IsItTimeToGoOn Posted October 19, 2011 Share Posted October 19, 2011 I have been in a relationship with my Fiancee for over 7 years now. About 4 months ago we got engaged. Everything seemed fine until we started having issues about everything. I guess we started fighting because we were both looking at the fine print in marriage and started to have some pause. We fought about choosing out the engagement ring to every other little thing. Well about 2 weeks ago she wanted her space then she broke up with me and said she did not love me anymore. She said she loves me but does not feel like shes in love with me. It seems that she had met this new guy online and he was giving her the attention that I was not able to give her. A couple of things...I was never the affectionate type and we had a lot of communication issues. Prior to this she was happy in our relationship. I was able to take care of her. We travelled a lot and when we are away from home everything seemed just wonderful. We communicated with each other, enjoyed each others company and had fun. If you look at her facebook it is filled with tons of happy moments and memories within the past 7 years. Now all of a sudden she feels that she does not feel the same way. I suspect that it is because there is this new guy in her life. She met this guy online and she has never met or spoken to him. This guy is original from my city but right now he is away at grad school 1500 hundred miles away. They currently communicate via the AOL instant messenger. I know that this guy is able to offer her everything that I am lacking such as making her feel special and such but I am willing to do those things for her now. When she broke up with me a few days ago it seems like she blaming me that I was not able to provide these needs for her. I told her that I can change and that I would do anything to have her in my life. She insisted she wanted to be apart. I asked if we can be friends and she agreed. That night we spoke and it appeared the she left the door open for our relationship. I told her that I had hope that one day we will be together and she stated that she never closed the door to that. She even made a couple of references to the fact that if we got back together or if I was to be with someone new that this is the way I should show them affection and such. Recently, when we spoke I tried to incorporate myself in her life and she just gets annoyed. I’m not sure what to do? Should I just give her space and move on? Everyone tells me that if I give her space she will one day realize that she loves me and come back but I’m afraid of losing her. We have not told our families that we have broken the engagement and we have agreed to tell them in about 2 months when she is done with this semester. She is under an extreme about of stress from school and I am not sure if this is part of the reason. I’m so confused and lost I don’t know what to do. I tried changing and tried showing her but she said it’s too much too fast. She says I should do it slowly and gradually otherwise I would push her away. I’m not sure what she wants anymore. Please help. Link to comment
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