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  1. alright so its been about 9months since my wife got pregnant and she didnt want to have sex during the pregnancy so i held up for 9 months, and i understood she would need some time after giving birth to heal before sex was even a possibility doctor said it would take 2 months for that to happen and i even waited for 5 months after the baby came, and my wife still wont give me some sex. we're always together 24/7 since we both work from home so i know she isnt seeing anyone at all and im not seeing anyone at all thing is there's only so much a man can endure before he breaks i need some advice.
  2. thanks i was 20 at the time i'm 29 now. yeah i keep her close even though i'm married now
  3. yeah i found that there's a lot of ways around that age restrictions thing on dating apps. its statutory rape, i dont know the specifics tho but would it still be the case if i was deceived for 8 months? and her grand mom and grand dad, do know me and we got along well but they passed away a few years ago too. and her dad was a drug addict and is in rehab multiple times and her mom dont know me at all.
  4. you should live in my country, a 30 year old can look like a 18 year old. she was big in stature about as tall as me probably taller and i never suspected it. my current wife is the same age as me which is 29 and people say she looks 16 or around that age
  5. ok so this happened about 8 years ago. after a brutal breakup with my ex for 2 years i was depressed, during 2011 i got addicted to a few dating apps, my purpose was just hooking up to burry my depression and maybe find a proper girl. suddenly i found JD on her profile there was a phone number and a few of her details, on her profile said "age:22" and she looked the part too. After a week's worth of chatting we finally agreed to meet at my house and hook up. We got along well with shared interest and all, and a few days later we hit it again. we werent anything exclusive but we had a very sexual relationship for about 8 to 9 months when finally she said she wanted to to enter into a BF GF relationship with me and i wanted that too. however she revealed that she was actually 14 and just only turned 15 a few days prior to this confession. i never questioned her age as she looked the part the subject did come up a once or twice and she did say she was 22 and showed me an ID. she revealed that it was a fake ID. at the time i didnt know what to do. I now have feelings to a 15 year old that i thought was 22 all this time. long story short we did see each other a few more times after that but we didnt have anything sexual at all she saw a few guys one the sides and i a few girls. we became best of friends instead and shared everything with each other. we even became homeless together traveled together and we stuck with each other all the way for another 2 years. unfortunately after that 2 years she died a horrible death, she was murdered, the alleged suspects were 3 US marines traveling abroad. i dont want to divulge too much here as justice has not been served at all and probably will never be. I dont even know where she's berried as her family wont say. just trying to get this story out there hope this is ok. after her death i dreamt about her every night of us just playing around in the arcade as that's what she liked to do. and today i still dream of her once or twice and we're still at that arcade.
  6. Thanks everyone reading the comments makes me feel that i'm not alone and this is all normal. it somewhat helps
  7. i do that every night, i make sure she feel safe.
  8. Hi everyone. just seeking some help, im a guy and i just got my GF pregnant, we're both really happy about there's really not much or a problem except that i feel sorry that for my girl puking all the time and feeling nauseated and just over all weak. im not sure what my role is here im just doing all that i can but still feels like i could be doing more.
  9. Hi everyone, hope everyone is safe during these times. to start off, i know i should see a doctor with this, but there's nothing open at the moment, 2 of the nearest clinics near me are closed and its a about a mile or two walk to the next one, with no car and no commuting services in my area due to COVID, im stuck. about a month ago i had a severe neck pain, it was so bad that i couldn't move my upper right body, even my right arm, moving it felt like hell. I was bed ridden for a bout a week and a half before it started to show signs of healing. shortly after i felt like my right arm was getting weaker by the day, at first i didn't think too much about it but its to the point where even lifting a toothbrush is really heavy for me. i can still lift it in certain angles. I am a very fit guy and i take health very seriously, i eat healthy i live healthy. i cant help but think that the neck pain and my arm weakening are connected.
  10. Thanks! yea i've since calmed down and thought about it. she sleeps in my house because she's not cool with her family, if she aint sleeping in my place she's sleeping at her female best friend's place. funny thing is she lives 3 blocks from me. anyways i know what to do now, i think im just gonna give some space/bounderies, i feel like a looser because im acting like a looser around her. Im the nice guy who finish last because i cant get a grip. but yeah today was a wake up call.
  11. Holy ! man you hit it, you're right, i think i am spoiling her too much, i just realized that im becoming the "nice guy who finish last" i've probably realised this a while ago but you're right. I know the smart thing is to move on from her and just find a better partner in life. I also just realise why now i feel like a looser, its because im acting like a looser with her. i cant say no!
