is probably lost forever. Link to comment
happyfrank Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Let the police destroy all the clothing. Don't tell her anything about the event. Just be her friend. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I was drugged and date raped but never went to the police because I don't know who the person was. I would just let them destroy the clothes if there's no evidence on it. I'm sure she doesn't want the clothes back. Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Why did it confuse her? I would probably let the clothing go. I'd never wear it again. Link to comment
annie24 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 yikes, what a terrible situation!! i also probably wouldn't want that outfit, unless like someone said, they want to send it to another lab. i'm really sorry about your friend's rape. Link to comment
MapleCanuck Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I dated a girl who was drugged/raped. She didnt put it together until I convinced her. She knew she was raped and passing in and out of consciousness. It never occurred to her that she was drugged. She remembered waking up for a second and knows who did it. I have tried go convince her to tell the police, even just to protect future girls from getting raped. I am horrified that some men would do this to a woman. To see the impact this has had on her if heartbreaking. Destroy the clothes and seek therapy for her. In sorry to hear about this. Thank her for reporting it though. We need women do keep reporting so we can catch these scumbags. Link to comment
superfan Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 A friend of mine was raped and her clothing was also examined for evidence. I remember her being very upset that the police took her coat (it was winter time) and she wasn't sure if htey were going to get it back or not. I remembered thinking "it's odd that she is so concerned about her coat after having been raped - especially since it must remind her of it", but then she explained to me that it was just a further reminder how little control she had over the situation. We pooled our resources and bought her a brand new coat similar to the one she had lost. She really appreciated it. Only your friend can sort out how she feels about the clothing and whether she wants it back or not. All you can do as her friend is be there for her and try to help her through it whatever she decides. Good luck! Link to comment
Not a rookie Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 Thank you for all the replies. She decided to let the police destroy all the clothing. Link to comment
Fudgie Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 Did she get a rape kit done on her so they could collect potential DNA evidence? Link to comment
Not a rookie Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 Did she get a rape kit done on her so they could collect potential DNA evidence? Yes, she did. They took all kinds of samples from her. Link to comment
Not a rookie Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 How is she doing? She is going about her life nowadays. She has a boyfriend now and she is working. She seems well. Thanks. Link to comment
Not a rookie Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 The rape took place last September, btw. Link to comment
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