In a Relationship with someone who is with someone else

[HELP]

Well, I am 18 years old, and am involved with someone I care deeply for. He has never really been honest with me from the beginning. When I first met him, I liked him. After knowning him only a bit, we slept together. After we had slept together, he informed me that he had a gf. I told him that I couldn't continue to do that knowing he had a girlfriend. A few weeks later, he informed me that they had broken up. I did not really believe him, so I asked his best friend, who used to be my best friend. He informed me that they had not broken up. I confronted him, and he said he had lied to me, but he was going to break up with her. The next day both him and my friend informed me he had broken up with her. We continued n our relationship from there on. We had an argument, and lost touch of each other. When we saw each other again, it was like nothing ever changed. I was told that he was with someone else now, though he was starting to see me again. I did not believe it, until that girl and I talked about it. She said he told her that there was nothing between him and I, and that she didn't need to worry, which is the same thing he told me about her. Now him and I are together, hes not with her, but I am being informed that he never broke up with his gf when we first met. They are still together. He has pictures of her, and only her in his wallet. She picked him up for Thanksgiving, and Christmas Break, and he has recent notes from her in his room. I have not seen any of those things except her picture, but I have only seen one. I do not want to call him on it in fear that it might not be true, and he will leave me for not trusting him, but at the same time, I know its true, but don't want it to be. DO you think that he is still with his girlfriend? And how could I ask him if he is still with her without offending him, or making him think I don't trust him? Help me, please!

[mermayd]

This guy is the textbook definition of a player!!! What is he offering you?? What reason do you see to stay with this loser?? I suggest firmly that you move on and warn every other girl about him. He is no good and will only stomp on any woman he comes into contact with. Its these types of guys that make our society have such a high rate of STD's, he tells the girl he cares, sleeps with her and then drops her like a bad habit! What a jerk! Hon, you have so much more self respect than this. You see he is worthless....let him be dropped for once...and warn others. I would spread the word like a virus...that's what he is anyway. No one should have to put up with him!

[SwingFox]

Hi,

 

Here's a male's point of view of things. May be that helps, too. "Help", I strongly advise you that you let this guy go. I am male, but right now very ashamed of it, because of what this guy is doing to you. I can tell you that 'we' are definitely not all like that.

 

Good luck in finding Mr Right

 

~ SwingFox ~