GreenGirl Posted November 8, 2011 Share Posted November 8, 2011 Doug and I have been dating for three years and recently moved to a new town together. Everything seemed to be going well; we both got good jobs, talked about marriage, and made friends quickly--though he made more friends than I did. In fact, I felt pretty lonely at times having only my boyfriend to confide in. That was until I met this wonderful guy at work, Brad. He and I had so much in common and got along extremely well. We would spend hours talking and making each other laugh. Because of my overwhelming attraction to him, I never mentioned I was in a relationship with someone. This friendship with Brad soon turned into a physical relationship, and now one that nearly everyone at work knows about. More than that, though, is the fact that Brad is not only one of my best friends but a truly wonderful guy who would like to be in a serious relationship with me. I want so badly to tell him that I'm with someone else, but I would hate to ruin our friendship and what we have together. I know I have to end it, though, before Doug finds out. I feel awful what I'm doing to both of them and can't imagine what would happen if they both found out. I feel that I have two great guys in my life and I'm being a horrible person for stringing them both along. My few girlfriends who know about it tell me I'm being selfish. I know I am, and I want to stop. I need to figure out a way to fix what has already been done. Has anyone been a situation like this before? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! (Advice only, please. No need to tell me what I bad person I am. Believe me, whatever bad things you're thinking of me, I already think them of myself. I beat myself up about this constantly and realize it's wrong. What I'm looking for is some sound advice on what actions to take from here.) Link to comment
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