Calling

[Pinkbunny]

So I am wondering...and this might be a DUH question but...my boyfriend calls and doesn't leave messages. Does that mean he wants me to call him back? Do you call your SO back when they don't leave you a message? I usually don't call anyone back who doesn't leave a message because I'm a really busy person anyway. Its just always how I've been. Anyway what do you all think?

[Mythical_Suicide]

Ask him?

 

I never leave messages with people unless its really important just for the simple fact I hate doing it.. Its up to the other person to call me back or i will call back later

[annie24]

next time you talk to him, tell him to leave a message.

[shikashika]

see the following post...

 

 

 

if he is your boyfriend and not just a random you make eyes at accross the bar... why not ask him?

[musicguy]

maybe he's one of these people who doesn't like to leave voicemails. I know a number of people who don't like to do that

[annie24]

i don't typically return phone calls if there is no voice mail. i just assume that whoever called didn't really have anything important to say or ask, so i figure i'll see them around or something.

[Cognitive_Canine]

My bf never leaves messages unless something amazing has just happened.

 

I always call back though.

 

Tell him that you can't always call back and ask him to leave messages. That way you know whether you should call him right back or if it is okay to wait till you have more time to talk.

[glegend]

I sometimes don't leave messages. Really depends on who I call. Usually I am calling someones cell phone so they see the number and they call back. If it goes straight to voice mail then I'll leave a message but if I call and it rings and they don't answer then I dont leave a message.

 

I know many ppl who wont leave a voice mail. I even work with ppl who wont page someone on the pa. When I ask all these ppl why they don't they tell me "leaving voicemail's/paging is not my thing"

[annie24]

lol 'not my thing.' well, calling you back is not my thing!

 

i once had a breakup precipitated by this issue. i had a cell phone that did not record who called while it was off. the only way i would know you had called while my phone was off was if you left a message. i was dating a guy who called several times while my phone was off, didn't leave a single message, thought i was blowing him off when i never called him back. he was pissed and called off the relationship. i explained to him what happened, but by that time, it was too late.

 

seriously people, if you want to be called back, leave a message!

[ghost69]

i usually don't call people back. it obviously wasn't important. if a gf questions this, i tell them. 'if you wanted me to call you back, leave a message.'

[ghost69]

This may sound odd, but..sometimes it's "nerve wracking" to leave a message. If you mess up or something, there it is on tape, for everyone to hear. I feel weird leaving a message sometimes, I bet that might be why some folks just hangup rather than take that breath and let it all spill out onto an unforgiving answering machine.

 

any time i've left a message it has an option to re-record. and what kind of long drawn out messages are you leaving? usually i say call me back.

[Censored]

I hate voice mail. I hate leaving it, and i hate people leaving me messages unless its important. I will call back if i see a number on my phone and i want to. Otherwise, blah.