is is normal...?

[calikillsdreams]

is it normal for fecal matter to get on my boyfriend's penis after anal sex? I know it does but he pretends nothing is wrong but gets up right away and goes to the bathroom to wash himself off. I feel embarrassed, should I? is it normal? it is not a profuse amount... but still.

[caro33]

Hi there! I guess it depends what kind of sex you are having. I would think that "normal" vaginal intercourse would not usually result in this, but your own particular anatomy etc might mean this happens.

 

Do you feel yourself release your bowels during sex? How do you know this is happening?

[calikillsdreams]

it is after anal sex only. I know because when we had it most recently, right after he came he jumped off of me and then went to the bathroom and I know he washed himself off. And I looked at the towel he wiped himself off with afterwards and there was fecal matter on it.

[BeStrongBeHappy]

hmmmm.... are you sure he is not thrusting in the wrong place?

 

if you know he is thrusting in your vagina and avoiding your rectum, do you have trouble with loose bowels or too liquid stool such that it would ooze out during sex (sorry don't mean to be gross).

 

if your bowels are too loose such that you get easy leakage, perhaps you should consult a doctor....

[Mythical_Suicide]

you need to be sure to go to the bathroom and cleanse yourself out before having anal sex, even go so far as using an enema.. I've never done it but I don't really see it as being normal HOWEVER it comes with territory

[BeStrongBeHappy]

well duh then... a no brainer! he's where fecal material is!

 

I hope he is using a condom and lots of lube... easier cleanup. He should shower afterwards and so should you to prevent transferring e.coli to hands to mouth to get an infection.

[calikillsdreams]

I left out that it is only after anal sex. I'm worried it's going to turn him off permanently.

[Mythical_Suicide]

I left out that it is only after anal sex. I'm worried it's going to turn him off permanently.

 

If he doesn't like the idea of fecal matter maybe he should avoid anal sex. What does he expect, it is bound to happen at some point? Does he use a condom?

[calikillsdreams]

so it is normal that that happens?

[caro33]

it is after anal sex only.

 

This is kind of a key point! I would think this is normal then, I understand it's pretty much par for the course unless you had full enemas beforehand...

[Mythical_Suicide]

so it is normal that that happens?

 

you're having anal sex, what do you expect? I'm sure it happens more than most admit.

 

Do you empty your bowels before having sex?

[GypsyMuse]

You know, if you stick your finger in a jar of peanut butter, chances are the finger comes out with peanut butter on it, especially in the cracks, like under the nails.

 

If you stick your penis in the rectum, where feces are stored, chances are your penis comes out with fecal matter on it, especially in the cracks. If you've had an enema, there will be less, but it's still important to cleanse both before and after anal sex.

 

Why before? Because the anus has thinner walls than the vagina. It's not as tough and not intended as a receptacle for outside stuff and so it's a little more suspectible to infection (e.g., HIV).

 

Why after? Well, that should be obvious. Feces are full of bacteria. Even if you can't see feces on the penis, the bacteria are there.

[Whiplash Girl Child]

A little bit is normal.

[jengh]

yep, definitely normal. if it grosses him out, have him wear a condom (which he should be anyways).

[seesun]

is quite normal i think

[knightNshiningarmor]

he could consider using a condom then its easy cleanup and taking a shower first you can a. clean yourself up in htere while also warming yourself up.

[ryan123]

I had this talk with a friend this weekend. I found it absolutely disgusting that he participated in such actions without a condom and razzed him about it.

[EQD]

some guys will do it without one. its normal for poo to be in the poo canal.

he cant exactly turn around and say 'eww look what you got on my junk! gross!'

uhm.. 'you put it in there. deal with it or stay out'

[ghost69]

it's expected. i doubt he's mad.

[JadedStar]

Embarrassing, sure. But if you are intimate enough to be having sex with someone surely they know that if they put something in the poop chute poop might come out!

[SpeedingCars]

I've had anal sex without condoms... bad, I know.

But so far, no fecal matter has been on his penis... I'm pretty sure it's normal though.

 

I don't think you "turned him off forever", since you guys are comfortable enough to even be doing anal in the first place. I wouldn't fret too much!