justkeepon Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 We have been together since August of 2011. We've had a great relationship, which mostly is a sex-life. As of lately, she has been making excuses for us not to get together.. such as she's been feeling ill, too busy, too tired from her job, etc... Do you have any idea of why she doesn't seem to want us to have sex together anymore? Link to comment
lavenderdove Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 Well, if as you say the relationship was 'mostly' a sex-life, then perhaps she wants to have a multi-dimensional relationship that isn't just about sex... i.e., she wants to whole life with you not just a sex life, and may feel used if all you do when you see each other is you try to have sex with her. Women don't like to feel as if the only thing a man wants from her is sex... it's really a turn off and makes them feel used, like you're a horny dog trying to hump their leg rather than a person who cares about her as a person... Link to comment
Donovan79 Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 Hmm... if she really was wanting more, though, she would have almost certainly been saying it, or at least hinting. Things like "Hey, you should take me out more", "do you like me for more than sex??", etc. etc. This sounds more like a case of her finding someone new. I'd be calm, friendly, and direct with her so that if it's true you don't drag it out. Link to comment
TheLoneliest Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 Sounds like something that happened to a buddy of mine.. his wife said the exact same thing, and she wasn't pregnant or sick. We found out later she was cheating on him for over 8 months with her co-worker. Link to comment
justkeepon Posted April 18, 2012 Author Share Posted April 18, 2012 Yeah, Chris. I think it's more of a case of your finding someone new. .. Her and I had fun, wild times together, and I know that she enjoyed that. So I really think that she is looking for someone new. No one ever gets tired of loving... heh...... Link to comment
l0velife Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 Well..if I've ever felt tired of it...its because I was bored with it. There was no foreplay...no teasing..touching...it was just intercourse. Which sounds weird but I hope you understand what I'm saying. I wanted more passion and time taken on me instead of just hitting and quitting basically. Try something new or teasing etc. You never know..or I would just flat out ask her. I got to the point where I told my guy what I wanted/needed more of. Link to comment
justkeepon Posted April 20, 2012 Author Share Posted April 20, 2012 Well..if I've ever felt tired of it...its because I was bored with it. There was no foreplay...no teasing..touching...it was just intercourse. Which sounds weird but I hope you understand what I'm saying. I wanted more passion and time taken on me instead of just hitting and quitting basically. Try something new or teasing etc. You never know..or I would just flat out ask her. I got to the point where I told my guy what I wanted/needed more of. Ah.. I see. Link to comment
Silverbirch Posted April 20, 2012 Share Posted April 20, 2012 She might be tired, busy, whatever. The only way you can know is to talk with her - in a way where she won't feel nagged at about it. Link to comment
Realitynut Posted April 21, 2012 Share Posted April 21, 2012 When I quit wanting to 'make love', it's cuz I wasn't 'in love' anymore!!! Link to comment
justkeepon Posted April 22, 2012 Author Share Posted April 22, 2012 Update: We got together again, yesterday. Things are going well. Whew hew! Link to comment
Donovan79 Posted April 22, 2012 Share Posted April 22, 2012 Update: We got together again, yesterday. Things are going well. Whew hew! What happened, man? You think you can trust her? Link to comment
justkeepon Posted April 23, 2012 Author Share Posted April 23, 2012 Heh... now that I think about it, I think I can't trust her... I think she might be seeing another man. Link to comment
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