temptaion....

[yamajii89]

Hi, just recently there's this girl who wants to have sex with me, but i am currently in a commited relationship, the girl said that she aint up for the relationship thing but only for sex. since sex with my girlfriend is very limited since she is still young, virgin and not ready, my sex life at the moment is limited, so i am strongly tempted to call this person....

 

I personally dont want to cheat to my girl, and i never in my life thought that i would be tempted like this. i have always looked up to my self as a honest person when it comes to a relationship.

 

Should i talk to her about it? What should i do? AHH cant believe this i am asking this. i just want my sex life again.

[silly55]

Whatever you do, don't cheat.

[itsallgrand]

Maybe you shouldn't be in a committed relationship with a girl who is young, a virgin, and not ready for sex. It doesn't matter if you care about her a great deal. That's bs.

 

You aren't married so cut her free and go have some fun. This is my serious advice.

[Seraphim]

If you are not ready to wait for her then break up.

[pippy longstocking]

you have to set your girlfriend free ok

 

and how can you discuss it with your g/friend , because no matter how you dress it up you will

be saying

 

"your not ready for sex, I want it and its on offer"

 

there is no way round it ..she will feel harrassed over her virginity and to say she hasn't even started

in the world of sex..been cheated on is an awful way to enter it ..

 

two choices

 

stay with girlfriend and tell "fill my hole and I wont tell" to do one

 

end it with your g/friend and fill your boots ...

 

whatever you decide ...please dont hurt that girl fella ok

[yamajii89]

words of wisdome thanks

[Seraphim]

I can promise you she is not serious about it. Just break up.

[yamajii89]

thanks that motivated me somehow Star. I love this girl more than sex, and i wouldnt do a thing to hurt her feelings. Thanks alot and thanks for the advice.

[yamajii89]

we are serious about it, she just isnt ready, however through-out our relationship in just the span of 4 months our sexlife has improved significantly. back on our first night, she was totaly againts oral sex, but now she is totaly in to it XD who knows what she will bring in the plate the next time but i will stay with this girl, i just dont have time to go out and have fun anymore since i work 2 jobs.

[Seraphim]

What I was saying she is not serious about was telling you to go off and have sex with someone else. If you do I can guarantee you one very angry PO"D gf.

[yamajii89]

ah yhea sorry, i missunderstood ya there mate XD but i got ya point.

[yamajii89]

lol sorry mate

[ToF]

I think it's great that you've decided not to cheat on your girlfriend, but I think it's very worrisome that you considered it in the first place. I worry that your resolve won't last for as long as she wants to remain a virgin. And the last thing you want to do is pressure her into doing it before she is ready. I just see this as the beginning of a very difficult situation.

 

What do you think you could do to strengthen your relationship, so that this will never happen again?

[itsallgrand]

we are serious about it, she just isnt ready, however through-out our relationship in just the span of 4 months our sexlife has improved significantly. back on our first night, she was totaly againts oral sex, but now she is totaly in to it XD who knows what she will bring in the plate the next time but i will stay with this girl, i just dont have time to go out and have fun anymore since i work 2 jobs.

 

You don't have the time to have fun because you work two jobs. lol. Seriously.

[yamajii89]

Yes i spend my free time sleeping. Or during my rest days i do activities with my girl....

[angrythoughts]

Just ask yourself whats more important. An honest relationship, or sex with some girl who you can care less about. If you really like her then you're gonna either convince her to lay it on you or spend a few days out of the week in front of your laptop with baby oil. =)

[yamajii89]

Yhea but i am a verry patient person. I can take waiting. Ive nevr cheated before and wont ever will.... i gues its because of muly peers they all told me that its ok aslong as it stays soly for sex. I find that kinda wrong but tempting never the less. That being said ime not gonna look at it as an option ever again and i a. Ashamed that i ever did.

[angrythoughts]

Nah it's not ok if it's only for sex cuz it could turn into more. It's happened to many people before. Just hopefully temptation doesn't get the best of you. And it's ok to look at options. As long as you don't go through with them.

[ToF]

Yhea but i am a verry patient person. I can take waiting. Ive nevr cheated before and wont ever will.... i gues its because of muly peers they all told me that its ok aslong as it stays soly for sex. I find that kinda wrong but tempting never the less. That being said ime not gonna look at it as an option ever again and i a. Ashamed that i ever did.

 

What will you do to keep this from happening again?

 

To be frank, if I knew my boyfriend was actually considering sleeping with someone else, I would dump him. That's just not something I want to deal with, and with so many people in the world I would know that I don't have to deal with it.

 

The take-home message here: Either take active steps to prevent becoming tempted ever again, or end the relationship. Because if you can't wait for her (or if it turns out she's not enough), someone else can.

[yamajii89]

thanks ToF advice taken, dont worry i wont break this girl's heart ever

[yamajii89]

i wont look at another girl again for as long as i am with her...

[ToF]

Not looking at other girls is pretty unrealistic. But good luck to you.