GotMyLifeBack Posted November 19, 2010 Share Posted November 19, 2010 Broke NC on day 44 at work. Talked for maybe 10 min., not about us. It was nice. I'll just let things go where they go. Link to comment
Starrgrl Posted November 19, 2010 Share Posted November 19, 2010 NC day 1. Sigh. At least I'm going out today, should keep myself busy. Can't believe I broke 116-7 days of no contact =( Eff. Link to comment
kennyc90 Posted November 20, 2010 Share Posted November 20, 2010 Day 19 I'm currently at work right now. I'm ready to get off soon. It feels like I'm gonna fall asleep soon lol. Link to comment
thekid55 Posted November 20, 2010 Share Posted November 20, 2010 Day 7. Starting to feel better. Link to comment
perio Posted November 20, 2010 Share Posted November 20, 2010 8 weeks and 1 day. I think I may stop counting soon. Just had lunch with my ex wife and our two girls. We have a good relationship now. I have almost always had a friendship with my ex's. If I had advice to give to a son or even to my girls, it would be that you should treat your boyfriends or girlfriends as you would a valued friend and they should do the same to you. My ex wife has a personality disorder. She had a secret second life, multiyear affair and a bunch of other things going on. It was like a bad "lifetime channel" movie. That was years ago. Everything in the divorce went in my favor. That's not why we have a good relationship now. It's because we have truly healed and decided to have a new relationship. The reason I am bringing this up is that I now know that just about anything is possible when giving enough time. Beauty and grace van still ne found even when all seems to be lost. The result may not be what was originally wished for but we can all emerge healthier and wiser. Link to comment
30yrold Posted November 21, 2010 Share Posted November 21, 2010 I corrected this quote because it moved me, and I wanted others to see it too. Link to comment
Cherrytop Posted November 21, 2010 Share Posted November 21, 2010 Day 14 Finding it hard to stop myself from sending emails, but getting better as he is also doing NC to me. I think he likes me running after him and writing emails asking for answers. If i dnt receieve the answers is ok...because for the last 2 weeks i found myself and found out how strong i am. My mother raised a strong and confident woman. i love u, i miss u but for the first time Im putting ME first. Link to comment
StillHopeful88 Posted November 21, 2010 Share Posted November 21, 2010 Day 1 I've finally realized i need to move on and it's my final decision. No more flip flopping, no more going backwards. We've been broken up a month and contact has done nothing but make it harder. I hope you're having fun right now at the club with those girls. I hope you realize that you had someone that loved you so much, that would NEVER cheat on you or do anything to hurt you. I know it was my trust issues that got us here, but you rebelling and hurting me like this is not helping the situation. I cant wait until you start realizing that i AM strong and i CAN move on. Link to comment
BlackBirdy Posted November 21, 2010 Share Posted November 21, 2010 Day 25 I really don't miss him and don't want him. There are so many guys out there who'd be just great for me. I can't wait to meet them! Link to comment
Rally Posted November 21, 2010 Share Posted November 21, 2010 At first NC felt like a game.. or a strategy to get my ex back.. and then I realised it was a strategy to heal and forget about my ex.. But now I realised that although NC has the ability to do both the things I mentioned.. It is really a journey or process for one person to gain their self respect back. Once you get that back.. and fully respect yourself.. you will naturally release an aura of confidence and attraction.. haha It's 2 am, just been thinking and that thought came to my head. Thought I would share it. Link to comment
kennyc90 Posted November 21, 2010 Share Posted November 21, 2010 Day 20 Woops I forgot to post last night lol. Well, yesterday I had a pretty emotional day thinking about her. It was one of those days where those negative thoughts come in and you start to think of all the bad things that they did so you kinda start feeling upset. I watched the movie "Due Date" with my friend yesterday. It was hilarious. Link to comment
dancesinquicksand Posted November 21, 2010 Share Posted November 21, 2010 Day 1 I am worth more than just what I am worth to you. I am not going to watch my phone for anything from you. I am going to remind myself I will be ok. This will pass. I can live without you. I will be happy again. And I will not give you anymore of myself. While you move on. This is going to be very hard for me. I am divorcing my high school sweetheart. We have been together for 17 years. I dont want this. But I cant live waiting for him to let me back into his heart. I am taking control of my life. And for better or worse.. I am moving on. Link to comment
purbida1101 Posted November 21, 2010 Share Posted November 21, 2010 12th day of NC, i dont have any urge on contacting her. i have already accepted the situation and already moved on. but last night i dreamed texting her. hahaha Link to comment
