fuddiduddy Posted June 2, 2010 Share Posted June 2, 2010 Our 9-month relationship was going so, so well. I asked him sometime in February how we were doing as a couple, not because I suspected anything was wrong (quite the contrary). I just didn't want to overlook anything and wanted his input to take "inventory" of our relationship. I asked him if the relationship was meeting his needs. If there was anything he felt I should work on. If there's anything we should think about doing differently as a couple. If he was happy. In a nutshell, he felt everything was perfect and he couldnt imagine being with anyone else. Kool. Just four days later, he learns he must take precription medicines for a health issue. He has a real phobia of medication of any kind, so this sent him into a bizarre tailspin. He started acting cold and distant towards me. Eventually, he broke off the relationship because, as he put it, he's "now in a different place." I go into NIC with him, and we (supposedly) were amicable and, in his mind, still "friends." After two wks of that, he resumes acting cold and annoyed with me without any discernible reason (I never hounded him or anything..--really just gave him a lot of space). He just starting acting like a real a** hole, just because. Long story short, because of other details I'll omit here, it began to dawn on me that he never really "loved" me the way I thought and was always told. I accused him of this and told him he is an entirely different person than the person I had loved so much. He literally seemed to despise my loving kindness and concern for his health. He relished everyone else's support such as his best friend's, other friends' and family's. I was the ONLY casualty of his ordeal despite often assuring him I'd ALWAYS be there for him no matter what. And I meant it. FINALLY, THE POINT: After 3 months of being broken up from a great, healthy and exciting relationship ( I just feel that THERE WASN'T ANYTHING TO LEARN, other than people can change their heart at the blink of an eye despite your best intentions and no matter what you do. Given the above, am I right? Feedback? Link to comment
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