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no he doesnt hang out with the girl ne more. should i just forget about asking this girl?

well, i have been with him for like 2.5 and for the march that came by we decided to take a break. he left and went to go move which was an hr away. we werent going out at all, the issue that we had was that we were basically merging into one person intead of being two sperate independent pple bringing out the best out of eachother. so we knew that if we were both going out with eachother and that if he had still moved, we knew we'd have nothing to werk up to and that we would take advantage and take eachother for granted. so needed time to focus on ourselfs for a bit. he wanted to join the military and i needed to werk on what i needed to werk on. and part of the reason he was there also, was cuz he needed to focus on the military and he needed motivation. so when he had left me for exactly a month, when he left me he wanted to go to this party and meet up with a couple pple and this girl. i met this girl only like once and i dont know much about her except for what she looked like. he told me he never hung out with this girl before and the first time that they did was that night he met up with her to go party. i even sent out one of my friends that went to that party to check up on him. and by the end of the night, she had told me on numerous occasions that he was being good. for the time that he stayed up there, he hung out with her (the girl) on numerous occaisons. he even told me that they did. he called me everynow and again to see how i was doing and he even came down a few times to come and see me. so during the end of the month, he told me that he missed me and he asked me if we could be together again. when he moved back, i would ask him if he had done ne thing with the girl and he would completely deny it, he would even smirk at my face. so thats when i started suspecting things. and the fact that she had broken up with her b.f too. when he came back, he would share and tell me on how much this girl was so stupid and that he didnt like her. but before he moved, he had told me that he wanted to hang out with a couple pple, and then i asked him why he wanted to hang out with this girl so bad and he told me he wanted to because he though she was cool. then all of a sudden when he comes back to live with me, he disses on her. what is that suppose to mean? i even signed on his s/n and i pretended to act like my b.f so that i could get answers fr her. so i imed her and i tryed as hard as i could to pretend to talk like him. fr the beginning, it was doing well. but then during the middle of the convo i guess she started to figure that it wasnt stuff that he would say, or maybe she didnt want to give herself out cuz she wasnt too sure that it was him. i would imply the night of which he partied with her and say stuff like, "i had a great time with u" and stuff like that. but the answers i got back fr her was like " call me!, i miss u and i had a great time with u that night!", so then i kinda got the point that sumthing was a bit shady. what the hell was that suppose to mean? but then towards the end of the convo, she was like "ok, hi kat, tell him i said hi" .... i was like OMG! she knew it was me. so, she oviously knew that we were back together. i still ask him about it and he tells me not to worry and that he has never done ne thing deciving. but the words werent enough, i deff feel it in my gut that he has possibly done sumthings that he wasnt suppose to be doing. now hes in the military and he writes me letters and calls me when he can. in those letters he tells me that he wants to propose to me and he cant wait to see me and cant wait to move so that well have a happy wondeful life together. he tells me how much he misses me and how much he kisses my pistures all the time before he goes to sleep. with the past that went on, i dont know wether to take this serious or take this as a joke. i dont know if im being too painoid. i want to ask him and get the truth out of him because it is really bothing me, especailly the fact that he says that he wants to "marry" me, i dont think i would want to get "married" to him after if had done ne thing with this girl. and i cant commit to sumone where ive lost complete trust factors with. if i cant get the answers out of him, should i ask her? she knows who i am but would that make it a stickyer situatuon? how can i get the answer out of him?

when u suspect sumthing that u think ur "mans" been cheating on u and u know who girl he was talking to, and u cant the answers out of him and he denys everything, would it be a bad idea to ask the girl i thought he had relations with, should i ask her what went on? or is this a really horrible idea? how can i get the answers out of him?

yeah i felt the same way also with sumone that im.. i suppose, with. we had issues also and have been together for 2.5, so we decided to take a "break" and for the month that we where away fr eachother, it wasnt even like a couple blocks away type thing, i was an hour away. even when he left, he made it ovious that he wanted to hang out with this girl, in which he did on numerous occasions. and when he cameback i had asked him if he had done ne thing with her and he smirks and tells me that he has never decived me. so i got the impression that he was doing things he wasnt suppose to do. i think u should have a seat and talk to him about it and explain to him exactly how u feel. if he gets all indinial and refuses to tell u what happen or how he feels even though u have found proof against him, that is totally ridiculas. he is playing games on u. with my issue, i dont have that much evidence to prove against him, so if i tryied to imply things that were true or wernt true id be concidered contridicting him and fr then he could call me dillusinal and deranged. with ur issue, you have proof. proof is everything u need.

ya i deff agree with jjasonn28, sharing those feelings with ur significant other is deff sumthing special and sumtimes as though i know me and my guy are two separate individuals i feel that we are connected as one, feelings and emotions and eveything in between.

are guys as hardkore as they present themselves to be? or do they have a softer touch? any explinations?

uh, the question is why would u ask such a thing. no, that isent funny, that is very disturbing.

ya, i know i was not specific about the question. but my b/f constantly says he wants to propose to me and have a wonderful life together and he has always said this.... lol, now im just waiting for him to come back home cuz as of now he is at BC, he recently joined the military. i guess ill know the truth when he comes back and pops the question. ha, says he already considers us married. i am just not too sure if he means what he says and how sincere he is when he says these kinda of things..

that is what i am trying to find out.

are there guys out there that are pig enough to joke and say that they want to propose? what would be the reasons to why they'd joke about it? or do guys take this as a very serious thing?

thanx gurlz! i actually just got two letters fr him in the mail : )

sumone that i know has joined the NG and left on the 27th of april to ship to the reception battalion and it has been 4-5 days pass due and now he has shipped off to BC. during the arrival at the reception battalion, u are requried to call ur family members or friends within the 72 hrs of ur arrival. at the beggining of ur 72nd arrival at the reception battalion are u only permitted to making ( 2 calls per 2 mins ) is that true? if u have spare time at the reception battalion, can u make calls? depending how good ur doing in BC, are u still prohibited on making fone calls and reciving them? how many letters can u write in a day, week or months? ur answers and advice will deffinitaly be greatly apprecitated.

i think ur right icemotoboy, it is whats in the future and the present that needs to be focused on not the past. i really thought about it and i wouldent want to talk to the girl that he was talking to, i dont really want her to get involved.. kinda werid. but i dont understand if anything did happen then y the smirks? i tried n tried to get it out of him but it never happened...

my b/f and i broke up two months ago and recently got back together. for the two months we broke up we needed some time apart to think things through and to figure out somethings, we were fighting a lot too that led us to break up. the same day we broke up, he wanted to go to a party and meet up with a couple of his boys and this girl that he was friends with. i know this is bad and all but when he left i knew all the pass words to all of his accounts, so i went through it all proveing he was making plans to meet up with this girl on numerous accounts. blah blah blah.. to get to the point, we got back together like a month later and i had talked to him about it and he says he did meet up with her, but when i asked him if he did anything he would deny it and have this stupid smirk on his face. i know him very well, and this is not some two week relationship, we've been together for 3 yrs now and i know when he smirks, it is a lie. i still ask him about it because i sespect something of it. what does smirking usually mean? well, i wanted to confront the girl and ask her myself but i dont know if that is a good idea, if i cant get the answer out of him then what should i do? im afraid that if i ask her this question that either 1. she wont tell me the truth, 2. if he was really telling me the truth, i would make myself look like the complete idiot, or 3. i wont get a response cuz shes a concided snob. would i be wrong to ask her? i ve been trying to forget about this and have been trying to learn how to trust this but i really need to know the truth cuz he wants to move to FL with me and get married and i dont want to be with him if he has cheated on me.