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I am going to give you some advice from what I have just experienced. Take it REALLY REALLY SLOW. I know you have all these infatuation feeling for her, probably because: 1. she is a woman. 2. you are spending time with her 3. you find her attractive If you want to know, I just got booted from a girl I was dating and I feel I was the robund guy... do I regret not taking it slower?? yes .. actually, I kinda do. if you want to read more of my story, I have a post up... somewhere. Just hang out and get to know her more... and if it goes somewhere, great. If not, you might have made the best friend you've ever had. now, what you do is up to you. I hope only the best for you.

The hardest thing is overcoming the urge to want to talk to her. Also, it's quite difficult when I do run into her and she'll say things that make it even more difficult, i.e. "I was wondering how long it would take you to notice me" with a huge smile on her face

I think this is a bad sign myself....

I don't think I would say no, but I would take things real slow ... that's for sure. Thanks for the kind words

Hmmm. Now you have to think about is this worth it. It seems like the "infatuation" stage is starting to melt away. If she really fels the way you think she feels about you, she would want to stick around IMO.

"I decided im gonna give her time to think and i'll wait for her to get in touch with me, cuz her feelings are beyond my control, so that's something she'll have to figure out on her own." That is so true and I am glad you know that. Sometimes it is better not to force things... as much as you may want to ... let things happen... and if things work out ...Awesome!! if not, as crappy as it may be, there is always something to be learned and try not to think of the negatives, but remember the positives. I am in sort of a situation like yours, so don't feel like you're alone. I hope everything works out for the best for you.

Hello all, Fist post here.. I've been reading a bit as a guest and thought I'd share some info and seek some advice. Kind of a lengthy story. Anyways, I met a girl in September. We got to know each other as friends and she had a boyfriend ... I was never real close to her ... just more of a fun acquaintence. In December, she ended it with her boyfriend of 5 years. I never ever considered dating her and was pursuing someone else, which didn't work out at about the same time. In January, we started actually hanging out and went on a few dates and things just sort of happened. After a few dates, we were getting intimate and I stopped her and told her the truth. I was a virgin and was waiting for someone special to share that part of my life with. She seemed shocked at first, but that didn't scare her away. We also talked about the fact that she had just gotten out of a long term relationship and how if I was going to be a rebound, I wanted nothing to do with her. After a few more times, we talked more about what sex meant to each of us and we had similar views. Then that's when I decided that I was ready... if it happened ... it happened. We had sex not long after... A week later, on a Tuesday, towards the end of January, she told me it was getting serious and she wasn't ready for that... it hurt, but I told her I understood. She then wanted to plan going out on Sunday. I agreed. On that Sunday, we went out and had fun. I ended up back at her place and that evening she said she wanted to date me exclusively. I was a little reluctant because she had just told me she wasn't ready and just got out of a long relationship. After talking for a bit, I agreed. After a little over a month, we spent more time together ... a couple of times or more per week. I got to know her more and she got to know me more and I have to say I fell for her... again. There were qualities I didn't like, but noone is perfect. I even sort of liked the qualities I didn't like haha We had our own interests, but shared common important ones like family, goals in life, having fun, a healthy lifestyle, etc. Anyhow, After a little over a month, we didn't see each other for a week. I went on a mental health trip and she went on a trip to see family. Her family had told her before that they felt it was too soon to be involved with another person. After I got back, I talked to her on the phone and she said that it wasn't going to work out because out personalities were different and we want different things. I had a gut instinct that she was lying... you know how sometimes you can just tell.... the way something is said?? I was devastated. I asked her if I was just a rebound to her ... and her response was when you are dating, you just don't know. so I haven't talked to her for a while and ran into her a couple of times and had a fun conversation with her. I haven't called her or plan on calling her. Anyone that has been in this situation or hasn't, if she called me and wanted to date again, would I be stupid for saying yes? if so or not, why? I thought about the situation, and feel I would end up saying yes. ... and no, I am not waiting around for her to call. I feel that it does make it more difficult because she was the first woman I have made love to. Thanks for your insights