what do i do
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Okay, so after going out last night I realized that, I have made so many sacrafices for him, I have been there for him and loved him unconditionally. Now he needs to do that for me, and I am not going to pursuade him or call. I will only feel satisfied if he makes the first steps. If he doesn't, he doesn't I am not going to sit and wait for him, if he changes his mind and I am available okay if not, his loss. Now, I just need to focus on being strong and not giving into myself. I know that there will be times I want to call but I can't this is something he needs to figure out himself.
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I got alot to think about what can I say. But, as for tonight I am going out with the girls. Chat later. Thanks..
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He is stubburn, easily influenced and every other immature cowardly act we think of and I know this it is not news to me. We have always got thru things together as a team. I can honestly say that aside from our BF/GF relationship we were friends. We were good friends for a year before we starting dating. He had other GF's and I had other BF's. I don't want him to change I want him change. I want him to mature, I want him to realize what I mean to him, I want him to stand up to his family. Aside from the all of a sudden harsh break up he has allot of stress right now he is building a house that I helped pick out everything for, But aside from that everything that could go wrong has. If was suppose to be ready in june, problem after problem. He owns a restaurant and has ran in to some legal trouble with the labor board, One of the contractors for the house ran off with $$$$. It has been a bad two months for him and I feel like all of that could be playing a roll.
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you are completely right about what needs to be said and I realize that and had something in mind along those lines. But my dilema is the timing in which I will attempt to do this. Like I have said before he is very stubburn and I am sure right now he is just thinking let it burn and he will get over this. Which is why I want him to sit with his thoughts. I am sure right now everytime he thinks of me he is pushing it to the back of his mind. So if I were to call he would not answer if I was to e-mail he would read it and again push it to the back of his mind. So I want the timming to be right. I know I will never know when that is but, hopefully he will call and let me know or I will have to use my best judgement. I am not sitting around waiting for his call because like I said I know him and I know it takes him a while to figure things out for himself. But, here's the kicker, I am the support he usually uses to get through things or make hard decisions. Now that he does not have me to do this what will happen is the question. Knowing that is what makes me so curious.
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You are right and I realize that is exaxtly how the conversation should go. But dont you think befor I do that I should wait to see if he reaches out to me. I feel like to do it now is pointless because knowing him he has just been pushing it to the back of his mind. So I want to do it when it will be most effective. If I called now he would not answer and if I e-mailed him he would probally just read it and again push it to the back of his mind. He is very stubburn. Five days to him is nothing, I know he is probally thinking let is burn it will go away. So I want him to realize that it is not going to go away that easy. Does that make sense?
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I know you guys are 100% right, but as it stands right now he does not want to discuss, he told me to let him be as he cried. So that is why I said breaking point. At this point he is to scared to even talk to me never the less talk about the situation. So again I feel like putting pressure on him is not the solution. There is no doubt that if I did the begging pleading thing I could get him back. I want him to realize on his own what he did and what the reality of that really is. I think he needs to take this time and think and think hard. This is going to be a true test of is he willing to stand up and fight for the person he loves. If not I know my answer. I don't feel I should try to contact him, because again he is the one who needs to realize what I mean to him. Oh, just and FYI he broke up with me over the phone because he would not be able to do it if I was in front of him. ( I know coward) But none the less. I love him!!
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So I shouldn't give him time to think and realize what he did? I don't think the reallity of life without me has hit him yet or maybe it has and I am just being hopeful that he will come around.
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I think she is confused and doesn't know what she wants. Stop, showing her that you are always there and she will come around.
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Your telling me? My B-day is next Monday if he doesn't call by then I will surely have a whole different perspective. I might not be sane or rational!!!
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If it has crossed your mind then that means you are thinking about it. Everyone wants someone to grow old with you dont want to be alone forever. If you don't eventually (not now) give him what he truly wants he will leave you. You have to decide if that is something you are will and able to deal with. I think you need to tell him if this is something the both of you do it is for good. But realize every marriage has it ups and downs there are couples that are unhappy for years and work through it and bring themselves back to that happy place together. It truly is a commitment and you need to make sure that the both of you are ready for that. Good luck!
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The day we broke up I did the whole 5 yr bit this is not happening we can work through it and all he did was cry and say this is what he had to do. So finally I said okay this is what you want this is what you got, and he said thank you!!!!
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Yes, that is what I need to figure out, How much time should I give this?
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yes, i think is will happen that is why I am waiting. If he has his mind made up then, until he feels what life is like without me, me calling will not do anything. He probally wont even answer. I really feel like I should give him time. He is scared...
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Where he will come to his sense and realize what he has lost.
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Annie 24 I dont want to call him now because he needs to reach his breaking point first and he is stubburn so I do believe he is there yet.