Punisher Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 My gf and I have been together for several years. Her vagina is really sensitive. My penis isn't huge, it's just average (a little under 6 inches), and not abnormally wide or anything. But it always hurts her going in. Sometimes, the pain is so bad that we can't have sex. Usually, it just hurts going in, but then once it gets going she likes it. Sometimes, if it goes on for a long time, she starts to hurt again and I have to finish some other way. It seems to be largely dependent on how horny she is. I was wondering if there are any females that have a similar experience, and if there are any things that she could try to help her out. We haven't tried lubrication, because I never thought she needed it. She seems to produce plenty herself, but if the added slide would help I'd be willing to try it. Other than not having sex, I can't think of much else to do. Link to comment
kuiks8 Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 do you use lots of lube? is she allergic to condoms? have you thought of going to a sex clinic and asking? Link to comment
PsychGirly Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 It seems to be that you guys are just inexperienced. You mention it "depends on how horny she is". You're probably not hard enough, or she's not wet enough, and it causes friction which causes her pain. It is pretty painful, actually. You should practice foreplay before sex and use a lot of lube. Link to comment
littlestar Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 What type of pain is it - burning? stinging? sharp? Link to comment
doyathink Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 There's a medical term for this, but I'll be damned if I can find it right now. I'll keep looking. Link to comment
doyathink Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 Vaginismus? link removed Link to comment
PsychGirly Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 "Your penis has barbs" That sounds like something I learned last year in my human sexuality class. It could be a personal problem she has. I'm not sure of the accurate term, but it's aka "vaginal teeth". The majority of women have smooth inner vaginal walls, but some have uneven walls, known as "vaginal teeth". Weird thing is, it should hurt you...but it may also hurt her. Do you feel bumps or an abnormal surface during sex or when you finger her? Link to comment
Punisher Posted October 1, 2008 Author Share Posted October 1, 2008 It might be vaginismus. It wouldn't surprise me. But somehow the description doesn't quite match up. I don't see why she would have a psychological problem 25% of the time but not 75% of the time when sexual intercourse is fine and dandy. I should note that she was raped once, many years ago. I don't know if this would cause any problems. I would imagine, but I don't ask too much about it. Link to comment
kuiks8 Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 if you don't use lube its possible that she is too dry and that is why it's hurting... what about STD's and pregnancy? Link to comment
doyathink Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 Here is another one link removed Link to comment
Punisher Posted October 1, 2008 Author Share Posted October 1, 2008 Yeah, when I finger her, actually, it does seem kind of rough in spots. Kind of like the roof of your mouth, but a lot softer obviously. Link to comment
doyathink Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 It might be vaginismus. It wouldn't surprise me. But somehow the description doesn't quite match up. I don't see why she would have a psychological problem 25% of the time but not 75% of the time when sexual intercourse is fine and dandy. I should note that she was raped once, many years ago. I don't know if this would cause any problems. I would imagine, but I don't ask too much about it. Did you read the other causes on that page? They may fit. Link to comment
doyathink Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 Yeah, when I finger her, actually, it does seem kind of rough in spots. Kind of like the roof of your mouth, but a lot softer obviously. LOL thats her G-spot Link to comment
Punisher Posted October 1, 2008 Author Share Posted October 1, 2008 does it hurt you or her? Just her. I don't feel anything wrong. Link to comment
Angel_baby Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 I usually don't post in the Sex forum but I can totally relate to your girlfriend. I have the same problem when it comes to it being just to painful. She may be tighter then usual or not producing enough natural lube herself. I myself can be really wet but not feel like it to myself. I have to learn to relax my muscles down there also. I would suggest trying some lube. I am willing to bet that will help her a lot. It has helped me in the past. Also I would suggest she makes a visit to her doctor. If she is having a lot of pain it "could" be something medical. Link to comment
PsychGirly Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 You should probably have her see a gynecologist or go to a clinic. It sounds like a problem if it's interfering with your sex life. Link to comment
doyathink Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 I'm guessing a yeast infection at the very least. Sex should not be painful if you're a healthy person. Now...bumping the cervix is a different story...but you're talking about the opening...no where near the cervix. Link to comment
Punisher Posted October 1, 2008 Author Share Posted October 1, 2008 Yeah, but a yeast infection that lasts for 4-5 years? She's fairly intelligent, and has treated a few urinary tract infections since we've been together, so I doubt she would let a yeast infection go this long without noticing. But yeah, I am talking about the opening. Like, just the head of my penis can be in, and she is already feeling the pain. Either that, or she is so braced for the pain that she has me convinced that it is already hurting. Link to comment
Punisher Posted October 1, 2008 Author Share Posted October 1, 2008 I am going to try. This thread has inspired me to lube that 'gina. Link to comment
Angel_baby Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 But yeah, I am talking about the opening. Like, just the head of my penis can be in, and she is already feeling the pain. Either that, or she is so braced for the pain that she has me convinced that it is already hurting. I know what she is talking about. Lube will help her so much on getting past the initial penetration part of sex. Usually once you progress from there it will loosen up and won't be as painful to her... until it starts getting dry again. Hence why after awhile or when she is really horny it doesn't bother her as much. KY Jelly isn't that expensive. Link to comment
kuiks8 Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 astroglide is the best for both people involved... Link to comment
Punisher Posted October 1, 2008 Author Share Posted October 1, 2008 I know what she is talking about. Lube will help her so much on getting past the initial penetration part of sex. Usually once you progress from there it will loosen up and won't be as painful to her... until it starts getting dry again. Hence why after awhile or when she is really horny it doesn't bother her as much. KY Jelly isn't that expensive. Glad to hear from someone who sympathizes with my gf. Thank you much for your advice, and I will give it a try. Link to comment
Angel_baby Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 astroglide is the best for both people involved... Oh yes that one is the best! Link to comment
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