Healing After Break question

[guy40az]

I was just wondering about a couple of things about how long you were together and how long it took you to get over it.

 

 

1 how long were you together?

 

2 how long was it before you were over it?

[LostWithoutYou]

1. 3 years

 

2. Still learning to let go.

[light bulb]

1. 7 years

 

2. First few months were very rough. This last one has been much better. Every now and then I still get upset though.

[Vert]

1. 2 years

 

2. Don't know yet... it's been 2 months (5 weeks NC). I can feel the pain just going numb, but occasionally I think about her when I get lonely or bored. I think not knowing what she's up to has been a definite help.

[guy40az]

1) I was with her for 11 years.

 

2) brokup for 7 months ago have good and bad days.

[goddess23]

9 month relationship and its been about 3 weeks and its very tough...if i think about it, i just get emotional. but honestly you never get over that person. its just about time healing the wounds, and the scar is there it just doesnt hurt anymore.

 

my first love was someone i was with everyday for 10 yrs (however we never went out, we were like 14 when he moved)...and i still think about him and sometimes thinking about it still hurts, but its not as hard.

[patheticgirl]

(1) 10 years

 

(2) Cannot get over it at all. I wake up at nights and think about him and our time together. I am not sure if I will ever be the same again.

[sm]

1. Close for 18 months and going out for 9.

 

2. It's been less than a wee and I'm finding it hard.

 

The girl I was seeing before was almost 3 months and I still think of her. We've been in touch recently though and we're now good friends. Took me a few months to get over the split.

[idontgetit]

9 years

 

on month 2.5 of split, week 6 of complete nc. still hurts but now a dull ache

[CC]

been with my ex for 7 years.

 

its been 8 months now and it doesn't hurt as much anymore. i still get lonely and upset but i'm can feel myself growing and becoming a better person. i am no longer depending on someone else for my happiness.

[icme]

1. a year

 

2. now been 7 weeks. zero contact. have now reached the stage where i can convince outsiders that i'm happy and ok (90% of the time - the rest of the time i lapse and look like misery itself). haven't yet reached the stage of actually feeling happy and ok for anything other than fleeting moments. the rest is dull ache/pretty down.

 

got to get better though..

[hockeyboy]

i was with a girl for 4 years..it took 8 months to completely heal

 

now i was with the next girl for a year and am just starting to heal...but 2 days of NC has already gone a long way...2 months will make it that much better.

[Clarabelle]

1. 6 years.

2. almost 6 months. A roller coaster. But now I hope with stricter NC (more vigilance on my part) and a legal separation agreement to get off that roller coaster.

[Pebek]

1. I was with her for 4 1/2 years.

 

2. Broken up for over 6 months. I'm still learning to let her go. Definitely not over her. There are days the pain grabs me by the throat. 100% NC. Haven't seen her since March.

[lunatic]

I was with my ex almost five years.

 

We broke up a year ago and with this one I am healed up completely.

 

I am dealing with another that I was with that is still sore with me after all these years. Just another reason to never hop into a rebound relationship because eventually you have to deal with the pain.

 

Sucks!

[lost_puppy]

Together for 2.5 years.

 

It's just been 3 weeks, so it still hurts a lot.