radiogirl24

don't do anything right now....I am trying to get over my ex of 4 years as well...the biggest mistake I made was making irrational decisions because I missed him. I would call him all the time, beg him to come back and when that didn't work I would go out and have a fling with some random guy just to feel better. The flings made me feel awful about myself and certianly didn't help. I am still very much in love with my ex and want to get him back badly, but he won't do it right now. At least your ex is opening the door for you. But if you said he was cheating on you and not making you happy then I would consider things very seriously before getting back. To be honest I wouldn't do anything. It sounds like you need to be single...so as soon as the opportunity presents itself I would move out and stay friends with your current man or even date him...but don't be tied to anyone through living situations or money until you know for sure what and who you want. Good Luck!!

I am right there with you honey. I broke up with my bf of 4 years and after 4 months it is still very difficult. Its only been a week so go easy on yourself. The biggest thing to know is that you are going to go through a whirlwind of emotions. Angry, sad, guilty and of course blaming everything you possibly can for the break up. That's fine...give in to all of those emotions...just so long as you do it in a healthy way. Crying your eyes out is fine....try, if you can, to think about other things at work, but when you get home...let it all out. This may sound crazy but even indulge your sadness with sappy music or a bottle of wine. That is all part of the healing process. Right now though...after it being so soon...I wouldn't make any rash decisions, just let yourself grieve and be mad if you need to. Calling him and dishing it out with him might help even though I know most people don't think this is the best advise. I always felt better after I had talked to my ex even if we argued because I at least got a better understanding of where he was coming from...and I also got to vent my emotions to the very person who caused them. All in all just remember it will take time, but like everyone says...you will get over it. I mean only one of two things can happen. You guys will get back together down the line...or it just won't happen. I am still dealing with the "just won't happen" thing personally. But you have to keep plugging away at life the best you can.

Hello everyone! I am new to this forum and thought it would help to vent my problems and get some advice. I dated my ex for about 4 years all through college and year after college. Things were great for awhile then we started fighting over petty things and did the whole make up, break up things quite a few times. This last time we ended it was about 4 months ago. I know the reason he didn't try to get me back before...it was because I was having some emotional problems and trying to get through school. But I am on a very positive track right now with a new successful career started and feel that I have matured quite a bit. The long and short of it is...I still love him and even after 4 months I cannot get this man out of my head. I have tried everything to get him back from begging to completely ignoring him for months to just trying to be friends. Well recently I visited him for the first time since the break-up. We had a wonderful time...besides some of his usual ribbing and ended up in bed together with many of the same feelings pouring themselves out. But when I brought up the idea of just dating to see where things might go he said he couldn't do that with me...He said there was no dating for us...because we had too much baggage...it was all or nothing...and right now he didn't want to commit himself to all of it. He said he was open to being friends and hanging out. I'm not worried about being used...because the sex was very consensual and being an adult I know that sometimes two people just have a very physical attraction. In fact I think I could deal with that if I knew he just wanted sex. But he wants to spend time with me and hang out and talk....at least that is how it seems. I just don't understand any of it. He admits he still loves me and hasn't really dated since we broke up...he admits that he is still extremely attracted to me....Why the hell won't he at least consider dating me? Is there a plan of action that would work to make him mine again? If not, then how the hell do I get over him? And one last question? Can exes really be friends??