Derek

If you are asking about the difference, It sounds like, love is selfless, while lust is selfish.

hmm, 10-20 minutes is probably pretty normal, some people can't even go for that long, but the thing is, its usually bad to compare to other people. When it comes to sex, the couple has to decide what is right for them since everyone else is different. I think "if it ain't broke, don't fix it." applies to your situation. But you asked for suggestions, some things I have heard is: - Masturbate a few hours before so there is no urgency to go too fast. (Also if a guy goes off early, if he is young and unselfish enough, he can usually keep on going with hands and such and be ready again in about 30 minutes and his lady will be flying from the ceiling by then) - there is nothing wrong with a guy losing his woody for a short break, he can still be aroused anyway (Tantric sex folks would tell you a guy needs to rest the bloodflow to his manhood every 30 minutes or so anyway) - don't be too goal oriented about the orgasm part, don't worry about timing simultaneous orgasms or about performance. As said elsewhere, its about closeness and intimacy, the other things are bonuses. - be in good physical shape. (weight) (Some people like morning romps better than nights because they are fresh in the morning) - too much alcohol is a depressant and doesn't help men's bloodflow, some say alcohol increases desire but reduces ability. making love with clear heads, open eyes and lights on takes more trust. - smoking is bad for the blood flow system as well. Another thought is if there is other problems in a relationship, fixing the sex won't always help the other things, but the reverse does work, i.e. sometimes fixing the intimacy of the relationship does help the physical part. In other words... talk about it.

Maybe he's feeling weirded out by going out with someone from work and knowing your mother and all. Perhaps you could find a way to make him feel safe about it. Get him in the comfort zone about you and maybe he can make the leap to risking his neck on getting rejected by a friend and her mom that he works with every day. But if you don't wanna bother with that song and dance, just ask him out "as a friend" to something of mutual interest and be cool. It's the 21st century girl.

Well does the other person wink at everyone? I've seen people that are just flirty with everyone. Also some people that wield their flirting like a knife to manipulate things. So I would trust a combination of factors over a single incident. Sounds like you are trying to gauge whether someone is attracted to you. Best way to know is to stick out the neck and ask about the person's level of interest. But other less accurate methods may be to ask mutual friends or continual testing of boundaries in a dance of mutual flirtation. (I don't recommend the last one but some find it fun

the best game is no game... or at least make them think there is no game.

curious problem that alot of people would love to have... It makes sense that he's nervous about pregnancy if ya get your freak on all the time. But there is alot more to making love than "intercourse" per se. Alot more things can happen. What about massages and showers and baths together. Dinners and dancing can be "sexual" too, especially if dinner is all over each others bodies. Would that kind of thing be satisfactory for you? People mentioned toys and oral and other things as well. Seems to me all those things would be fine substitutes to keep you and he warmed up without pregnancy concerns. Perhaps he needs to be revved up more as well and these other "foreplay" things would help. The point of making love doesn't have to always be orgasm. Also there is something called "outercourse" which may be of interest... Some people like it better. Google it.