easyguy Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 Ladies, You (single) and a guy friend (also single) of yours and friends are hanging out at a bar and you buy a drink for him (you and your friends are also drinking, but are paying the tab for the night). He tells you that he will return the favor with coffee on another day, just he and you, and you say yes to the offer. Do you assume it's a date? Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 If I like him, yes. If I just want to be friends but I feel like he likes me, I tell myself it's just as friends but I have the awkward feeling/knowing that it's not. If I feel like he doesn't fancy me at all, it's just coffee. Link to comment
Cheeks18 Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 I wouldn't assume it to be anything, just go and have fun and see where it goes...no need to put a title on it. Link to comment
easyguy Posted June 23, 2010 Author Share Posted June 23, 2010 If I like him, yes. If I just want to be friends but I feel like he likes me, I tell myself it's just as friends but I have the awkward feeling/knowing that it's not. If I feel like he doesn't fancy me at all, it's just coffee. Yeah, I mean, I can't tell if she just likes me as a friend or is open to more. I'll initiate some physical contact and see how she reacts. Link to comment
Perfect Dark Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 You seem to be on the re-bound alot. Don't assume anything; it always ends in fail. Link to comment
hrtlsngl7 Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 Ladies, You (single) and a guy friend (also single) of yours and friends are hanging out at a bar and you buy a drink for him (you and your friends are also drinking, but are paying the tab for the night). He tells you that he will return the favor with coffee on another day, just he and you, and you say yes to the offer. Do you assume it's a date? I call it a mini-date or a pre-date. He's wants to get to know you better before a real date. Try b4 you buy. I do these to play 20 questions with a girl 2 figure out whether to run away or not start a relationship. Link to comment
IphigeniaSaysHi Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 I would, yes, unless we had gone on casual meet ups like this before. Link to comment
wtran Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 question what is a date to you? Link to comment
easyguy Posted June 23, 2010 Author Share Posted June 23, 2010 You see to be on the re-bound alot. The past two girls I dated, it was only for a few weeks and pretty casual. I wouldn't say I'm on the rebound, just dating around. Nothing has been serious since the gal I was involved with last Fall/Winter. This girl knows I like her, but I'm FINE with just hanging as friends. Link to comment
Perfect Dark Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 The past two girls I dated, it was only for a few weeks and pretty casual. I wouldn't say I'm on the rebound, just dating around. Nothing has been serious since the gal I was involved with last Fall/Winter. This girl knows I like her, but I'm FINE with just hanging as friends. That's cool, keeping it casual means it's not too intense! Enjoy! Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 Personally, I dont see it as a date, since that is just so formal, what the guy is doing is just returning the favor. Obviously he is trying to spend time with the girl but in a more casual manner. Link to comment
easyguy Posted June 23, 2010 Author Share Posted June 23, 2010 Okay, I'm not sweating it. Whatever. Just going to go with the flow, like always. Link to comment
Celestialagape54 Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 I don't assume anything as one of the posters said but if I like the guy then I would be *hoping* it was a date. In fact if I really liked the guy I would ask him if it was a date... Link to comment
pinkelephant Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 No, I wouldn't consider it a date. Link to comment
doiiiieeezie Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 No, It's a nice gesture... nothing more. Link to comment
Deejmonster Posted June 24, 2010 Share Posted June 24, 2010 if you dont put a label on it.. it can be anything.. but coming from a guy.. and the scene at a bar.. i could say he is thinking its a date.. a girl buying a drink for a guy at a bar is like paying him a compliment.. he thinks you find him interesting in one way or another.. so now he makes a move.. because he also probably finds you attractive and a bit interesting.. so he wants to see where it will go.. he might not say to you that its a date but i bet all his buddies think its one.. men brag.. Link to comment
Brigadoon Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 Ladies, You (single) and a guy friend (also single) of yours and friends are hanging out at a bar and you buy a drink for him (you and your friends are also drinking, but are paying the tab for the night). He tells you that he will return the favor with coffee on another day, just he and you, and you say yes to the offer. Do you assume it's a date? I wouldn't assume it was a date but if I was into you then I'd be hoping lol Link to comment
easyguy Posted June 25, 2010 Author Share Posted June 25, 2010 I gave it some thought and am not approaching it as a date. Not dating this soon after dating the last girl. Just hanging as friends here. Link to comment
Brigadoon Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 I gave it some thought and am not approaching it as a date. Not dating this soon after dating the last girl. Just hanging as friends here. Hopefully it'll go well because from what you posted it does sound like she might be open to it going somewhere... Link to comment
easyguy Posted June 26, 2010 Author Share Posted June 26, 2010 A little follow up - We had coffee this afternoon, basically chilled and talked a lot. A 3-hour hang. Walked around the area and did some sight-seeing. Just going to have to hang with her on a regular basis to see what vibe develops. Not going to be heartbroken, but it's worth seeing where it goes. Link to comment
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