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would you guys go through his phone, I feel like I need to be sure before I do anything!

we made it very clear that we would stay faithful...

Hi could really do with some advuce here. Been with my bf about 2 years now and we have been traveling for 4 months. A few weeks ago we decided to have a break. there was a girl at our hostel my bf got on really well with and she went to stay at a hostel with him while i was elsewhere. i eventually came back and he hadn't said he had a girlfriend and was being off in front of other people which made me think he had been with her. i found some messages on his which were saying miss you, and one from by bf saying he wanted some (girls name) lovin' he said this was all a joke. i later discovered that all my messages some that he had saved from the start of our relationship had been deleted from his phone and he had saved loads of messages from her into a folder...i din't read them but i want to!!! i dont want to break up with him at all and we had a long distance for ages, i really dont think he cheated then but i dont know if i'm being stupid to carry on. the other girl is now in a different country, when we go he wants to go visit her. does it sound like he is using me for now and will drop me when we get there?? we are best friends but i cant talk to him about this he gets all defensive....please help me!!!!

i'm in real need of some advice from a person/people with perspective. i'm currently traveling and have been for 3 months, with 4 left to go. I came out with my boyfriend of 2 years and we are currently on a break. following an argument i sugested that he may want to spend some time apart and that we would explore the next city seperatley. it has only been a couple of days and so far he has called me each day to check how i am. i only suggested the break because i know that was what he wanted, i really dont think i could continue to travel without him, it would be too much to deal with on my own on the other side of the world to family and friends. besides i feel that traveling is about sharing an experience with someone you care about. i understand that after 3 months of just each other and spending maybe a day total apart its gonna get a bit much. at the moment i feel like he is calling all the shots, he will say when he wants to meet up and i feel that if i get in touch it will appear clingy and the whole point was a bit of space. has anyone out there been in this situation or survived traveling with a partner? please help!!