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  1. super_dave0001
    damn that sounds awsome, did u get back together offically and r u still together?
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    i believe that NC can do 2 things... first, it helps you heal urself because if u still love ur ex deeply, knowing they have a new bf/gf would hurt u deeply no?... atleast not knowing wut there upto and keeping urself busy helps u heal, esspecailly if ur around the right ppl afterwords.... second, i believe absense makes the heart grow fonder, that being said, u disapearing from ur ex can sumtimes make them wonder about u, wut ur doing and it impacts there life... in turn possibly making them realise wut a great person u were and that they made a mistake... but like i always say to myself, if u do NC and they contact u, then thats there choice, but its ur choice to contact them back...
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    that couldnt be more true.... when we broke up she completely changed to the point where i told her "wow i thought i knew you".... its amazing how ppl can just change overnight
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    lol im sorry but that is kinda funny wut he said.... and the rest of ur post is so true aswell... its amazing wut goes throu ppls heads sumtimes... i wonder if my ex were to ever say she wants to get back together with me, wut my reaction would be... id probably laugh at her... straight up
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    lol does my situation really sound that bad?.... iver decided to lay low from her thats my decision... nc... if she breaks it thats her call.... weather or not i respond is mine
  6. super_dave0001
    ok, an wut am i supposed to do if she does contact me down the road?
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    i dont even no wut to say to her
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    damn... that was definitly a good post, i didnt realise i had someone following my posts, its good to hear when someone says im a good man, weather it be a guy or a girl saying it, its words of incouragment, boosts the moral.... i keep reading this thread cause theres so much valuble info from u guys.... but the 1 thing that puzzles me is should i let her no i want no contact? or just disapear all together? cause atm i just disapeard not saying a word about nc to her...
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    right on bro! thx for your help on this touchy subject, you bin a big help lol it took a little yelling to help me see the light so to speak the nc has bin in effect for the past 20 minutes.... clicked *block*
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    LOL i have 1 more question..... my bday is comen up in november, n i no shes gonna end up saying sumtin on that day or wut not...in that case wut do i do? do i ignore it or say thx lol?
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    yea i see wut ur saying.... by doing these games then when it truly comes down to it i never really heal cause im tryn to constantly get even... which in actuallity means i never get over her no?
  12. super_dave0001
    im going into NC. period!
  13. super_dave0001
    LOL ok ok ok ok i get ur point lol that is some big * * * * * letters lol..... works tho gets the point accross
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    i also think the fact that we talked everyday on the phone or in person is getting to her, id wake up and go to work every morning and call her cell and leave her a goodmorning msg every single day, n now its all gone, i think she kinda misses that and paniced... thats y the whole friendship thing came about
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    hmmmm... i probably could, but see everytime im on msn and she comes on she msgs me... i guess i could just block her, but lol i dont think i have the heart to do it.... but i kinda understand wut ur saying.... hell i could just be on apear offline and msg the ppl i want to.... and she would never no.... i think that would kill her inside always wondering where i am an wut im doing lol im so mean now
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    lol well i wouldnt go that far lol.... like i said i have to get my confidence back cause i lack it to the extreme now.... and because i was with my ex for 6 years i cut out other girls so i gotta start from scratch.. ](*,)
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    thats what ive done, if she happens to msg me or contact me sum how it will be extremly minimal, cause i noticed when i talk to her i would end up at ground zero, id feel worthless, my heart would be in pain, head would throb, and all i wanted was to get back with her, but honestly i dont need that, its not healthy...i would just see how shes trying so hard to be friends but yet i cant deal with that yet, i need my seperation to heal up b4 i can start that ive had a friend go throu it, they didnt talk for 6 monthes and now there slowly getn into the friendship thing, cause she contacted him(she was the one to break it off) there taking there time at it and leaving the past in the past hey if she realises she made a mistake then good on her.... it will be up to me tho if i wanna give it another go, but ill definitly be smarter about things.. n in all honesty i think doing this will eat her up inside...but i dont wanna jump the gun and get cocky about it... i just need to get my confidence back and raise it now
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    lol oh man when u say "throw away" its exactly wut she has said to me already "your a big part in my life and i dont wanna throw it away" "i want us to be friends cause id rather u be in my life in that way that not in it at all" gimme a break, n i notice that when i pop online on my msn i wont msg her but she will msg me trying to talk to me, an kinda gets edgy when i wont talk... always askin why im mad at her an not to lie.... i ask her how she knows if im mad or not, and she says she senses it.... me the smarta$$ i am say ohhh ur spidey sense is tingling lol i no i no lol
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    ok my ex says she wants to be friends with me, that she at least wants that out of me....shes the one that broke up with me mind u... so anyways keeping it nice and short, my friends have told me shes just doing this to ease her guilt towards me, n if i want any sorta healthy friendship in the future or possibility of a future realationship again that i should cut her out n give it time to make her realise.... now ladies out there on enotalone tell me have u done this to a guy with not really having intentions of being friends? was it to ease pain of the dumpee? an to ease your guilt trip?
