cruzer Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 So after the first few dates have happened. You really like the person. Everything u know about them, u like, adore and are ok with. You really enjoy your time with them, its lots of fun. What makes you decide, i dont want to see that person anymore? What makes you think that there is someone else out there for you? Is it just when you stop having fun with them? Is it when u find out something you dont like about them? Is it when u find out something about them that you dont think u can handle? Is it when they do something that hurts you? Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 Any of the above. The first few dates are crucial. Sometimes I get bored of them, notice some red flags, or just don't like their personality all that much. It happens. Link to comment
EQD Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 are you seeing someone and are in this position? why do you feel you want to leave them? Link to comment
alcide Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 I normally stop seeing people, on their attitude, way they dress, what the do alot of reason, especially if they don't like to share. Link to comment
Ac143 Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 Any of the above would make me walk away but it was usually boredom or their personality to me. After a few dates you usually get a vibe if you want to continue or not. Link to comment
thejigsup Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 If they say something sexist, if they are too frugal or freespending, if they are insulting to staff at a restaurant, if they smell bad, if they have bad teeth, or...if I meet someone I like more. This is probably what it is 80% of the time. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 There is a lot of reasons why I'd stop seeing someone. And most of them aren't because they did something wrong. It's just because I'm not feeling them, not feeling an "us". People take rejection too personally. However, I believe the phrase "just not that into you" is in order. Link to comment
cruzer Posted January 26, 2009 Author Share Posted January 26, 2009 thank you for all of your posts. i am seeing someone and i really like everything of her so far, and i had fun when we went out. im pretty new at dating and just wondered what happens now? if were enjoying ourselves do we continue dating until there is reason not to is i guess the question. Link to comment
EQD Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 if you want to stay with them then do. if the glue isnt strong enough to keep you bound then spend some time apart. see what happens. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 Probably and just because I'm not 'feeling it'....when I'm not thinking of them, nor see them in 'that' way. Link to comment
Kinetics Posted January 27, 2009 Share Posted January 27, 2009 Well, I think it has to do with her personality or upbringing. Some things I'd like to list from my past experience... - overly sensitive. she can't take some of my jokes, she thinks I'm mean. Even if the joke was not on her, she still doesn't like it. - a complainer. I guess this and being overly sensitive can come in pairs...but someone who complains about the smallest things. - "I stalked my previous date." I met this girl...went out with her a few times, thought she was ok until she dropped that bomb. She had other problems as well. I have no idea why telling me was going to do more good than harm. - wealth/upbringing. First, let me just say that I have nothing against rich people or someone who was raised in difficult situations, etc. All I ask is that you act and think within the norms of a normal person. Talking about your lavish European vacations, or having horrible social manners...that kind of thing I would probably reconsider dating. Generally I am open to any hobbies or beliefs the girl may have. Each person is unique. So it boils down to personality to me. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 27, 2009 Share Posted January 27, 2009 don't question it so early on or it will not work out. Link to comment
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