  12. so i got this best friend who's a little promiscuous, she spends a lot of time with me in my house and she even sleeps here almost everyday sharing the same bed ( because i only got 1 bedroom and there's no other place for her to sleep in). she's usually open about her sexuality to me and so am i. its jsut that recently i feel a lot of sexual attraction towards her, I think its because i spend a lot of time with her and we're open about talking about sex. HOWEVER she made it clear to me that im in the "big brother" zone. which makes it hard for me to make a move. Sex isnt a problem for me, im 27 years old and im no longer as sexually active as i was, im not actively seeking it too. its just that i really want to break the ice with her physically somehow, this happened to me before and i just went for it, and the girl responded well. Its just times has change im more unsure about this now. hope anyone can help. i dont know what to do, i just have this urge to make a move, but at the same time i dont want to because im scared somehow. I'v asked myself if its more important for me to keep our friendship this way, and i realise the friendship isnt worth keeping. uh im writing this under stress feeling like a total looser. so this might not make sense or it even may sound horrible.
  13. Wow thanks to everyone, that was really encouraging! i think i just need to go by how i look and get a tape measure instead of relying on a scale. im still keeping at it, i just weigh in 140lb yesterday at 16.8% BF, but thanks to these afvice i no longer care about that, i'll just go by how i look now and maybe a tshirt or two ;)
  14. Alright hi everyone, just asking for some fitness advice to anyone who's and expert or maybe had the same experience or know what to do for years i've taken interest in fitness, but just about 8 months ago i decided to take my fitness seriously, and for that time i dedicated myself to a proper diet, and workout routine, it wasn't easy at all. but i am proud of what i have achieved. last December i was at 24% body fat at 50kg (skinny fat i know the sacle is weird) and 2 months ago i was at my leanest, I measured at 66kg at 12% body fat, had abs and all. im just 5'6 BTW. However the problem is that last month i took a week off from my diet as there was a week long event that i got involved in, and it would involve food, not participating in it would've been rude. anyhow. I did feel and gain weight after the event had my belly sag and all like Thor from Endgame. I took it as a challenge to loose that fat and look and feel good again. BUT NOW! according to several scales, the one on my gym particularly where its a high tech scale, and the other one at a near by clinic they all say i got fatter, took several tries and they all say the same thing. the weird part about it is, that i dont feel fat and saggy anymore, im not at the level that i was yet, but i feel the improvements and i see it too. i guess im just looking for some arbitrary number from a scale. but also i am concern for my health? as to where my body is storing all that fat, and if i am at risk of something i dont know yet? PS. i know this is such a shallow post, and believe me, i dont want this to seem like im just raving off my body i dont im quite conservative about it hence why im posting it here than , but i am genuinely concern if this is something that i should be worry about? Hope i dont come across as arrogant as i can see that it could be a thing.
  15. Ok so recently i've been spending a lot of time with my Girl Best friend, she sleeps in my house almost everyday because she dosent really have a home now (long story). anyways i've had some history with her i've known her for 10 years now, and that i think im starting to feel some sexual attraction towards her. cant quite put my feelings on it yet but im pretty sure i want to do it with her. Im not sexless by any means, its just that i cant make a move or i dont know how to make a move or even if i should make a move. i dont hang out with my friends anymore usually i hang out with my clients, business meetings and my gym buddies. and i sleep with a few woman every now and then but not since she moved in. she's quite sexual as well she's always open about her sex life its almost like 50% of our conversation. if this was some other girl i wouldve done something by now. recently we've been just cuddling. but she dosent thing too anything romantic about it i think. neither do i just something physical we share. im a little sleepy while writing this i know my English is all over the place sorry about that.
  16. Hi everyone, been a while since my last post. anyways its been a year or so since my last relationship ended terribly. in that year i've been busy just building my self up physically and financially. been hitting the gym 5 times a week and been improving my business for more financial gains. at the moment i've got everything that i could want and if i dont i could just buy it. However the reason why i did all the things i did was because i want to build a future for my family. but now i realise that its so hard to fall in love to even start a family. and im in the verge of giving up. in fact im just considering being single for the rest of my life, i know its a ridiculous notion. I cant seem to point it out but 2 - 3 years ago i could easily find love or sex through the girls i meet, i was less charismatic or even less hygienic than i am, now that i've cleaned up my act. But yet i cant seem to get myself to fall in love. i've dated plenty of girls since but i just cant find that one girl. Usually i meet girls online, as i do not have the time or energy to go out and party or mingle anymore, like the good old pickup days. sorry for sounding a little arrogant if i did, its not my intention i just wanted to be as transparent and honest as i can be, as my main thing is i cant point out whats wrong with me, i think im cursed or something.
  17. Thanks that actually makes sense. I am trying to improve myself after all to be able to attract the woman that i like. it is however getting really depressing at times.
  18. yeah women are interested, but for some reason i think i just give up way too soon. i dont really know, im putting some effort into it though. i am 27, yeah i think you're right about dating is getting harder when you try too hard.
