mytimewillcome Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 why?! why do i still have to have dreams of my ex?! my ex of 4 years (that broke my heart) and i split up october 2006. it was for the best but i guess deep deep down it still hurts me. i met a wonderful guy who adores me and whom i love and we are now set to get married in october of 2008. problem is every couple months for some nagging reason i have dreams of my ex still. he will be in my dream and we will be laughing or talking, or i will dream he confesses he made a mistake...or he will just simply be there.... i just woke up from the weirdest dream. i was walking down the aisle on my wedding day and my ex was there in the back and after the ceremony when i was alone he comes up to me and says congrats..touches my face and walks away... geeeeeeeeeeez ....we have no communication with each other except to say happy birthday via facebook message and i havent seen him since we broke up.... i am very happy with my fiance but whenever i have a dream of my ex like today it shakes me up when i wake up... has this happened to anyone?! do i have unresolved issues with my ex or something deep down inside me? errrrrrrrr help!! Link to comment
Hope75 Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 Hey There, I don't think that is so unusual. I have two exes whom I was serious with and in long term relationships with (one I lived with for 5 years, another I dated for over 2 years- both have been over for more than 7 years) and I sometimes still dream of them. I've been happily living with my guy for 5 years and we are engaged and planning a wedding and I do once in awhile have a dream with one of the exes in it. The bottom line is that they were a bit part of my life for a long time so it's obvious I am not going to completely forget about them, but that doesn't mean I am not happy and satisfied in my current relationship or that I haven't moved on. Link to comment
AutumnBorn Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 No, never dream of the ex, but I have been having dreams about my former doctor. That really shakes me up, but in a good way. Link to comment
mytimewillcome Posted December 15, 2007 Author Share Posted December 15, 2007 thanks hope75...thats just what i needed to hear... makes sense since he was a big part of my life before...i feel better now and just tell myself its not like i can control what im dreaming about... Link to comment
Hope75 Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 Of course. Dreams often incoorperate memories into different scenarios, that's not so strange. We are brainwashed into thinking that when we break up with someone, we must forget they ever existed, but that isn't realistic, is it? Link to comment
lost_for_words Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 Yep! I had a dream last night that my ex came round to say how sorry he was and that he wanted us to try again......the shock of it woke me up, so I don't know whther I agreed to it or not LOL Link to comment
emalkoc Posted December 15, 2007 Share Posted December 15, 2007 I do as well. Last night I was dreaming my ex-ex wife...She was crying and saying she made a big mistake..I know she did but I am over her so much since I am in love with someone else now. So, you have to look at the future..I think once you love someone so much, the memories are never erased. Link to comment
hopefulromantic79 Posted December 22, 2007 Share Posted December 22, 2007 I used to dream of my ex ALL the time...just about every night for 3 months straight. The dreams stopped for a while but last night I had an extremely weird one...I was performing at some Christmas holiday concert and after my piano solo, Robert Plant comes out and I sang a duet with him! And then after the duet he invited me to go out with him after the concert... My ex and I both love Led Zeppelin (and Robert Plant) so in the dream I decided to break NC to tell him about my experience. So I guess as much as I want to believe my feelings are gone for him, I think there's still that part of me that wants to seek some type of revenge...or make him jealous/regretful/etc. Bummer. Ah well...it was a great dream But it reminded me that my healing is still ongoing and I'm not done yet... Link to comment
love4life Posted December 22, 2007 Share Posted December 22, 2007 Dreamt about him the other night after my third date with this new guy. I dreamt that we were on the phone and we both said, "I miss you." Ugh. I don't really miss him, though; I just miss the feeling of being sure I love someone. Obviously I'm not completely sold on the new guy yet, so I think the dream probably just represented that I miss the feeling of being in love. Link to comment
BeStrongBeHappy Posted December 22, 2007 Share Posted December 22, 2007 the subconscious is a strange thing... your ex could represent something to you in dreams, but it's not literal reality... lots of people dream they're with Brad Pitt or George Clooney or whatever... doesn't mean they were meant to be together, just the brain fishing for images or symbols when you're in dreamland... Link to comment
bach Posted December 23, 2007 Share Posted December 23, 2007 I had dreams all last night about my ex. I hate the way they can trick you into thinking everythings a-ok and then you wake up and know youre in for a bad day. Link to comment
love4life Posted December 23, 2007 Share Posted December 23, 2007 So, as you could see from my last post that I dreamt of him a few nights ago and we said we missed each other. Last night I dreamt that he committed suicide and I tried to get in touch with his roommates for details as to what happened, but couldn't. This one I'm scratching my head over... Link to comment
LBP Posted December 23, 2007 Share Posted December 23, 2007 I had a dream where I took my paycheck to the bank and my ex cashed it for me. That's all that happened. Who knows what it means? Link to comment
Tezza Posted December 24, 2007 Share Posted December 24, 2007 These dreams probably don't really mean anything, I dream about my ex sometimes, I get annoyed and angry at myself that I had done that... It still hurts me a little that he hurt me so much... Link to comment
beauty_is_pain Posted December 31, 2007 Share Posted December 31, 2007 For the last two weeks ive been dreaming about my ex love. Like last night i dreamt that i sat in his lap, and he rubbed my arm until i fell asleep in his arms. Im used to these dreams now, but today was the first day me and him talked in ages. Makes it even harder to have contact with them after that sort of dream Link to comment
mytimewillcome Posted January 8, 2008 Author Share Posted January 8, 2008 wow...ok i guess im not alone then...dreams are a funny thing... i just found out a few days after i had that dream that my ex is now dating someone new... its been over a year and i for the most part feel okay that he is happy so i guess ive come along way... just every now and then i do miss my ex and wonder if he ever misses me Link to comment
d1211 Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 ughh well since me my ex broke up with me a couple of weeks ago, i have dreamed of him ever single day, i hate it. i dream that were together. or i dream that we both got married and lived together and were happy. i dream of us kissing. i even dreamed that i had his baby but that i was alone with out him. it has just been so crazy. i really do miss him and because everythign is so recent, maybe thats why :sad: Link to comment
need2bme Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 I have dreams of the ex, of people I don't know or of people's faces I cannot make out all and all involve falling in or out of love. Go figure. We all have them. Sometimes they suck, other times they make me feel all toasty warm. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 I dreamt about him a month or so ago....I kept trying to run him off the road in my Jeep but his Volkswagen kept getting back on the pavement. I hate it when that happens! LMAO Link to comment
ryan250 Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 I had a dream where I took my paycheck to the bank and my ex cashed it for me. That's all that happened. Who knows what it means? Did she take the money and run? I tell ya, they're all the same... (puts on flame suit) Link to comment
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