Does your sex life go down hill after being together for so long?

[koreangelxp]

well theres the question... ive noticed that i dont really care for sex as much as i use too with my bf... and we been together for almost 3 years... just wondering if everyone else is like that... or is something wrong with me..??

[Scoe141]

I think it's odd you aren't interested in sex, yet your avatar might paint a different picture?

 

Regardless, sex differs for most people. Some argue that it "doesn't matter" in a relationship, where others say, "its absolutely critical.

 

How is your partner? Does he have a high sex drive? I wouldn't say your abnormal, it's just that maybe in this time of your life there might be some issues (stress, school, finances, etc) that are lowering your drive.

 

There are a myriad of ways to boost your drive if you're interested. If not, and your b/f is content, then don't sweat it.

 

Hope this helps.

[shikashika]

No, I've never had my sex drive go down ever... whether i'm by myself or in a long term relationship.

[Clementine orange]

Honeymoon is over it sounds like. Pity. This is the part where actual "love" will (or won't) propel the relationship forward.

[Syntax1985]

sex drive will go down if its to much of the same thing.

[blue69]

Your sex drive can fluctuate. You have to determine if it is physical or mental that is creating this recent response. Is your intimacy down? Meaning do you hug, snuggle, kiss, sit and watch a movie together (not at separate sides of couch), lay in bed and talk, go for walks, light grabbing of the butts, those type of things? Because typically the more intimate you are outside the bedroom, the more you might feel like doing more in the bed (or any other places). Married for 15 years. There were times that had highs and lows.. but to be honest, right now.. is the best sex we have been having.

 

It is normal just like anything. If you don't like where it is right now, you need to make a conscious decision to change it. You will be surprised at how much a little extra effort affects your overall mood and desire.

 

Good luck

[Seraphim]

I have been with my husband for 20 years and we are having the best sex of our life because we know each other well and what we like and expect. One's sex life goes up and down over time and has to be worked on.

[george237]

As long as it doesn't feel like a chore and you are both happy it's fine.

[kenshinkitten]

Hey! I've been with my bf for almost 3 years too!! That's awesome!!

But our sex life is fantastic still, I get what I want and he gets what he wants.

Yeah you just gotta mix it up like some people have said, buy something sexy and surprise him on his bed one day. That's fun.

[PixelPusher]

Just like everything in life, it needs constant attention. Anything and everything can become boring and mechanical if you just "go through the motions." Have you guys done anything to spice up your love life?

[srssatellite]

I would only say there is something wrong when it's a drastic change.