Hello there
I am 31 & have been living with my partner & his daughter for 5 yrs & we have a 3yr old son & we are due to marry at some point.
I have sometimes wondered if I was gay as I found myself looking at women but when I started working at the hotel where my partner works there is a particular woman who attracted me. I think about her all the time, enjoy her company, miss her when I don't see her & in the past have felt something between us but backed off as I was scared of how I was feeling. I am almost definite she is gay but she keeps her cards close to her chest & I know this is because she finds it hard to trust people due to something that happened in her past.
Basically this is on my mind all the time, I even spoke to my partner about this a few months ago & he even guessed who it was but since then I have just tried to act normally around him as I can't even contemplate not been with him for the sake of our son as my parents are divorced & I never wanted that for him.
My main issue is whether I should tell my friend at work how I feel I have gone through talking to her, sending a text/email message in my mind loads of times & nearly did it today but what if it ruins our friendship although I don't think she is the sort of person to do that. The other side of if I did tell her is if she feels the same, do I want to be with a woman & what about my son???
What should I do as I know this is affecting my feelings towards my partner & he will probably suspect something again soon. I just want to be happy & give the best I can to my son.
Added 13/4/04 -If anyone else wishes to reply, especially if someone has gone thru a similar thing, please do I will keep checking.