someones_angel

Your friends sound insecure.They have to put you down to make themselves feel better.I joke with my friends but if it ever really hurt them id stop straight away. As for your acne im a qualified beautician and i had acne a while back.I always found cleasing,toning and moisturising helps.Also try finding a cream to help dry your skin out. Maybe something with benzoyl peroxide in it.

There are loads of reasons for depression.Mainly though mine was because i didnt pay myself enough attention i didnt think i was worth the effort so i put everything into helping others. caterina- i can see how that could have made you depressed.Glad that youve got through it.Well done! Depression is a very hard thing to get through.When i was depressed i got people telling me to stop feeling sorry for myself.I tend to be a listener.I listen to peoples problems and help them out.I found because of this people see you as someone who will always be there for them and because they are wrapped up in there own problems they become selfish thereselves. I had problems,i needed someone to listen to me.But people forget that as they see you as the person that helps work problems out.They think that there problem is the be all and end all. I remember reading something not so long ago.I think it was from the bible or something.Even though im not religious in any way. It was a little story about peoples problems and that a person got everyone who had problems to come to some sort of meeting.they was all moaning about how awful there problems where and whos was the worst.The bloke told everyone to take there problems and put them in a bag and then put them all on the floor.He then toldeveryone to choose a different bag.When these people chose there bag they found that the problem they had was awful they couldnt stand it.These feeling where perculiar.They didnt know how to deal with it.Some people wanted to die because of the problems they had chosen.In the end the man told everyone to swap back ther problems.They was relieved. I think the whole point of the story was that there is always someone with worse problems.You are here at the moment and because the problem and feelings are familiar to you can deal with it and you can get through it! Maybe that makes no sense to everyone here,maybe i told it a litte wrong sorry but it helped me i realise that no matter what i can always get through it!

Thanks At least i did something right !

I found something basically written like this somewhere and decided to put it a little differently.I thought it might be useful. Although it is true that when you are depressed it is hard to follow these.I know ive been depressed in the past.But hopefully if you do follow these it wont get to that point.

1. You should give yourself the same care and attention you give others. 2. You are not an "endless resource" for others. You must stock up on reserves and not get too drained. 3. You have needs too, which may be different from your family, friends and colleagues. 4. You dont have to say "yes" to all requests or feel guilty when saying no. 5. The perfect person doesn't exist. The good-enough one does. 6. You have the right to be treated with respect as a worthwile, intelligent and competent person. 7. You dont have to have everyone's approval all the time to know you are trying your hardest. 8. Time for unwinding is time very well spent. 9. Making mistakes is not a disaster. You can learn from these and it allows others to as well. 10. You must be fair to yourself and remember at all time, especially in the face of criticism, anxiety and difficulties. YOU ARE DOING THE BEST THAT YOU CAN.

I used to have a problem with my bloke looking at porn.More than likely though hed just be looking at pictures of naked women.It upset me, i cried, i was jealous.I just didnt feel good enough anymore.When we were out id constantly check where he was looking and if he was looking at another woman id be hurt.I thought i must be ugly if hes always looking at pics of other women and looking at other women in the street.It became so bad that id cry constantly and i well and trully hated myself. In the end my bf suggested i see a consellor.I agreed and went anything to stop me feeling this hurt.I told the consellor everything and told me i wasnt going mad but that i was anxious and it making me worse so i had to exercise more.He asked me why i was so upset about the porn and i told him it made me feel that i wasnt good enough and that i was ugly and that my bf preffered them to me.He helped me alot and helped build my self confidence and self esteem.Now im not so bothered about the porn anymore.He actually doesnt look at it anymore. If you actually look at porn the women on them arent that pretty at all.If my bf watches porn now i actually dont care anymore. One thing that does get to me though is that men aways say porn isnt important but yet they are so quick to come up with something to defend themselves about using it. If you catch your bf looking at porn one day.surprise him walk up to the computer turn it off and tell him that you could do much better than that.or even dress up extra sexily for him and im sure he wont want to be watching the porn anymore