Want to win her back but she doesn't believe I can change...

[tryingsohard]

My girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me over 2 months ago. Her main reasons for doing so were because during our relationship I displayed a lot of emotional abuse towards her. Even though I believe she played a part in that, that isn't the issue now. I really want her back. For 2 months now, I have done a complete turnaround in my attitude towards her. I treat her like a queen. Call her, compliment her, do such sweet things for her, and respect her to the fullest. While I am being the perfect guy, she puts me down, and our future together. Every once in a while on the phone she tells me she doesn't think I can ever change my ways. She believes I will always be the mean guy she believes I always was. I think she just is afraid of giving me a second chance because she doesn't want to get hurt. A few weeks ago she said, "If I gave you another chance, you'd just be nice for 2 weeks, and then start being mean again...people like you don't change." But I love this girl so much, and I know if I can, I will marry her one day. She just doesn't believe I am for real, that I love her and will never hurt her, even though I have been smiling during the hurt she has been putting me through! I guess what I want to know is how can I show her I have changed? I have been so nice but it seems to backfire. Is it a matter of time? It's really hard to convice her. She cannot forget about my stupid mistakes. What can I do?

[Man_Of_Purpose]

Re-develop yourself (take what she said about you in wisdom), apply what you need, and forsake what isn't true. Live the new you before her (and watch what happens).

 

Good Luck,

MOP

[wandering_mind]

i don't think your girlfriend is stupid for not taking you back. i'm sure that when the two of you first got together, you showered her with compliments and gifts. you've lost her trust and you demeaned her at the same time. give up, you don't deserve her.