ccali78 Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 We all have reasons why our relationships ended and some may not know why.... Tell why you think your relationship did not work? Link to comment
Iwantittoend Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 Because we were going down two completely different paths and had no time for each other anymore. Link to comment
ElasticMagnetic Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 We all have reasons why our relationships ended and some may not know why.... Tell why you think your relationship did not work? He was a stalker, or so my mother and friends put it. He was just very unhealthy. Like, he was a very controlling person, and he didn't like it when I hung out with just my friends. Whenever I tried to break up with him (5th time was the charm), he'd cry to make me stay because he knew I'd give in. We had many large arguments. My friends and parents told me for months that he wasn't good for me, and yet I still made excuses for him. In the final argument we had, it was about me going to 'E-scape' with my friends without him. When he said 'Well, you can either go with them and invite me along, OR you can not go and go to my house with me insitead..', I snapped. I was very calm about it, but I knew I was done. We eventualy had to call the cops because he opened my window and tried getting in, and was calling repeatedly, ect. It's sad how I wasn't really scared when he was doing this. I had just grown used to making excuses for him. And it's a real shame that I kind of miss him. =( Link to comment
confus3d Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 Why that really is the question. I never did get an answer. I wish it was a fight but we never fought. At the end things were at the best they had been in a long time. She was really starting to open up. There was a time in our relationship when I could have expected it, but was totally unprepared when it happened. I'm left guessing what ended it but feel pretty sure it was feelings she still had for an ex. Link to comment
djsh4dow Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 She "needs space." I'm still pretty confused though Link to comment
ccali78 Posted June 23, 2008 Author Share Posted June 23, 2008 For me I know now he does not trust me. I never cheated, but I did hurt him and he hurt me and for some reason I want him back. We are friends, but I am scared of this friend zone thing. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 Because my now exhusband committed adultry. Link to comment
highonyou Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 One of my ex's was very weird...he believed he had magic powers... Link to comment
leo_s84 Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 One of my ex's was very weird...he believed he had magic powers... That comment made my day... Link to comment
Kat123 Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 How many days do you have??? Generally, my ex was just an ass. He's short, and insecure, and I'm pretty sure he has some nasty relationship issues left over from his parents nasty divorce when he was a kid. He's incredibly selfish. He flips out when held accountable for anything he has done, said, etc. He told me a horrible lie. He forwarded my personal emails to his friends with less than kind comments about me and my "insecurities." He is an image-obsessed ego maniac. He owns a flat-iron and actually uses on his hair...most often when he's getting ready to put on his his rinestone-emblazoned Christian Audigier shirt. He seems like he feels threatened by me a lot, and responds by trying to make me feel less than all the time. He threatened to break up with me every time we disagreed, which made me pretty insecure about the relationship. He has admitted serious issues with emotional vulnerability, which made me feel pushed away and unloved. He would never talk to me about any issues we had in our relationship...i begged and pleaded for us to talk about our issues, he responded with "I don't really have anything to say about it right now." He broke up with me (after a very serious 1.5 year relationship) over the phone. Oh yeah, and on one bad night, when he was being especially inconsiderate and a grade A jerk, I slapped him in a bar. He told me he would never forgive me and he needed to be done with me. Ah, the fragile male ego... Those are just the ones that sum it up quickly. I really could go on for days about this guy and his issues... Link to comment
Nearwater Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 Fear, her not communicating her feelings. Never letting on she was unhappy with me. Playing along for a YEAR that everything was fine Fear of intimacy, getting too close made her run Let her past get in our way fear of working through old hurts Numb. Emotionally repressed, detached from her feelings Thinks starting fresh with someone else will change anything Won't get help or even ask girlfriends for advice. Link to comment
Jetta Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 Felt like I had to. The authorities were involved in our life and I thought breaking up would make things better, it only made things worse. But then again maybe they would have been worse either way. Link to comment
coolbloke1978 Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 Erm mine had a boyfriend. Yes I know I should have never got into it in the first place. But luckily I walked before I became one big mess. Link to comment
Papillion Posted June 23, 2008 Share Posted June 23, 2008 We all have reasons why our relationships ended and some may not know why.... Tell why you think your relationship did not work? Because she is the worst type of woman - one that misrepresents herself. She had me fooled and tricked into believing she was something she isnt. When eventually it all came tumbling down i saw her for what she is - a manipulative, selfish, lying, man-hating witch. So the short answer is, i picked the wrong woman. I excercised poor judgement at the get go. Link to comment
ccali78 Posted June 23, 2008 Author Share Posted June 23, 2008 Death Kitchen. Sounds a lot like my situation. I am sure there are some differences but lack of communication and miscommunication led to breakdown of trust and resentment. Is there a way back? Link to comment
missyc Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 Hmm, lots of reasons. In some ways we were so alike, we were both very strong minded people. However, in other ways we were very different. He would be SO open, honest and touchy feely ALL the time and wanted the same in return. He couldn't deal with the fact that sometimes, I just wanted to keep my emotions private. This was a big deal to him. He would constantly ask how I was feeling about things,while this was nice at first, it did get a bit wearing towards the end. Oh, and another reason why we finished, he found someone else!!!! Link to comment
BrokenDuc Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 i gave 100% of myself and love to her and got nothing of her back strangely enough she broke up with me, it was the week after i told her that i do not feel loved in the realtionship she promised to try and improve but instead called it quits and dumped me and is currently seeing someone else within a month of breaking up with me oh and she broke up with me on msn, how cowardly is that. her breaking up with me is a blessing as it turns out. Link to comment
missyc Posted June 24, 2008 Share Posted June 24, 2008 Hey BrokenDuc, I too feel that it is a blessing in disguise that I am no longer seeing my ex. If someone can't be bothered to break up with you in a decent way, they aren't worth it. Hope you have recovered from it. Link to comment
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