Anal sex question for the ladies?

[sweetpea03]

The thing is, I'm not particularly into it, and they asked me to do it. All you know for sure is that you don't like it. Some people like different things.

 

Some women, because of porn and other influences, will try certain things that are not pleasurable because they think they should. Just like women wear high heels, it's not comfortable/not exactly enjoyable, but many do it for attention or a specific look.

[greywolf]

She cried because it HURTS. She probably laughed too because she was uncomfortable or something.

 

Anal sex is one sided, the guy can get pleasure, but the woman will not. The vagina is meant for sex, it has natural lubrication, but the anus is not meant to have a penis in it. Anal sex is excruciatingly painful. Probably the worst pain a woman will ever feel in her life. If a guy asked me to do anal, I'd turn the question around and ask if I could stick a dildo in his ass. I highly doubt he'd want it. Anal sex can stretch the sphincter muscle and that cannot be repaired. That's a risk you take when doing this. I cannot see how this would be pleasurable for either person. If you love someone, why put them through so much pain??

 

Anal sex doesn't have to be one-sided. I enjoy it.

 

I think they say they "enjoy" it because they know it pleases their man, but you cannot get away from the pain. Even when going slow and trying to use a LOT of lubrication, it's just not meant to have a penis inside. Imagine being on the receiving end, would you like it?

 

It's fine to not like anal sex, but don't assume that all women are like you.

[DN]

Some women, because of porn and other influences, will try certain things that are not pleasurable because they think they should. Just like women wear high heels, it's not comfortable/not exactly enjoyable, but many do it for attention or a specific look.

There have been women on here who have said they enjoy it and achieve an orgasm. It may not be for everyone but it isn't wise to make a general rule that all women don't like it.

[Brownstone322]

She cried because it HURTS. She probably laughed too because she was uncomfortable or something.

 

Anal sex is one sided, the guy can get pleasure, but the woman will not. The vagina is meant for sex, it has natural lubrication, but the anus is not meant to have a penis in it. Anal sex is excruciatingly painful. Probably the worst pain a woman will ever feel in her life. If a guy asked me to do anal, I'd turn the question around and ask if I could stick a dildo in his ass. I highly doubt he'd want it. Anal sex can stretch the sphincter muscle and that cannot be repaired. That's a risk you take when doing this. I cannot see how this would be pleasurable for either person. If you love someone, why put them through so much pain??

You're speaking for all women here? And, by extension, apparently other women I know can't think for themselves, and you speak for them too? I wanna get all that straight.

[Edmund Exley]

Some women, because of porn and other influences, will try certain things that are not pleasurable because they think they should. Just like women wear high heels, it's not comfortable/not exactly enjoyable, but many do it for attention or a specific look.

 

My fiancee and I tried it. She loves it, can orgasm from it, and I'm like "meh". We've done it a few times and she asks me when were going to do it again all the time. When she told her sister and her best friend we tried it and she enjoyed it, they both said they enjoy it too. So I think its naive to say women just accept an unpleasuarable act because they feel they should or have too, especially when you appearantly haven't even tried it. I did it a few times with an ex before and she enjoyed it too.

[kenshinkitten]

After ready all the feedback...wow some interesting things.

 

I personally didn't like anal at all, had some bad experiences with it and just wrote it off. My boyfriend is SUPER into it, so I gave it another try. Wow...I really like it. It's really hot that it turns him on so much, which turns me on and so we both have a good time. I am more than willing to do it fir him and for me

 

I know a lot of girls who don't like it and it's probably true that more women don't like it than do like it. What is annoying is when the boyfriend or significant other pressures and pressures until they give in. So they have a bad first experience.

 

I enjoy it, like it, love it.

[BellaStranger]

I also think it's unfair to dismiss other womens opinions as being fake just because you don't personally enjoy it! I would almost say it's the other way round- it must be pleasurable or women wouldn't do it- I just don't want to try it, and I probably wouldn't enjoy it because I wouldn't want to do it!

 

Also, I wear heels because I love wearing heels. Yes, they are uncomfortable sometimes but the way they make me feel when I'm wearing them more than makes up for it!! I don't like to see a picture painted where women are all feeble minded, led purely by what other think about them, to the point of doing things that make them unhappy in order to save face. That's not the case.

[regular joe]

After ready all the feedback...wow some interesting things.

 

I personally didn't like anal at all, had some bad experiences with it and just wrote it off. My boyfriend is SUPER into it, so I gave it another try. Wow...I really like it. It's really hot that it turns him on so much, which turns me on and so we both have a good time. I am more than willing to do it fir him and for me

 

I know a lot of girls who don't like it and it's probably true that more women don't like it than do like it. What is annoying is when the boyfriend or significant other pressures and pressures until they give in. So they have a bad first experience.

 

I enjoy it, like it, love it.

 

I had an ex and she enjoyed anal sex. It wasn't an everyday kind of thing. She liked to have it and would use her vibrator on herself when we would do it and have superintense orgasms from doing that way.

[Cheetarah]

I don't like it, at all, for psychological and physical reasons. It feels submissive and it feels awkward. Although I know several women who absolutely love it(their reasons being not really physical, but psychological - they, too, consider it a submissive act and that is the exact reason they like it, plus it turns them on to see their boyfriends so aroused).

 

And whoever said that they turn around and ask the guy if she can put a dildo in their ass - Well, actually most men I know would say yes to that. Not sure what your point was. It's a very pleasurable act for a lot of people.

[Scott12]

And whoever said that they turn around and ask the guy if she can put a dildo in their ass - Well, actually most men I know would say yes to that. Not sure what your point was. It's a very pleasurable act for a lot of people.

 

Not to mention that there is a legion of gay men out there who apparently enjoy anal sex. And chalk me up as one of the guys who said yes.

[Cognitive_Canine]

I want to try it. My boyfriend has no interest though.

[randomgirl59]

I don't like it, at all, for psychological and physical reasons. It feels submissive and it feels awkward. Although I know several women who absolutely love it(their reasons being not really physical, but psychological - they, too, consider it a submissive act and that is the exact reason they like it, plus it turns them on to see their boyfriends so aroused).

 

That's an interesting way of looking at it. Wouldn't vaginal sex be regarded as submissive too then, because it also involves penetration? or is it more because of the position?

 

Anyway, I wouldn't do it. Just dont see how it would be pleasurable. I mean, I know men have a prostate which would make it feel good, but what do women have? maybe I need to brush up on my anatomy. I probably knew at one point but forgot. Either way though, there are still women who enjoy it, just dont expect all of them to want it.

 

Another reason I wouldn't do it is because I dont like my butt, so I dont want the focus to be on there lol

[Cheetarah]

I don't think it's so much the penetrative act that is submissive or even the position...At least, in my opinion. Vaginal sex is pleasurable in all ways. Doing things to my partner's body that he enjoys is pleasurable, even if I am not receiving physical pleasure from it, I am psychologically/emotionally/mentally. Anal, though...It doesn't do anything for me in any which way, other than hurt and feel very uncomfortable. There's no pleasure aspect, anywhere. I actually felt very violated when I did it, even though it was not against my will. It made me feel like I was submitting myself to them for their pleasure at my expense(pain, uncomfortableness, etc).

 

But I certainly know it doesn't have to hurt, but the act alone tenses me up so much I know I could never relax and try it again. I don't want to. Relaxation is such a key, key part of anal.

 

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[kittyqwhiskers]

it's very intimate not casual at all gentle. lots of lube, slow initial probe w finger then plug work up to larger.

it's also gets me really hot especially with a plug or dildo or finger in the holes not used so all are filled and a vibrator on my clit. always w a condom