ravelanch

Hi, First of all i want you to know that you are not alone in this at all, im a guy and have gone through the exzact same thing, my girlfriend of 1 and a half years broke up with me because i wanted to move to fast not sexually, but emotionally. Not to tell you my whole life story just to let you know you are not alone. You sounded like you had a long relationship with this guy and when you fall in love its even harder to deal with things. The thing about these things in life is, you dont really get over them you learn to live with them, and you say that you can still function and that is an extrodinarly wonderful thing and you should be very proud of yourself. What you need to do is find out what happened with him try to talk him for closure, if he doesnt want to talk about it then he isnt really worth it. It's very natural to cry everyday done it myself, but eventually you move on. Two Years is a long time and it will take a while to deal with it but things will get better i promise i know it doesnt seem like it but they will if you want them to. Dont feel alone, because alot of people have gone through this and maybe you need to find some people other than your friends that you can talk to because what are friends for? i mean honestly.

Listen my brother was on herion for about 14 years of his life and it messed him up alot. So you smoked some marijuana, big deal you tried it thats a good thing you know the effects you can tell people not to do it, i wouldnt telll your parents they dont need to know, just as long as you dont do it again its cool, in the long run it gives brain damage. Your parents would have tried it before but trust me dont do it again because it is stupid and a waste of time. Once is enough.

When you meet this girl, listen carefully to the way she says things. If you look closely at her face you can see certain tell tale signs, that she likes you. Dont Worry about your friends because they should be supporting you, i wouldn't say love yet mate because love is a strong thing and you havent even met up with this girl, to know a person is to love somone if you go out on a date and she bores you to tears what you gona do. Lets say like. If you like her when you meet up, away from your friends would be a good idea. Try to hold her hand, harmless doesnt make you look like an idiot kissing her, and its a small but very big thing you friends wont see if they are there so its all sweet.

It's always hard to go from a friendship relationship to a physical relationship. You say that you are new on the dating scene, well one thing of the first things you have to know about a relationship is always tell the truth. Just for future reference that is, because there is no point in doing it and it just causes more problems for both of you. What you have to got to relise, is for someone to be comfortable around you, you have to be comfortable with yourself. Your worried when your around her that you should be making moves on her which makes you unsettled, and makes her uncomfortable. When your with her, be yourself because thats who she was friends with muck around with her tickle her or something i dont know. Sit with her with your arm around her, just something to make her feel less uncomfortable. See when you dont kiss a girl, they think that you dont WANT to. Instead of looking like idiots, they go talk to your mates. Next time your with her, wait for the right moment and youll know when the right moment is and DO IT. I'll be realistic here, if you dont do something she probably wont hang around and im sure you dont want that but also if you feel uncomfortable kissing her or anything, then dont do it because if your not ready then wait. Guys have to be ready to you know.