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hi mate, i agree with avman - don't stigmatise medication just because there is a perception society does. i have been on lustral for a couple of months now (similar to proz.) & i'm not addicted and yes it has helped me. medication isn't a cure-all but it lifts you above the situation and empowers you to deal with what your going through in a logical manner, which i know is the hardest thing to do - especially when you've been hurt. believe me that clarity of thought is a wonderful thing to have, especially when you feel like your bouncing through one day to the next. the doc is there to help you not hurt you - have a little bit of faith in what they say & they will help you on and most importantly OFF the medication (don't cut it out without the docs advice - V.IMPORTANT!!!) i found a little bit of strength through the medication which helped me through a nasty time, and with some of the fantastic people who gave me support through enotalone - i feel fighting fit (and a little bit wiser!), and moving on with my life to better places. good luck mate & best wishes i'm sure alot of people on here are thinking the same.

hello mate - it sounds like you have made a decision on what you will do, and i wish you the best of luck and hope it works out - but please dont place all of your faith in this developing as you describe otherwise you will leave nothing for yourself if it doesn't work. be realistic and be happy, but take care of yourself and your feelings first - you deserve it.

hello mate - i've just posted a similar article to you 'is it right to run away from the pain' - & its sad to know other people are being forced through a similar thing. my only word of advice is that i know how impossible it is to say no to an ex you love but as the person said above if she truly loved you she would do anything not to hurt you. i fear that she might be doing this for selfish reasons as they obviously don't have your interests at heart. as hard as it is leave it alone completely, and walk away - otherwise you could end up making a post like mine...

hi all, like everyone else on this forum i'm also going through the wringer at the moment. I had always felt that deep down I had been blessed with the most amazing luck - wonderful family, great friends, a job that paid well & i am passionate about, and most importantly a girl which i unconditionally loved. im not sure if it was a lack of trust or a series of small things which made me do what i'm now so ashamed of doing, but on saturday i broke into her email account. i guess it was when she went travelling for nearly a year during 2001 which gave me my first concerns, as we seemed to enter into this phase of 'make up' - 'break up' after she came back, but still i had thought we had got through the worst of it and had reached a balance again. it was about 6 weeks ago when we went through what was to be our last break up & i'm still not completely sure why i broke into the email account at this point but i guess i needed to know the truth. unfortunately what i found has devesated my life - not only had she been unfaithful during her travels with a whole number of men, but also before she went and after she had come back. the most hurtful and vicious element in this is that she had been sleeping with people who had been my closest friends for nearly 10 years. what made it worst is that all of my circle of friends knew what was happening, including members of my family - whilst i was telling them how much i loved her. i still cant quite believe that she would say so many spiteful things about me to so many people, enjoy the fact she was taking my money hand over fist, and feel no guilt for what she has done its quite amazing that my job is inpart assessing political situations and key people within them - so i thought i could spot a lie miles away - but yet i missed this one so close to me. the betrayal of not only her, my friends, and my family, has left me so stunned and in such agony that i can only think of selling my home and moving to the US and leaving this all behind (something which i've always wanted to do anyway) - but is this the right thing to do? i happen to live on a small island so everywhere i go i see reminders of her, or the men she took back to my home whilst i was at work. so what can i do?