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I'm 15 and I've just started working at a convention centre. I work as a waitress type person and I've been working there for about 1 week now. I met a girl there named Samantha and she is SO nice. She's in her early twenty's and we have been hanging around together at work, you know, just talking and stuff. She's from England and she's just so good to chat with. I think it's kinda cool having an older friend and it always seemed like she loved having me around too. I always thought she saw me as a little sister or something. But... whilst we were working today, as we were going through the corridor, a few people with trolleys came through and we kinda had to squish up against the wall to stay out their way as they passed through. She kinda used her body to squish me up against the wall. I just stood there giggling 'coz it was so awkward but she just stared at me...its hard to explain how she was looking at me, but it was the kind of look you give someone before you kiss them. You know, that long and meaningful stare? ALSO, throughout today I've felt her watching me. Not in a weird stalker-ish way, just glancing at me every once in a while and whenever I caught her eyes she'd smile and blush and pretend it didnt happen. But you see, her supposedly liking me isnt the real problem. The REAL problem is...I think I like her too. I've always thought that she was really pretty...but I didnt know until today that maybe I like her more than I should I dont know. Maybe I'm thinking way to hard about this and letting it get to me. Is it worth saying anything to her, or is that to risky? Do you think what happened to me today means anything, or am I over-analyzing?

This is a question I've been asking myself for a the last few months. I had a falling out with my 2 best friends earlier on this year. Now the two of them are friends with a new a bunch of girls at my school, and these girls are fairly nice and I used to hang out with them a bit. But lately I've noticed that these girls now seem kinda cold towards me and dont speak to me anywhere near as much. Now, this doesnt affect me a great deal, but I dont like the fact that these girls have ill feeling towards me, when I never did or said anything to them to hurt them. I'm almost certain that my 'ex' best friends have said something to them to make them feel this way. So, back to my question, should I care what others think? Do YOU care what your peers think of you? I know this is a difficult question, I dont expect an exact answer, just some opinions.

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I like the name Charlie for a girl...I know that may sound weird, but I just thinks it's cool. I also like Carleigh, Aleigha, Breeze, Jemima & Kelly

I know how you feel Rozzy. I'm dealing with a kind of similar situation in the way that I've had to let go of a friend who means (or meant) the world to me. I hope it comforts you to know that its normal to feel this way about friend after having a falling out. I know that with me I felt so so so angry and jealous for days, and I just wanted to destroy my friends locker and rip all her posters down and throw all her text books away and hurt her and make her feel as bad as I felt. But I didnt. Because I'm stronger and I know better than that. I also know how bad it feels when you dwell on your old friendship. You sit there whenever you've got a spare moment and just think of all the great things you did together. And then you start to feel really lonely and you feel like you need her back in your life. But you have to remember that you dont. Things weren't going to work out. Everything in life happens for a reason. It's probably better off that you and your friend had a falling out now...it's better than it happening later on in your life. You now have more time to deal with it. You have more time to move on and find a real friend. A real friend who'll stick by you through thick and thin. Just be strong. Thats what I have to remind myself. Hold your head up and remember that there are so many other fish in the sea. Things between you and her obviously weren't meant to be. Move on and find someone else. Someone who is your soulmate and your true best friend.

Thank you all so much for the advice.

My best friend has told me that she never wants to be my friend, ever, ever, ever, again and this is after 5 years of solid best-friendship. This is because I've been acting very insensitive and and well...stupid over the past couple of weeks and done things to upset her and failed to apologize until days later. But the thing is...I've been going through a lot of greif and sadness in my homelife ... And this has made me 'emotionally unstable' & I havent been thinking straight. Should I bother explaining this to her?