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Thanks guys..I really appreciate all your advice.. Man I feel like a knob, I just sent her a long letter in the mail.There's no going back, it's in the mail now.She'll get it by tuesday or wednesday at the latest. So I've already sent it...What should I do now? Just let go and wait? I'm thinking I should go back to the way I used to be before I met her. I hate to admit it but I used to be a kind of a male slut...Well I've slept with alot of woman anyway..And the thing was that 99% of the women I was with were nothing like my ex..I mean my ex is pretty and all but she is not the Girly Girl type that I was used to.. She was a country girl... but the thing is I can't get her out of my mind?? arrghhhhhhh........????? What now?

Wow , what a mess eh? Do you guy's think I've screwed things up for good? You do stupid things when you're hurt.... I don't know what to do...My buddies called and want to go for a beer at a pub downtown.Hope this helps for now..But tomorrow will be the same.. How can I get her back?I miss her.

Thanks for the reply Anamarie. But how long should I wait to call her, I mean I think I am already pushing her away and pressuring her but I really really want to get back with her.. I love her soo much and unfortunetly I didn't realize until she was gone. She loved me soo much when we were together but I never showed it back as much. I did show it but not as much.. They haven't said it but I think even my whole family misses her..They really liked her and her family loved me too.

Hi everyone... I just posting again regarding my last post. My girlfriend and I have been brroken up for about a month and I think she is dating someone new like I said in my last post. Anyway's last night(Friday) she called me and we talked for a bit and she asked if she could borrow my car so that she can go see her family thhat live an hours drive away. I hesitated but then I said yes because I knew how much she loves her family and doesn't get to see them often. Anyway's I went to go pick her up so she can used my car , so she dropped me off at home first. Well in the car on the way to drop me off we were talking, mainly I was talking about how much I loved her and that I wanted to get back with her and such. She kept saying that she wasn't sure and blah blah blah.But to be honest the conversation we had the whole way to drop me off was fairly good, I actually made her smile and we were lauging together. She dropped me off and she went to her parents. She called me once she got there, (Because I asked her to) and small chat for a bit and I talked to her 3 year old nephew that was still calling me Uncle.... After we hung up that night I kind got the feeling that maybe we can actually make thing work out. But the next day (Today)Saturday I think I blew it.... She called today to say she was on her way back to drop off my car.Alls well I thought... She got back at my place she played with the dog and 2 cats she left behind when she left me. She said she was going to meet her friend downtown behind a groceery store parking lot. I offered to drive hehr there and she accepted. This is where I blew it I think.As I was driving her downtown I couldn't help but ask her how things were going with her new "Boyfriend" or the guy shee was dating ,whatever... She got offended because I asked and refused to answer my question. Ikept asking her to tell me because If I knew she was happy with that new guy that I would just let go...but she still wouldn't answer me. She kept saying that it is not about her and this guy but that it was about us..Between me and her. She got upset and told me to drop her off about 4 blocks frrom where I was supposed to drop her off, but I said that I will drop hher off there... So we got to the grocery store parking lot and before she got out I got kind of desperate I kind of begged her to give us another try.She refused for now.. she said"My answer is the same as last time,I don't know right now." so I reached over to hug her and she wouldn't let me.... I drove off and was thinking to myself is she really meeting her friend or that guy?? So I drove around the block and got back at the grocery store and say her there waiting..I pulled in the parking lot,parked got out and started walking towards her saying that we needed to talk some more.. I reached to huhg her again and she said to not touch her and asked me why I was being so possesive..She said I just don't know what to do anymore...for the last 3 years you hardly showed me that you loved me and now you think you can change all that now.. She started crying hard and went to hug her but she pushed me away... I knew she was waiting for either her friend or that guy so I didn't say another word and just left... What should I do people?? I'm thinking to lay low and not call her and maybe send her a card or letter? but what should I say in the letter if I send it? I don't know what to do but it seems that I aam pushing her away more when I'm trying to get her back.. Please Help, any advice would be appreciated..Thanks

