loneylaur

One of my best friends, Julie, broke up with her boyfriend Nick about 3 months ago on bad terms. I talked to him while they were going out and I've kept in touch with him since now just online. We started talking on the phone about a month ago and hanging out about 2 weeks ago. I really like Nick but I don't know if friend's ex's are off limits. I've told her that I talk to him still and asked if it bothered her and she said it didn't but she's usually stubborn about things so i really couldn't tell if it did. I really love being around him and he's definitely my type. Is he fair game?

I think you definitely need to break it off with this guy. Sometimes our feelings change toward someone, and it doesn't mean you never loved him but maybe the love changed. If you are not happy in this relationship, it isn't a healthy relationship. It's not fair to yourself or him to stay together just for the sake of being together. Maybe you can work it out in the future. Good luck! Laur

Hey Tony, you seem like an amazing person to want to reach out to other people. I have also went through a period where I felt very suicidal after a bad breakup, and I know at the time it was very hard to see any point in living. But it's helpful for people to think of waht they were and did before they were dating the person...they lead full lives being single and they can still lead full lives after a break up.

My ex boyfriend broke up with me unexpectedly in October, because he told me that his love for me had changed and he felt more of a friendship love rather than a relationship love. I've dated, and had one other boyfriend since him but nothing seems to help me to get over him. I miss him all the time and now that I have a new boyfriend, I find that no one can compare to my first love. I don't know what to do, because I don't wanna feel that way anymore . Can anyone help?