dolphin Posted February 13, 2009 Share Posted February 13, 2009 Hi All, I am back again, just wondering if anyone can shed some light. I am seeing a wonderful man, he is 12yrs older than me. He is so wonderful, gentle, romantic. Something i have been looking for for a long time. There has been no sex either. I usally jump in head first but this time i want to make sure it is right. We had a fling about 6 mths ago and we did sleep together, but then we went our separate ways. Now this time we decided we want the full relationship thing. I have been up front and said no sex until i am ready, which he told me he respected. But how long can i make him wait, i dont want to seem like a tease, though i not doing anything wrong. He has already told me he loves me and so has his 12yr old daughter. I told him i cant say those words until i am sure it is true. I want him to love me for me not what happens in the bedroom. Is that too much to ask? How will i know if really does love me, He has already said one day he wants to marry me too. Thanks for listen Dolphin Link to comment
Mutley Posted February 13, 2009 Share Posted February 13, 2009 Well, time will tell....will it not? He shouldn't be so eager from the get go anyway. You guys hardly know each other. ps my gf is 13 years older than I. Link to comment
dolphin Posted February 13, 2009 Author Share Posted February 13, 2009 We were friends first, we have known each other for about 2 years, i guess i should have mentioned that too. Link to comment
brahman Posted February 13, 2009 Share Posted February 13, 2009 I think love has two parts. Love as an emotion, and love as a form of action, how you treat that person. If he has known you for 2 years, and then you start dating for 6 months, he pretty much has had 2 and a half years to decide whether or not he loves you. That being said, I do think he prolly needs to hold back a little, because if he doesn't, then he will most likely push you away. Link to comment
dolphin Posted February 13, 2009 Author Share Posted February 13, 2009 This is true, i have told him this too. I want to take things slowly and i have told him that too. Just wonder about the sex, and making a male wait. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted February 13, 2009 Share Posted February 13, 2009 This is true, i have told him this too. I want to take things slowly and i have told him that too. Just wonder about the sex, and making a male wait. Don't sell yourself short. If he truly loves you, he'll wait. Link to comment
DN Posted February 13, 2009 Share Posted February 13, 2009 You can't put a time on this - it has to be when you are ready. But equally it is not true that if he loves you he will wait if waiting starts to corrode the relationship. Sex is an integral and important part of a committed relationship - and if he starts to think you are waiting too long he may start questioning your love for him or whether you are really into sex at all. Be careful here - don't make assumptions. Link to comment
dolphin Posted February 13, 2009 Author Share Posted February 13, 2009 Thanks for the replys, i have taken it in and will continue the way we are going. Time will tell Link to comment
dolphin Posted March 11, 2009 Author Share Posted March 11, 2009 Hi All, An update, things are movong along nicely except for one thing. Sex, this is a bit embarrasing but he cant keep it up long enough, sex is not eveything. 3 seconds and its over and i am left wondering. He is 53 and i am 41, he did hurt himself and since then this has happened, brocken foot. Any suggestions would be helpful. Dolphin Link to comment
avman Posted March 15, 2009 Share Posted March 15, 2009 Is he in pain? Or taking narcotic pain relievers? This would certainly mess up sexual function. Link to comment
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