Thanks Mar Yeah I should do that..Lay low for a while.. Yeah I know It sounds suspicious and convenient that he lives here now. But honestly I checked up on his name and number ,I knew his name and number because of call display, and checked it on the web and in fact he did live that far.. But I see your point though on just letting go for now or for good and see what's out there.. I just find it hard that she would like this guy , even though we've lived and been together for nearly 3 years. I mean she used to always ask me when I was going to marry her and have a baby with her and stuff like that. It may be just a rebound relationship?? I d'ont know but I'll lay low for a while..Wait until she calls me... Thanks Mar

Hey Everyone, hope you can give me advice My girlfriend and I broke up about a month ago and it was hard.We've always had our problems about arguying over stupid things. Well anyways about a week before we finally broke up my ex was using the computer alot , joining in on chat rooms and all which I didn't think of much of it then but the week after when we broke up.The day after thisguy kept calling our house and asking for her, at the time shhe said it was her friends boyfriend calling. We'll anyways a few days later she told me it was a guy that she met on-line that lives about 18 hour drive from here on the east coast. I believed it too because I checked the number and it was from there. She used to talk to him for hours and hours on the phone and was getting expensive you know he lives far, and she was telling me that he was just a guy to talk to as he was going through the same relationship thing. A week later she found a place and moved out. We'd talk once in a while but not much..One day she was late for work and she needed a ride so she called me and I was nice enough to give her a ride.On that car ride to her work she told me she was going to the movies that night with"some guy" ...that made me feel like"Beep"... I felt hurt but I let it go.. We didn't talk for a while until she showed up at my place to see thhe pets and talk. I told her that I loved her and I wanted to try and make things work but she said that she didn't want to, she was scared...We were making small talk after that and asked her what she did last night, and she replied by saying , she watched a movies at that guy's house..She ends up telling me that the guy is the same guy she was chatting with that lived an 18 hour drive away?? I asked her , doesn't he live far on the east coast?? She said that he moved to our city because he got a job with the government. Well I was shocked and also very hurt.. So I got really mad and told her to take the rest of her small stuff out of the apt and I'll drive her home...Get to her place and threw her stuff out of the car.Called her the next day and said I was sorry for acting soo aggresive and told her that I loved her and want to try our relationship again..She said she doesn't know?? Anyone help me especially the girls..Does she ever want to get back together? What should I do?

Thanks for the info.. Yeah sucks eh.. Maybe I should play low key for a while and see what happens..Cause deep down I really do love her but I'll let her decide for herself.. Who knows maybe I'll find my type of girl sometime..My ex wasn't really my type but we grew close to each over the last 3 years.. THANKS

My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years but we broke up about 4 weeks ago, things started off well but since after the trip we took in February for 2 weeks things have gone downhill.On the trip we didn't get along much some days were only OK but most we bickered and argued. We are totally opposites from each other.. I grew up in the city in which we shared an apartment for 2 years and she is from a city an hours drive away. I'm a really outgoing person that likes to go out alot and spend time with my friends but have kept low key alot just because she really has no friends around here and gets lonely..We still go out with buddies and all but not as much because she does not like it when I drink. I used to drink often, around 2-3 times a week but for the past year I promised her I would cut back, and I did.I drink about once a month now usually with her and other friends,My friends whom she doesn't really like all that much. She was always the one saying she wanted to marry me and have kids someday but I was always afraid of that big commitment and for some reason care what my friends would think.I'm a very self-couscience and materialistic guy.... But over the past 3 weeks or so I have really thought about commitment and that I really do love her and do wanna marry her. I've talked to her about this bbut she still doesn't want to get back together.. She says that she is scared to come back.Because all honesty we've tried it before and always got back to the same place....arguing about anything and everything. I really miss her and want to try to get back with her but when I talked to her last night she said that she wasn't sure if she wanted to try again...And to top it off she is going to the movies tonight with some guy??Supposively she just met him....? What should I do ?How can I get her back? I've tried talking to her,writing letters to her and even a poem.. help