Sex without love nor passion???

[yeawutever]

So what's it like having sex with someone attrative or ''friends with benefit'' type of stuff or simply ''one night stands'' rather than the typical long term committed relationship and doing it only with your partner.

 

Not that I'm interest as I don't agree with that form of lifestyle but what's that like, doing it without being in love nor having passion. Just that when I used to do with b/f long time ago, I was in love.. But what about those people not in committed relationship and they just do it for the thrill. If you're one of those types of people, what is going on in your mind??? Does it feels like self exploration???

[Cognitive_Canine]

I think you can definitly have passion with friends with benefits without love.

[yeawutever]

I guess so but you're not in love with them. What I meant is what it's like being them, those that are just into the sex without any type of emotional attachment whatsoever, like in committed relationships..

[pivotal]

I tried it out of convenience and physical necessity with a neighbor once. The situation continued intermittently for about a month. However, In the end it just felt empty to me, so I ended it.

 

People are human, they need affection and this does go on regularly in society, logically that's why I gave it a go. It also adds to your sexual repertoire.

 

In retrospect, I just wanted to feel the love and affection of an ex.

[yeawutever]

It also adds to your sexual repertoire.

Well yea I guess it's true in way. I does increases your performance, you gain more experience from it and adds up your sexual encounter number of course.

It must sometimes be a bit tedious when you're just one who only had one experience only and at times in your imagination you wished to explore what's more out there....

[hexaemeron]

I literally burn with energy and passion in these kinds of situations. I find them so exciting! But then, I had a secret FWB relationship from the age of 11 to 18 with another boy, so I guess I got to be an adrenaline junkie.

[Haven]

I've done it before. It's not for a thrill or anything... it's just fun, and it feels good. I can't do it with anyone I'm not attracted to (obviously) or that I don't have some kind of chemistry with. It's just having a good experience... I guess you could say self-exploration. Sort of seeing what each different person is like, finding out exactly what I like and am attracted to, etc.

 

Though honestly, I tend to get emotionally attached to guys so I try not to do this too much. But I have had dates/relationships that come out of hookups, so I don't really know. I just try to have fun. Who knows when tomorrow won't come, y'know?

[diabolik]

The average man and the average woman are going to see this very differently.

 

If the average man cared so much about love instead of lust when it comes to sex, prostitution wouldn't be such a huge business and porn movie plotlines would more closely resemble romance novels.

 

That's not to say an emotional connection to your partner is irrelevant, but it isn't all that important.

[drewciouS281]

thier fun if your just tryin to live life and explore but they get boring real fast and not to mention dangerous. With FWB, one of them always gets emotionally attached so its rare to find that case and if you do, its only fun for a while. Nothing is better then a good, healthly solid relationship but its hard to find someone great now days. Alot of damaged goods.

[Jd1983]

I've done it in the past. It was merely just for the satisfaction, no stings attached. I was attracted to him, therefore it wasn't hard for me to get turned on.

[yeawutever]

Nothing is better then a good, healthly solid relationship but its hard to find someone great now days. Alot of damaged goods.

I know but I don't feel like starting all over again right away if I were to break up with my LD boyfriend. It does takes energy and time to actually get to know someone and then you're lucky if that person is the right one that never cheated on you nor used you. Then of course comes trust and once it's broken, you're altered for good when it comes to the next future relationship...

So yes many damaged goods thus why if there was a way of avoiding getting cheated on or used, it would be kool. In the end, you just have to risk it and just hope it doesn't happen....

[hers]

I've done these relationships before. A few different people at different times of my life. It's not thrilling, it's just sex. For me it's just a means to get off. I don't need emotion to do that.

 

I will say though that if I don't like the person as a person or think that they're an idiot or something, the sex will be awful. So I do have to like them as a person but I don't need to be emotionally connected to them. I'm just not wired that way.

[n83]

I have had these types of relationships but only with a few guy friends..

 

Verrrrry looking guys, but had no desire to date or be in a relationship with any of them, so it was fine.. and a lot of fun Ahhh those were the days ...

[Mia_of_Doom]

Sex isn't emotional to me, so it feels the same as in a relationship. It feels like... sex.

 

The tension and passion leading up to is usually a lot more exciting though.

[hers]

I just had a one night stand tonight. First one I've had in quite a long time. The sex was good, it was fun, it got awkward at the end with the goodbyes but I left and who knows if I'll ever hear from him again. Whatever.

[Speranza]

I've done it in the past. It was merely just for the satisfaction, no stings attached. I was attracted to him, therefore it wasn't hard for me to get turned on.

 

Ah - you're WASPS?

[sugarpiehoney]

So far so good. My FWB is a guy a dated in high school so it isn't like we were strangers. There is attraction there but neither one of us wants a relationship just some one to hang out with from time to time and have incredible sex.