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    well ive kinda come to this realisation that maybe i should start to kinda not talk to my ex... ill keep contact to a minimal because this is becoming to much for me to bear... i need to get out there and meet new ppl.... even tho i really dont no how? i think if theres any shot to me and my ex getting back together if it ever reaches that point then minamal contact probably is the way to go, at least tell these feelings in me disapate, cause everytime i talk to her now on msn, its nothing but memories and a world of heart ache, this is by far the hardest time in my life... i feel that she is possibly confused, dosent no wut she wants in life atm... maybe by doing very little to no contact will make her realise sumtin... at the same time i cant sit back and wait for that moment, incase it never shows up.. the whole friends deal is to much for me at this time, this break up is still to fresh, worse part is my bday is comin up, an she asked me wut i want... i do still kinda feel that id be able to win her back if i stayed in her life... cause SHE is the 1 that wants the friendship, id be willing to accept either or... but that being said i get that little glimmer of hope that hey maybe she does want this to work, she just wants to be sure about things... thats y i think if i were to stick with it and really hang in tough that she would fall for me and the man i was when we first went out.... she just needs to see that im back to the way i was in the beginning the way i see it is that absense makes the heart grow fonder... if its real love in her that she feels for me then she will come back, i just have to realise that it wont be an over night thing...
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    yea i just talked to her on msn now.... the whole friends thing u no? i even said wow were talking more now then we did ever b4.... and she agreed, we drifted apart.... but now she asks me if it would be weird if she dated other guys and i said i dunno, knowing damn well it would... then she said she had to go cause sum guy keeps calling her.... im in a world of heart ache... i dunno wut to do i think im gonna ignore her for a while... who knows how long that while will be since shes trying to be friends... she keeps giving me mixed signals n it confuses me.... the impression i get from her telling me she wants to be friends and hang out is that shes playing hard to get and wants to see if ill fight for her, if i really have gone back to the man i was, but then she throws in the fact that shes happy and partying and has guys calling her which throws me off.. she also asks me alot of wut i did the night b4, and i just throw out sumtin stupid at her to avoid it...
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    i dont really understand wut u mean by that? ur saying if i distance myself from her i will set up myself for heartache?
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    i wonder tho if i do give her space that she will miss me? she tells me shes happy being apart and thinks it was for the best... but she wants to be friends... at the same time tho, shes going out partying and stuff, which was sumtin we never did.... i dunno if i stop talking to her if she will just slowly give up and kinda forget... or if she will grow fonder and miss me....
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    sorry if this is long, im just in a dilly of a pickle lol and need some advice on wut to do ok so let me give u a little run down of wut has happened.. some of u may know my story, me and my ex went out for 6 monthes then she broke up with me, 2 months later we got back together... she dated a guy in those 2 monthes but they broke it off cause she couldnt get over me, she was calling him my name and stuff like that. so anyways, we ended up geting back together for almost 6 years steady (just a couple monthes shy of 6 years) and times were GREAT we had our ups and downs just like anyone else and to be honest things to me felt like we were unbreakable... than the bomb droped. i went to her house on a friday night and she told me we had to talk. i could see in her face that something wasnt right. she ended up telling me that she dosent wanna see me anymore, that the realationship was boring and rutien and there wasnt a connection anymore. i pleeded my case and she then said she wanted time to herself.... i kinda lost it after that, crying, beging, wanting her back telling her id change things to the way they were n so on....it was all to no avail.. i tired talking to her online and she would freak out on me treating me like garbage n i felt worthless... so i decided to give the nc a shot.... i stayed off the computer cause she would see me on msn steady... then i happened to pop online bout 2 weeks after the break and i was on for litterally 10 seconds and she msged me saying she wanted to talk to me. she appologised for the way she treated me after the break up, and that i didnt diserve that, and that she wants to be friends with me cause i was such a big part in her life that she dosent want to loose that.. now i found this suspicious like all of a sudden u want to be buddies, talk, hang out and stuff... this break up is still to fresh to me, and i told her this and she said she dosent wanna loose wut little she has left of me cause i was so important to her, such a big part in her life and that she still loves me...now to me theres different types of love, 1 which i feel towards her which is i cant live without her i eat sleep and breath her kinda love, and the other kind where its i love to have u around kinda like a good tv show so to speek..im kinda feeling like im the #2 love to her anyways all this has me lost... she says she wants to move on with her life but yet wants to be friends and hang out and stuff... but couldnt that possibly make her feel for me again? kinda see wut shes missing out on? believe me ive learned a hella lot about myself an her from this site and just looking back on wut had...i totally agree with her when she says the realationship was getting boring, but if we hang out and do exciting things then she will just end up falling for me deeply again no? i do want to get back with her, but i dont wanna rush things, i do honestly feel that if we hang out and talk to eachother she will see the person i was in the beginning of our realationship the person that wasnt lazy and was romantic, and in turn, want me back.... sometimes i just wanna scream lol is she doing this on purpose to see if do become the man i was where i did care and make plans, where i was romantic and didnt become lazy? i admit i did reach this comfort zone and slacked off, and to be honest it was boring for me too lol im in desperate need of sum advice from you guys and gals
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