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Hey man.... good thread you started because I'm like you.. Same thing happens with me for some reason and sorry I can't offer any advice as I'm hear looking for some as well for the same thing....LOL.. One thing I can add though is that what you are going through happens to me alot as well but after thinking about it I'd say that of all the girls I have dated in the past 2 years , 1/3 of them I dumped after a month or so and honestly I think it was because I was being superficial?..... I mean I'd lose attraction for them and not be as interested and in it for just the sex but then now I'm thinking of all the other women I have dated and did the same to me in regards to being distant after a month maybe felt the same way as I did ( and they are the girls I still find attractive and sexy)..they were not attracted to me anymore ?? But like I said..I have no clue why this happens to me really and looking for advice

Yeah that's what I'm doing !..gonna let her be and call me if she wants...like you said...don't need these games. A girl I used to date before her is coming over Saturday...that should keep my mind off of her !...lol

Well.....I pretty much figured this girl out I think...After our date last Saturday that went pretty well and she gave me all that "not a girlfriend" talk and such but she really likes me blah blah blah. She calls me Sunday to say thanks and all week she has been a little distant. #1...she said she was gonna call me tuesday night but never did and then the next morning she text me and said sorry but I forgot you're number ? She's called me like 10 times at least so far...then last night I called her but no answer on her cell and then text message me this morning saying she didn't hear it.... So I'm thinking...fine...whatever.. Tonight she calls me around 630 to ask me questions about computers because she knows I build them and fix them...was a quick call.. Then tonight at 9pm or so she calls again to say Hi and we chat for a bit and I end up asking her if she wants to go see a movie on Saturday....she replies quickly by saying..I'm busy...and friday night too...going out with the girls... I said..sure no prob, whatever..and told her she knows my number and gimme a shout sometime if she wants to get together again sometime and left it at that... So in my head I'm thinking...frig this....I'm better than that...I'm not calling her again or asking her out and I'll let her call me if she wants to and ask me out if she wants...I DON'T want to become in her "Friend" category..I have enough friends...lol...last thing I need is someone I liked to just wanna be friends or something.. What do you guys think ? Am I going by it the right way ? I think so..

Yeah seriously... she is a little strange...LOL.. She said she owes me a dinner and wants me over sometime soon so I'll bring it up then..Much rather do it in person... I'm not looking to jump into anything really serious but i like this girl and would like to progress naturally but she's giving me all these mixed signals.. We get along really well and hang out like we've been together for a while..plus...the sex is great which I can't complain about that ! Arrggg..the whole dating scene ....! Should I even bother calling her this week ? Leave it in her hands for now.. since she is the undecided one ?

A little update on the situation and honestly I am still quite unsure about this whole thing. She came over to my place Saturday for dinner. When she first walked in she gave me a nice kiss which was nice. We had dinner and a few drinks and then we basically hung out in my basement watching the hockey game as she was lying on me and cuddling and holding hands,kissing and such.. We then proceeded to my bedroom and made out and such and she told me again that she really likes me but is not sure about the whole girlfriend thing as she feels our relationship is proceeding forward and such. She told me kinda jokingly but not really that she can see herself not speaking to me anymore later on in like 2 weeks because she doesn't want to get too attached and hurt me ? We talked in my bed for about 30 mins and she insisted she wasn't going to have sex with me that night but we ended up sleeping with each other later that night anyhow. Well anyways..she left later that night, gave a kiss goodnight. When she left..I was thinking..."What the ##$%$ happened ???" Well she called me the following night just to say Hi and good night.. So...from the ladies perspective....what should I do here...Is she wasting my time or what ?

Again tonight !!...she just called me and wanted to say good night and we were talking about our date at my house on Saturday night...? I mean...If I would have said what she said to me last night, I wouldn't be calling like this..I'd be doing what I've done before and that is just calling on week-ends for a booty call ?... Girls confuse me big time !...lol

Yeah I'm gonna keep the date....and keep my cool... Any females here have any other insights ? Or have said this before ?

Probe some other orafaces next time and see what she does... \ LOL....I'm not sure about that ...Saturday is only the 4th date.. maybe the 5th date I'll try that...hahaha

LOL...yeah maybe..but she said that after we had sex and when we were cuddling and doing the after sex thing...maybe if she would have said it during intercourse ?..

Very wise...yes true...the sex is great...she cute and she is fun to hang out with...I guess I'm just looking to much into it!

That sounds very weird..I've honestly never had that happen to me.. I'm thinking that she was with her friends all along and planned all of this out as a joke..just for their satisfaction for some bad reason ??

I'm not sure...but all day I've pondering if I should keep the date with her at my place on Saturday ?... Just don't wanna waste my time if you know what I mean....

