paulocoleho Posted May 18, 2010 Share Posted May 18, 2010 Hello All, First time poster long time lurker. I have been dating my girlfriend for over a year, and the relationship is in general quite great. We get along very well, we are extremely comfortable with each other, we sometimes fight but we get around it. However, I cannot help but feel that a conversation with her can be.... very dull at times. I am not sure why in the past year I never noticed this. I have been extremely busy with school and work during the year, and now I just have work, and have been taking to her more. I left the city for a few weeks due to work, and well, lately, I have begun to slightly dread skyping her in the evening, as I really just am running out of material. I do not want to seem like I am saying "oh so interesting and she is boring", it is more like there is a lack of engaging conversations. I try hard to engage her. I try to ask open ended things to engage her into talking about something... anything. I was even willing to talk about nail polish colours for some time as I saw she wanted to buy some new ones and was debating colours! Most of the conversation goes like, for example, Q: How was your day A: Oh boring/ nothing interesting/ didn't do much I essentially have to pry to get something: "how was class/work, what did you do in class/work, how was X, how was Y, then what", and to each I get a very short answer. I try and engage in her in various topics, maybe something in the news or the other, but rarely do I get a conversation. I have to force myself to do the talking to fill in the silence. Even then, I try and bring her in, with a "what do you think" etc. She says she loves listening to me talk, but I mean, I am getting really tired of these one-way talks. Where it is me talking and her nodding or maybe something slightly more substantive once in a while. Once in a while we have a good and actually engaging conversation, but it jsut seems to be getting rarer. I really don't know what to do, I love the relationship, but I really want an engaging conversation once in a while. Help! Link to comment
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