Even dating is confusing...

[Michael2]

I have been so-called "seeing" a past high school sweetheart for about a month and a half now. We have been spending time together, going out to dinner, watching movies during the week, attending baseball games, and of course we have been doing the deed on a regular basis.

 

I feel no pressure in regards to asking what we are, i.e boyfriend/girlfriend, fwb's. But I am kinda perplexed as to what she may be thinking. As a side note, neither of us have brought this up.

 

Will she start to freak out or even become resentful if I do not ask what type of relationship we are sharing? Should I keep my mouth shut and wait? I have been out of the game for a while, any advice is welcome.

 

ALSO:

 

The only thing that is bothering me is this. I will occasionally sign on to IM. Many times she has her away message up.

 

Today I was checking it and it said

 

"MISS U

 

"Getting the feeling that things might finally go my way....soon enough...."

 

 

"Because saying i love you has nothing to do with meaning it...and meaning i love you has nothing to do with saying it."

 

Now, since I am starting to develop feelings for this girl, I am a bit hesitant because I don't think the MISS YOU and love quote are directed towards me.

 

I know it would be a bad idea to IM her saying "miss you"??, but I dont want to fall for her if she is still hung up on her ex.

 

The last thing I want is to fall for this girl if she still has feelings for an ex. I remember when I first started seeing her, I asked her if she was still talking to her ex, and she said yeah kinda.

 

Any ideas here?

[Baby]

Uhh, yeh obviously talk to her.. If she hang's around you all the time and you still do the um Daily basic thing then you guy should be more than friend's unless your just friend's with benefits? It seems like she like's you more than that. Talk to her about it , she might open up if you sit down and have a serious talk with her.

 

 

What the other poster posted I agree too. But I think you should still talk to her. Don't let it keep going on and get yourself hurt even more if she don't want more than a friendship.

[Beec]

Do not ask her anything. Pay attention to her body language. It should tell you how she feels.

 

Send some body language of your own and stir up some feelings in her for you. Make her feel a little special and she'll want you, just turn that on and off.

[Michael2]

I am a hesistant to have the "talk" I do not want to scare her away, but I can understand where you are coming from BABY.

 

BEEC you got it man. I give, make her feel special, then pull away a little bit. Once she is fully in love with me, which is a huge maybe because you never know, then I can truly open up to her.

 

 

Ill just be real pissed if she is still hung up on her ex. But its a double edged sword, if I want to find out, then that in turns shows her I want something more committed.

[dannyz4]

If you guys are spending so much time together and sleeping together then you should totally ask her about the messages on her IM. Ask, but don't interrogate, if the "miss you" message is for you.... don't ask if it's for someone else, or that will make you seem paranoid... and if she says yes, then you know how she feels. Otherwise, the girl has brought some baggage with her that obviously is still quite fresh in her mind and she needs to sort out before you get hurt.

[Day_Walker]

If you are content with the situation you have with this girl then keep it that way. You have said that you dont want to fall for this girl, so dont. Spend time together and dont have expectations, just go with the flow. This relationship has a time limit and you dont know how long the moment will last so enjoy it. Dont make any confessions about feelings or ask her about the relationship, if she wants something more then she will mention it to you and if you want something more then go for it but other than that just have fun.