Syntax1985 Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 ok so last night was amazing, ( for those that dont know i met this girl at work earlier this week and stayed round hers in London last night ) we instantly got chatting like we'd known each other for years, went straight back to hers, i dropped my stuff off and headed out for dinner, went back to hers for abit to freshen up before going out for night, it was great and i spent some time with her friends as well, overall i had a really good time, but i was kinda unsure if it was a date in all honesty, after a few hours of being with her mates, it kinda felt like i was just one of em and we were having fun together, part of me just wanted to go off dancing around.. but i needed somewhere to sleep so couldn't really risk upsetting her lol. up till going out and getting drunk i was really sure it was a sure thing, after that kinda went abit mellow. anyway i got woken up at 6am coz she had work, she walked me to the station which is about 2 mins from her house, kissed me on the cheek and told me she had a really good time, sorry if she did anything embrassing etc, i tol d her i did as well and it would be really nice if we could do it again sometime, she agreed and i left. so ive just got home , checked my emails and ... sods law, my ex has emailed me back, i need to go into that a bit first, about a year ago i met her in my town, she was really amazing but she was heading off to uni, the otherside of england to me, and we only spent about 2 months together before hand, but i felt an amazing connection to this girl and i still think about her all the time.. we ended up breaking up because i guess we both feel into a state of confussion about how to handle the long distance, i was really in love with her, and hurting i couldnt see her so much, so alot of things were said and done, and we ended up breaking up, with alot of means things said between the two. well i was gonna post on here about it, but in the end i emailed her, i made sure it wasnt scary and wingey but i basically explained to her i still think about her all the time, and to be honest i dont really know why, im gonna post her reply in a min. basically i dont know what to do, do i pursue my ex because i know i still love her, or does she just want to be friends, or do i take a chance with the new girl and put it down to drinking as the reason it got so mellow in the evening between us? Link to comment
waveseer Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 What a wonderful evening, thanks for telling us. Is there some reason why you can't pursue both? Link to comment
Syntax1985 Posted October 18, 2008 Author Share Posted October 18, 2008 id feel horrible stringing along both, what if both prospect, and i end up hurting one of them by being with the other, i don't think i could do that so that's not really an option, but here's the ex's reply, maybe im reading to much into it, Link to comment
Syntax1985 Posted October 18, 2008 Author Share Posted October 18, 2008 i mean i really think more or her as a person, after getting that reply, we did say some horrible nasty stuff of each other, but thats a really mature and nice reply, i wasnt even expecting one at all, i guess i was hoping for something nasty so id be over her once and for all lol. Link to comment
waveseer Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 It could mean she just wants to be friends or it could mean she's leaving the door open for more. Now I wish I could take my own advice here but, "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush." I'm not being cold, just practical. And about the dynamic at work here, does this mean that as soon as I have real interest in a new man my ex will contact me? Link to comment
Syntax1985 Posted October 18, 2008 Author Share Posted October 18, 2008 yeah, i mean say everything goes well with both, and at the end i really like both, thats something i wouldnt want to happen, ive never cheated on anyone because ive always thought ahead and not even but myself in the opertunity to cheat, i know when im drunk i will go out and end up pulling someone if im the mood, so when im with someone i wont allow myself to get that drunk etc. Link to comment
GoldenHillGuy Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 Does it change anything? I mean, istn't she still on the other side of the country? I say stick with the certain thing you've got. Link to comment
Syntax1985 Posted October 18, 2008 Author Share Posted October 18, 2008 Does it change anything? I mean, istn't she still on the other side of the country? I say stick with the certain thing you've got. true, shes still up there. finishes next year, but im thinking of making some career choices that would leave both options long distances. and even so other girl is in London, 1 hour train from me. either one would take alot of effort but im willing. also London girl isn't a sure thing yet .. Link to comment
Syntax1985 Posted October 18, 2008 Author Share Posted October 18, 2008 this is what i sent her originally, i was feeling abit sorry for myself about it all at the time, but mayeb this gives some needed insight, Link to comment
greywolf Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 If your ex was back in town I might recommend to try it out with her. But she's still far away. When you get back together in your ex you need to work on the things that split you up in the first place. Distance is one thing that just can't be worked on. I'm speaking from experience here man Link to comment
greywolf Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 when I read this i was like, what the hell is sod's law???? so I googled it... murphy's law!!! duh... hahah Link to comment
Syntax1985 Posted October 18, 2008 Author Share Posted October 18, 2008 lol, yeah thats great you said, i was trying to explain sods law to a good US friend lol. i said "you win £200 on the lottery, then u instantly get a bill for £200 = sods law " lol Link to comment
Syntax1985 Posted October 18, 2008 Author Share Posted October 18, 2008 long distance works, but starts to crumble when there's problems and you cant sit down face 2 face and discuss them, its hard over the phone, if not impossible. Link to comment
greywolf Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 yeah i know. And the little things that make it better (touch, sex, laughter, physical attraction), aren't there. Link to comment
Syntax1985 Posted October 18, 2008 Author Share Posted October 18, 2008 yeah i know. And the little things that make it better (touch, sex, laughter, physical attraction), aren't there. lol i would said, (touch, sex, sex, sex, laughter, sex, physical attraction, sex, oral.) Link to comment
greywolf Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 lol i would said, (touch, sex, sex, sex, laughter, sex, physical attraction, sex, oral.) i knew you'd get the point are we like the only 2 people online? sheesh hehehe Link to comment
Syntax1985 Posted October 18, 2008 Author Share Posted October 18, 2008 ENA is our playground hehe lol Link to comment
babysunshine Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 Who plays on ENA? This is sacred, serious ground. Link to comment
Syntax1985 Posted October 18, 2008 Author Share Posted October 18, 2008 Who plays on ENA? This is sacred, serious ground. even monks play sports Link to comment
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