  19. Good day everyone. Ok to start of, after being single for 7 months i've been focusing all my time and energy into building my business, which right now is somewhat thriving, which is more than i can say about it really, as well as physical fitness and just perusing self improvement, i've learned a new language a new instrument etc... recently i've started dating again, however i am not having any luck. whats weird is before i had money and a relatively good body i could really date like 3-4 girls in a week, not gonna hide it or not gonna say im proud if it, but when i was a lot younger and naive dating and hooking up was easier. but now I feel like im a completely different person i cant point out whats wrong with me. i just cant find anyone to match. i've tried online dating, going out to bars (no love in the club) i know. Im a lot successful than what i used to be. and I thought women would be more accepting and it would make it easier if i had a healthy lifestyle. but noooo its a lot harder now. hope someone can help, and dont take it the wrong way, i am ready to settle and i am back in dating because i want to find "the one" and not just to hook up, thought that would be great too.
  20. yeah i got a message from her mom, her dad likes me quite a lot (oddly enough) its her step mom who's adamantly against me and 3 of her brothers of course. and our relationship was a secret because of this. the message was to keep away and that they threaten me in some whay in that letter. actually we were only official for 3 weeks but we've been dating for 3 months.
  21. Hi guys, recentyl my GF broke up with me after only 3 weeks in the relationship, it wasnt anyone's fault, its just that she has a strict traditional parents, she's 19 and her parents doesnt like her snooping around with any boyfriends, so they locked her away from me, she's the youngest and the only girl in the family so its quite difficult to keep in touch, appart from my little sister whom i told once to sneak food into her classroom. the thing is its been 2 weeks now, and i dont know if i should persue this relationship. should i send her another letter perhaps, just to let her know that im still here. when we were together she was always caring and i could feel it was real, or maybe thats just because we were just 3 weeks in. part of me is also telling me to let go since it hasnt been that long and i should focus on other stuff.
  22. im going crazy over these emotions i haven't felt for a very long time, i think im in love with someone, no! i know im in love with this girl, Lucky for me the girl openly admits to like me too. But for legitimate reasons she cant be with me YET! at least thats what she said, reason being she just got out of an abusive 4 month relationship with a friend of mine whom i thought was cool. he was her 1st BF. all that sounds good and all we've been officially dating for 2 weeks now, but for me, who's experience how manipulative girls can be, and admittedly so that i too am a player of some sort, ive been single for 2 years since my last GF died and found out she was cheating on me. point is ive denseness myself to stupid lies about how girls or people in general they like or love you, but really they're just taking advantage. She hasnt given me a reason to worry but i am, im afraid of getting hurt again its why i stayed away from serious relationships. She's driving me nuts i cant sleep i cant eat properly, i constantly wait for her to call or chat with me or even visit me. which she does every day or so before she goes to work she brings me breakfast which calms me down and all a little bit. She's so sweet to me that its this is too good to be true. GOD i hate falling in love! also MOST IMPORTANTLY, i keep thinking she's doing something i woulndt like when she isnt replying to my message but is online, IF this was some other girl i wouldn't really care, or rather i would just brush it off as to thinking she has a life too and might be doing some other things unrelated to romance or sex or dating in general, WHICH IS PROBABLY THE CASE! but my mind just goes everywhere. I miss her I dont know what to do. I reply right away, its hard to play the game im turning into a douche
  23. Hi guys, just need your advice on this one. So ive been chatting and seeing this girl, and we seem to vibe really well, she's a artive/design student on a university nearby my place. I didnt really think of her romantically untill recently, when i decided to make a move and see if she bites, i secretly gave her a gift shes been nagging about for a Loooong time, a simple drawing book. i snuck it in her bag along with a simple motivational non romantic letter. Im a Concept Designer by profession so we really jived in that department too. ever since that day shes been really sweet, surprising me at my gym bringing me food at my house, etc. we stay up until 3am just talking about random stuff. despite all that i dont know if she likes me. She's still a student and her dad is really strict (Filipino family) and she really cant go out much, yet she makes the time to come by. im thinking of telling her that i do like her. not sure what her response would be, but im the kind of guy who dont want to waste any time, but at the same time i dont mind taking it slow.
  24. i suppose im still hoping she comes to her senses. but she's also the kind that probably would want to move on. I dont know, i herd from her Best friend, that the day i told her i had to say goodbye she came running down to her place and cried all night. might be pointless but im still hopeful.
  25. thanks, i suppose youre right, cuddling is sorta like a sexual thing or a romantic think for that. i dont have any regret on doing what i did, its just that i feel so alone, I got no one to talk to. yeah ive checked up on it and dr said i just need more excersice and amongst a few other things like eating healthy, im not fat im actually quite fit. I just stopped going to the gym in the past 3 months and my insomnia is coming back. nothing major really.
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