redrose85 Posted December 18, 2008 Share Posted December 18, 2008 My boyfriend left tonight for Christmas and the rest of December, and the second I got home I just felt so sad, because the apartment is so "empty" and quiet without him. The longest we've been apart is 5 days or so, and I'm just not used to this. I know it's a short amount of time, but when you take into account that we normally see each other every single day (live together) and have spent all of our past christmases together, this feels really rough. I don't need advice, I just need to get it out, because I can't admit to my friends that I miss him like crazy already. Link to comment
zachiphus Posted December 18, 2008 Share Posted December 18, 2008 I hate being a part from my girlfriend too... The difference is I can technically go see her any night I want, it's just not always easy or convenient. I hear ya though, try to enjoy your holidays though Link to comment
EmotionalCreature Posted December 18, 2008 Share Posted December 18, 2008 I used to be with my ex all the time too back when relationship was good (years and years ago). People never realize that time apart and having their own things to do is actually helping the relationship than being together all the time. Personal experience. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted December 18, 2008 Author Share Posted December 18, 2008 We definitely have our own lives too, it's just weird when you live with someone and they're suddenly not there. It's only temporary, and I'm sure when I'm done feeling mopey I will take advantage of the fact that I have the house to myself lol. For now, I'm just feeling very emo. I just talked to him on the phone and was trying to keep my emotions to myself. Link to comment
lila... Posted December 18, 2008 Share Posted December 18, 2008 Aww! Sorry you're going through this. It is a short time so before you know it, he'll be at your door again Have fun now that you have the apartment to yourself, run around naked...sing, dance, I don't know...lol. I think it'll get better as the days pass. Just try to keep yourself busy. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted December 18, 2008 Author Share Posted December 18, 2008 The funny thing is.. those three things we do when we're home together hahaha! Link to comment
lila... Posted December 18, 2008 Share Posted December 18, 2008 Aww hahaha. How about having a party with your friends now that he's gone? Who are you spending Christmas with? Link to comment
redrose85 Posted December 18, 2008 Author Share Posted December 18, 2008 Well, I'm having trouble getting any time off work. I had hoped to spend a few days with my sister visiting my grandma/aunt and uncle, but that seems to be a no-go. I'm spending christmas eve and day with my best friend and her kiddies, and christmas dinner will be with a friend and his family. On the 29th, I am holding a christmas dinner at my place for my sibs and their so's. Both my mom and sister are working on Christmas through the 27th, so no one is really doing a family christmas dinner on the actual day. I'm excited about having my own though Link to comment
lila... Posted December 18, 2008 Share Posted December 18, 2008 Oh great...see...it's not gonna be so boring after all. For some reason I had imagined you wouldn't be working (cause of the Christmas break), so that and having your family close by will certainly help you deal with the loneliness. And I also think it's really good for couples (especially those who live together and spend a ton of time together) to separate and spend time apart on occasion, I think it definitely does good to the relationship, the only downside is the missing part, but when you're back together it'll be like fireworks...lol. It'll make your bond grow stronger I would think. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted December 18, 2008 Author Share Posted December 18, 2008 I just started a new job (finally ran out of $$) It's going to be one heck of a new years' eve, that's for sure I think it will be good for us to be apart for a bit because distance makes the heart grow fonder, after all. Link to comment
star-shaped Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 Oh, I know how you're feeling. My boyfriend is away until the 6th January. To be honest it took me a while to start missing him because I was enjoying having the place to myself! Just make the most of it and remember that distance makes the heart grow fonder (even if it is a terrible cliche!). Link to comment
babii doll Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 the bf just told me he's going out of town tomorrow(work related) until next monday.. =/ so i kinda know how you feel, being alone on xmas is gonna suck big time. Link to comment
jiangkejia Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 Same feeling here. I hope that we are still together after he comes back. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted December 30, 2008 Author Share Posted December 30, 2008 ^ I hope so too, for your sake. I didn't enjoy having the place to myself until yesterday and he comes home tonight haha. I'm so glad he'll at least be here for New Years'. Link to comment
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