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You broke up with your new boyfriend and begged me to talk. You told me you loved me and that you made mistakes. We made progress. Real progress. Things just can't magically go back to how they were, you still need to work on yourself and figure out what you want. You love me, but aren't ready to be with me or anyone, so why should I stick around. You know damn well we can't really be friends and watch each other date and perhaps fall in love with someone else. You need time, and I can't wait for you, I'm sorry. It is best for both of us at this point, to let go. I know it will be difficult for you, and I know you will think I don't care about you, but that is not the case. I would love to marry you and have a family with you and your sons, but you aren't ready, and need time to grow.

I'm going to give this a shot. Dear Ex, I have asked you to stop contacting me as we are unable to find a balance between our lives that allows us to be friends. It's no one fault, just choices and circumstances. But for the love of GOD stop contacting me!!! I asked you nicely a few times, and now I am getting angry and can't move forward. I have not replied to the last seven messages you have sent in the last three days. I am sure you are desperate to talk to me since your boyfriend is completely emotionally unavailable for you, and only wants to see you on weekends (for sex, I'm sure). Begging me to talk to you and calling me Baby is pathetic and manipulative and needs to STOP NOW. You want to know how you can "fix it" like you said you wished you could do? Dump your boyfriend. Be ALONE for six months. Grow up, find some independence, find some self confidence that you don't need to be with someone so you can offer more than instrumental motivations in a relationship. Then, and only then, contact me. We will talk about how difficult it was, but how you feel much stronger and are happy with yourself. Otherwise, go complain to your boyfriend about how much you miss me, and see how he feels about it. Heated, R

Now THAT was funny! See you soon.

I corrected this quote because it moved me, and I wanted others to see it too.