ajaxajax Posted June 24, 2009 Share Posted June 24, 2009 I have a Q regarding approaching some women I came accross a lady working by herself in a jewellery store. I appeared cool, calm and collected and had a reasonable conversation with her about the store (even said "so everything in the store's Italian, even you right? - she said, "yeah (giggle)"). But, from the start, she appeared friendly but was not speaking too much. So, I took that she was giving a "thanks, but no thanks" in advance. So, I shook her hand, exchanged names and then went on our separate ways. Was I right to have moved on or could I have done more in a case like this? Thanks Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted June 24, 2009 Share Posted June 24, 2009 Your gut told you to move on so I think that you should follow your gut. Link to comment
ajaxajax Posted June 24, 2009 Author Share Posted June 24, 2009 You're right...besides, if you start the conversation and the woman doesn't really try to match your pace, you feel like it's harder to keep up the conversation, right? Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted June 24, 2009 Share Posted June 24, 2009 She may not have said anything much more, but, it really depends on her body language. Did she change her stance? Such as, I assume there was a counter top between you and her seeing as how she was working. If she leaned against it or tilted her head or put her hand on either her hip or hair, she probably was interested. Link to comment
ajaxajax Posted June 24, 2009 Author Share Posted June 24, 2009 Well, she didn't do any of these. She was actually surprised that I offered to shake her hand. But that's all Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted June 24, 2009 Share Posted June 24, 2009 Sounds like you did well in following your gut then. If a girl likes you, she'll make some effort to let you know that she is interesting. We often do it more subtly though. That is, unless she was completely inexperienced. Those are the scary ones, the ones that give you no indication. Best to avoid them anyway. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted June 24, 2009 Share Posted June 24, 2009 It sounds like you did really well. So, did you check out her hand? Link to comment
ajaxajax Posted June 24, 2009 Author Share Posted June 24, 2009 Since she didn't really do much, I just shook her hand. She gave me a gentle grip but that was it...nothing else Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted June 24, 2009 Share Posted June 24, 2009 Oh, I meant for a wedding or engagement ring. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted June 24, 2009 Share Posted June 24, 2009 She may not have said anything much more, but, it really depends on her body language. Did she change her stance? Such as, I assume there was a counter top between you and her seeing as how she was working. If she leaned against it or tilted her head or put her hand on either her hip or hair, she probably was interested. I wouldn't exactly base interest level on those signs...people do stuff like that in general no matter who is standing near them. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted June 24, 2009 Share Posted June 24, 2009 I have no idea. I wasn't there to see. But you don't really have anything to lose by just asking. Now you'll probably wonder "what if". Link to comment
ghost69 Posted June 24, 2009 Share Posted June 24, 2009 you didn't say or do much either it sounds. not much for her to be all into a conversation to start. Link to comment
pinkelephant Posted June 24, 2009 Share Posted June 24, 2009 I wouldn't exactly base interest level on those signs...people do stuff like that in general no matter who is standing near them. agree with this. i tilt my head all the time. esp when i'm bored. oh, esp when i'm bored. lol from that OP, it's really hard to tell. i think you should just go for it next time and see how it goes. i mean, what's the worst that could happen? she says no? lol you can come and cry on here. we'll comfort you. Link to comment
ajaxajax Posted June 24, 2009 Author Share Posted June 24, 2009 Well, I said hello. I asked some questions about the store. But, judging by how she didn't "ease in", it was hard for me to keep going and easier for me to be hesitant. No "what if's" in this...if she's not interested, so what? Link to comment
tastytoothpaste Posted June 24, 2009 Share Posted June 24, 2009 Let me just say props for approaching her!! I know that must've been hard to do. And cute line, by the way haha Yeah I think you did the right thing. I mean I wasn't there to see the conversation, so it's hard to tell. But if you felt like she wasn't interested, she probably wasn't. You'll know when there's chemistry and interest on her end of things. Link to comment
ajaxajax Posted June 25, 2009 Author Share Posted June 25, 2009 And this interest comes rather quickly too and doesn't quite need "waking up" through conversation. I feel it's more about warming up both of ourselves into exchanging a number or Email addy for further involvement. Besides, being friendly doesn't always mean being interested. I've had a dating/women moratorium for myself and, within that period, I've found a couple of ladies who did not just act friendly but gave some unique giveaways (eg smiling, giggling, leaning forward, crossing one leg over the other when standing). I know I may have "missed" them, but I wanted to get my approaches right or nothing would work! Link to comment
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