Thanks...I know what you mean...I gotta just roll with the punches

Well said my man...well said !.. As I see it now...I'm just gonna enjoy my date again with her on Saturday night and just see how things go..Basically just go with the flow.. I'm usually the one that likes to take things slow so I'll keep at it, just that she threw me off a little bit off with that statement when I haven't said anything in regards of getting serious with her..

Yeah a little confusing... she called me thislate so I assume she likes me more than I though anyhow... I'm gonna just go with the flow as it seems now..Hopefully we will have a great night Saturday..which I'm sure we will..we always have and then see from there.. I remember know why I find dating so confusing ...lol.... especially when you start liking the other person !

Yeah I know... Weird thing is....2 mins ago she just called me and toldme she couldn't sleep and just wanted to call me and say thanks for dinner tonight and she had a great time and she's looking forward to Saturday night ? HMMM...man...chicks confuse me !...hahaha

Yeah I've realized she has given me fair warning.. Just sucks how things seem to work out that way..I'm usually the one saying that to women that I'm not interested in a relationship and now with a girl that I actually like she says that to me...?..lol.... We've only been on 3 dates and Saturday will be our 4th but I actually like this one so far... Like the old saying goes I guess...."What goes around... comes around.."...haha

I'm totally ok with it actually but a little confused... Saying I'm totally ok with meaning that I've done it with many girls in the past 2 years since my last real "long" relationship.. But funny thing is that I actually started to like this girl and she was the one telling me this... It's usually me saying to girls "I"m not the boyfriend " material.. just a little confused I guess

Hey Everyone...thanks for reading my post... Haven't been on here in a few months..Some of you might remember me.. Ok..here goes.... I met this girl 2 weeks ago and we have been on 3 dates so far...Each date has been great....we got along emotionally and physically extremely well. The first date we both knew we were physically attracted to each other in the fact that we had alot of touching and such and ended up making out for a long time and chatted for hours. The second date was the same...had a few drinks, ate some good food and enjoyed each other's company and by the end of the night we ended up sleeping with each other,,,,not once but twice...Anyways we had a great time...Then tonight was the same...hung out, ate dinner, listened to music and then we ended up having sex again which was great. Afterwards we did the usual cuddling and holding of hands and givinglittle kisses and such but then in the middle of all of that she ends up tellling me out of the blue that she is "Not girlfriend" material...??? I kinda didn't know what to say at that point but ended saying..." sure if that'show you feel ?..Mind you ...prior to that there was no relationship talk whatsoever between us we were basically new with each other at dating and going with the flow and BANG she says that.. Don't get me wrong...I'm not looking for anything serious really quickly but I actually ended up really liking this girl so far and the funny thing is that she is coming over to my house Saturday night because I am making her dinner and we are going to watch a movie and stuff... So the question is...should I pursue this any further with this girl if I know now that I kinda like her more than just "Friends" and she told me what she told me tonight ?... I'm wondering if she is serious or just scared of any type of relationship at the moment ? Any insight on this would be much appreciated.. thanks !

Thanks... well said !

It ended because we simply were not compatable.. We would always bicker and such.. And came to a point that we were always argueing near the end.

I wondering if I'm a nymphomaniac ? It has been 3 weeks since the last time I had sex and I am going crazy?..it's all I think about.. I consider myself a good guy and have been single now for 2 years after a 3 year relationship but it seems that lately I'm being so pre-occupied with casual sex. Honestly I really really want to meet a sweet girl that I can call my girlfriend but for some reason I'm being too picky or something..I've been meeting alot of women lately and it just turns out to be nothing but sex...my choice though because I'm not that "IN" to them..I meet a girl...we hang out watch a movie at my place and have sex..that's it that's all...and then eventually after a couple of months they decide they need more out of the relationship and take off...always saying.."I really like you and I want a relationship but all we really do is have sex" Honestly I really want to meet a sweet girl but is it wrong that if I meet someone and from the get go all I want is sex and that's all? I eventually tell them that I am not interested in a relationship and they say OK...but then leave after a few weeks..which I understand.. Maybe I'm being too picky or something but in the back of my mind I'm thinking...well...until I meet the girl of my dreams....I should have fun and experiment ?.. Any insight here ?

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Yeah I've though of that as well that she wants to get with me as revenge towards him.. The weird thing is ...is that he was the one that gave her my e-mail...but has been making remarks that he would go nuts if I'd sleep with her and such..

I don't know for a fact but I think he mentally and verbally abused her.. Yeah I'm not goona pursue it even though she gets me all riled up.. I've always found her sexy but just can't do that