What not to do or say when being on a date with a guy!

[egygirl]

Here's a question that I have had, and It seems I still can't get things right:

 

What should women not do or say when going on the first few dates with a guy?

 

What could we do that would make him lose interest in us?

 

What are guys looking for? What do they want?

 

How do you know he's "just not that into you?"

 

If he doesnt call like he used to, or doesn't chat with you online, or answer your messages like he used to after going on a few dates, and even inviting you to be his date at a wedding...what's up with that? What's going on?

 

And why, after all of this, when you need his help with something, within 10 minutes he stops what he is doing? And comes to help you...then goes back to acting wishy-washy...or not calling you and talking to you like he is enthusiastic to be talking to you?

 

Im totally confused!!!

 

Do any of you have any answers?

[Batya33]

Here's a question that I have had, and It seems I still can't get things right:

 

What should women not do or say when going on the first few dates with a guy?

 

That question shows you might want to get to know more men as friends - men are individuals! In general I would not talk about exes, or ask prying questions about his exes or how much money he makes, etc - the typical etiquette

 

What could we do that would make him lose interest in us? Not be appreciative of his efforts in planning the date, comparing where he takes you to where someone else took you - again, common sense and manners.

 

What are guys looking for? What do they want? It depends on the individual.

 

How do you know he's "just not that into you?" if he doesn't ask you out again.

 

If he doesnt call like he used to, or doesn't chat with you online, or answer your messages like he used to after going on a few dates, and even inviting you to be his date at a wedding...what's up with that? What's going on?

 

He might be losing, or have lost, interest just like it would be for you if you did the same things.

 

And why, after all of this, when you need his help with something, within 10 minutes he stops what he is doing? And comes to help you...then goes back to acting wishy-washy...or not calling you and talking to you like he is enthusiastic to be talking to you?

 

Because he felt like helping you at that moment. If a man is sincerely interested in dating you and available to date you he will ask you out on dates he plans in advance, particularly in the beginning of a dating relationship. Often if someone acts wishy washy they will stop if you stop tolerating it. Then, either they will change their behavior and be consistent/reliable or stop calling altogether if they are not interested in dating you anymore.

[servedcold]

Guys are more interested in what you DO as opposed to what you say, but that is important also.

 

Be on time. Be on time. Be on time (got it?). It's ok to talk about current happenings in your life if they are interesting, but not asking too much advice or blabbing on nervously about minutiae, especially if it detracts from the time the man is spending with you. No one likes to hear about family quarrels or other "downer" types of discussion during a nice meal or an otherwise fun activity.

 

Unless he is boorish, do not act like you have somewhere else to be, go to the bathroom constantly, or check your phone or blackberry. Phone and blackberry should be PUT AWAY in your purse and silenced for the entirety of the date. If you are expecting an important contact, check it in the bathroom during one of your very few bathroom trips (no more than .5 trips to the b-room per hour).

 

Don't apply makeup in public. Do not make self-deprecating/fishing expedition physical comments about yourself, your attire, etc. Don't get drunk. Don't order a large entree and eat less than half of it. Do order some real food, not just a salad, if in a nice restaurant. Don't talk about diets while eating in a nice restaurant. Don't be afraid of eating your fill and ordering dessert if you like (contrary to common opinion, men like to see women enjoying a meal and eating healthily).

 

If you run into people you know, introduce him as quickly as possible and limit your time visiting with your friends. Do not flirt openly with other men while with a date, friendly no flirty. Never under any circumstances give or accept a phone number from another man while on a date.

 

OK these are some basics in rambling format, best wishes on your date.

[Leonhart]

Is this all online stuff here, or are you talking to him in person and on the phone? Because there's a big, big difference between the two outlets of communication. The internet should never be used to sustain a relationship.

[ghost69]

they help you to keep you interested just enough. maybe to get some booty.