kennyc90 Posted November 22, 2010 Share Posted November 22, 2010 Day 21 I went to the mall today to get some stuff. I bought a few workout clothes. That's pretty much it for today lol. Link to comment
thekid55 Posted November 22, 2010 Share Posted November 22, 2010 Day 8 in the books. On to the next one. Had the best weekend here in a very, very long time. Link to comment
AlwaysAnxious Posted November 22, 2010 Share Posted November 22, 2010 Day 1 I am worth more than just what I am worth to you. I am not going to watch my phone for anything from you. I am going to remind myself I will be ok. This will pass. I can live without you. I will be happy again. And I will not give you anymore of myself. While you move on. This is going to be very hard for me. I am divorcing my high school sweetheart. We have been together for 17 years. I dont want this. But I cant live waiting for him to let me back into his heart. I am taking control of my life. And for better or worse.. I am moving on. Wow best of luck to you... stay strong girl. Post here everyday and you will soon be on your way to a new life of happiness and joy! Link to comment
StillHopeful88 Posted November 22, 2010 Share Posted November 22, 2010 Day 2 I feel amazing. Spent the whole day studying and ran into a few old friends. Link to comment
kennyc90 Posted November 23, 2010 Share Posted November 23, 2010 Day 22 My foot hurts. I need to get it checked out. I went for a run and my foot is killing me! I bought a nice sweater that looks really good on me. I can't wait to wear it. 1 Link to comment
thekid55 Posted November 23, 2010 Share Posted November 23, 2010 Day 9. Not as good as yesterday, but tomorrow is a new day. I get to go home in two days (I can't wait). SuperDave's return today was a pleasant surprise! Thanks for the kind words, SD71. Tomorrow's horoscope You have a promising day ahead, Sagittarius. Finally, you will advance by leaps and bounds in whatever needs to be done. Whatever has been causing the delays will likely be revealed today. You return to the skill and professionalism you so value after several weeks of halting progress. Don't tolerate any violation of your ethics now or in the future. I like the sound of it. Link to comment
babymommy Posted November 23, 2010 Share Posted November 23, 2010 Day 1 I want to take this challenge because I know that I can do it, yesterday was the last time we spoke, he called me because it was my b-day plus we have a baby together but he´s really not very interested in him so I asked him not to contact me anymore. I guess I´ll just see what happens but for now I feel good but it does hurt a lot and to be honest I keep wondering if I´ll ever hear from him again or not. Good luck to all... Link to comment
thekid55 Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Day 10. A bit of a roller coaster today, but I got off of the ride. Home tomorrow. Link to comment
tujna Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Almost 15 months broke up - until now I should have accumulated at least 7-8 months of NC, but no, not even a month! Two times about 3-4 months and then again back in contact. But not any more, it is over, I will never contact again. It is truly over this time. I have to end it forever. Otherwise it will never end. 15 months is mooooore than enough. I have to move on! This time I am determined! It is over forever this time - wait another couple of months and you will never hear from me or see me again. Goodbye! Link to comment
babymommy Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Day 2 Ok so today is my second day of NC, he didn´t call and neither did I, I feel weird like everything is going to blow over and everything will be just like it used to be, but in my heart I know that´s not going to happen so I feel good about this choice. Congrats Tujna hang in there!! Link to comment
kennyc90 Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Day 23 I have a new roommate! I won't feel so lonely anymore haha. I go to work with my roommate so I already get along with him well. I had a pretty decent weight training session today. I had a good conversation with my mom and dad. I told my mom that I still have feelings for my ex and she told me to remember to focus on myself before anything. I decided that I'm going to visit my parents for New Years. Sigh.. finally a break from the navy. I need to clean my apartment and I cleaned up my kitchen a little. Alright well I'm tired so I'm gonna call it a night. I still need to drink my protein shake and prep up for work tomorrow. Goodnight fellas! Link to comment
iwannarun Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Ok, this is starting for real now. I can't be dealing with the pain over and over again, only to be suckered into believing that he wants to talk. He only wants to talk when HE'S upset. When I'm upset, he doesn't seem to care. He ignores me. So therefore: this is the start of Day 1. And I'm going on a trip from today to Sunday. So hopefully it will be a good time! Link to comment
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