X had breast implant surgery Thurday

[Live-N-Learn]

I am the dumpee. My X and I never fought or had an argument for 6 months. But she dumped me because I was not as committed to her as she was to me. I had been divorced for a couple of years but was kinda moving slowly.

 

I really cared about her and she really cared about me. We truthfully connected on more levels that any girl I have ever been with. She told me the same thing. We have been split up for 8 weeks. first 30 days was really ugly because I did not know why she broke up with me, and she was making up some bull * * * * story. I think she was seeing another guy. Don't know for sure.

 

I then found this site and for the next 4 weeks put my pants back on and was able to re-establish the connection we had. I even told her i was checking out on her on her birthday because we could not be friend. We were in two different places. And that if she decided she wanted to work on the relationship we could talk about it. But please do not contact me for any other reason. It was a really good talk. We decided to celebrate her birthday and that would be it. Might as well go out on a high note.

 

Well it was a high note I guess. We danced all night and ended up back at my place. You know the rest of the story. Anyways, that was 10 days ago and I went NC. Neither of us has tried contacting eachother..

 

Here is my question. She had breast implants put in on Thursday. I know she is really hurting and I was on facebook today and saw her but neither of us initiated a chat. She updated her status to "Dreading going to work Tuesday. each day is not getting easier yet" What she means the implants are hurting and she bruised and sore.

 

I went with her on all her pre-surgery appointments so we have had a lot of discussions about what it would be like afterwards. Am I being a jerk since we ended on good terms, not breaking my 10 days of NC to post on her wall I hope you feel better?

 

Would that show weakness? Or will she think I just don't care? I really do want her back if she wants to come back.

[lavenderdove]

What, you want to nurse her back to health and escort her around til she feels well enough to try out those new breasts on another guy?

 

No, if she broke up with you, you don't owe her anything. You made your terms clear, that if she wants to come back to call you, otherwise you're done. And she has your number and can call you if she really wants to see you.

[jenmar]

I agree, she didn't care when she ended the relationship, why try to nurse her and be there for you when she is the one that walked out. When she is all better, what then?

 

Nothing.

 

Stick to your guns, she will call if she wants, if not you know that she is fine dealing with her implant recovery on her own.

[agent1607307371]

God, he's not saying he wants to nurse her, he's just asking if it would be bad for his NC to take a moment and wish her a speedy recovery.

 

 

I even told her i was checking out on her on her birthday because we could not be friend. We were in two different places. And that if she decided she wanted to work on the relationship we could talk about it. But please do not contact me for any other reason.

 

OP, I would not contact her. Is she your friend on FB, because if so I would take her off and stop checking her updates. If only for the fact that after saying this, contacting her might have a sense of game playing to it.

 

You ended the relationship on a good note. Try to hold that fact, not everyone gets it.