lonestar_80

I would say do not do it. I did it and it did not work out. It is hard to avoid him and it is so awkward when we see each other.

I say take the advice of the older and wiser bunch.

Maybe she and her new guy are having problems, that's usually when your ex pops up.

Maybe she regrets leaving you for this guy b/c she left a good thing and got a monster in return. Just speculating. But maybe she just wanted to see how you are doing.

Hooray! I know that you are so happy and excited!

Yes, tell your girlfriends parents tell them that your sister has tried to abuse you. If you have to call the cops again. Tell them that you have called before and no one did anything to help you.

Please tell us when do your parents come back? You have not told us when they come back.

Please stay in your room and lock you door as much as possiable!

Yes, he may hurt you or your daugther. There are people that kill their wife and kids b/c of a divorce. He needs to get help. You need to think about this very carfully b/c his actions can put you in danger.

It is good to see that you are better and you are at a place where you are at peace with yourself. I just hope and pray that you will come to a place where you can find an equal balance and deliverance from all that troubles you. In the name of the most high, I pray for you and I pray that you will find the peace and the happiness that your heart desires.

Yes! I know how you feel. Being attractive has hindered my relationships with some of my female friends. Some of them feel really jealous of me. It makes me feel so bad because I have done nothing to them to make them feel bad. I try to play down my looks by not dressing in a sexy way but that does not help me at all. I lost a really good friend b/c her BF tried to hit on me. I did not do anything. It is hard to be attractive b/c people think your are stuck up or they think that you want to steal their boyfriends. Plus men do not appreciate you for anything but your beauty. They don't care how many accomplishments you have achieved or they are too afraid to ask you out on a date b/c the think you are too good looking for them. I thank God for my good looks but sometimes I wish that my friends could love me for me. I have never tried to steal anyone's BF and I will never do this. The one thing that I have learned is that if a BF tries to date your friends he is not worth it in the firsts place.

I feel really bad about myself sometime b/c I am SOOO shy!! I can get guys that my friends can not get b/c they don't look like me. But I am jealous of them! I wish that I could have such a lovely personality. I can have my moments where I am witty and fun but most people think that I am too shy. I guess God blesses people with different gifts.

I am sorry for your loss. I know that it is hard to lose someone that you love so much. I just hope that as the time goes by your pain will heal.

Go to the mall. Or just talk on the phone or go to the park! Your still young and have time to figure out how to handle your relationship.

I've learnt to be selfish a bit in my next relationship and not always do all the giving.

 

I've learnt to NOT date guys who are in their 30's and still act like little kids.

 

I've learned to speak up about what I want instead of always keeping it in and resenting the other person when they dont do what you want because they never knew what you wanted in the first place.

Amen! I feel the same way. I have dated men in their 30's that I would think that they have it together by now but NO They don't. They act like kids!

Why don't you ask your uncle if you can stay with him for the week. Tell him that you are afraid of your sister. Tell him that you called the cops on her and they did nothing. If you have to call the cops again DO IT!! This is so bad that it makes me want to cry. I feel so sorry for you. I can't believe that your sister is so sick. If she touches you she has a mental problem that is the bottom line.

TELL HER NO! Your sister is molesting you. You should tell your parents! SHe needs help. SHe is a grown woman and should be able to find someone her own age outside of the family. This should be a huge concern b/c this is a form of mental illness. Your sister needs to get help now and address this problem now before she molests other children. Stay the heck away from her. I can't believe you did that with her. Do not fall into the trap again. NEVER AGAIN!!!!

I am trying to regain respect and honour. RayKay you make it sound like I will burn in hell for 'willingly being part of an affair'! I know it was 'bad' but now that I am ending it, am I still 'tarnished'? I guess this is almost a religious question.

You are doing the right thing by ending this relationship. This girl has lost all sense of remorse. She does not think what she is doing is wrong. Just think if she cheats on her BF she will cheat on you too. If she really did not want to be with her BF she would have left him by now. You are just a little yummy on the side.

As for a religious question, yes what you are doing is a sin, and if keep unrepented you would go to hell. Jesus condemned fornication and adultery. But the great thing is that He can forgive you of your sins if you confess them and repent!!! Jesus did not condemn the woman who was caught in adultery but he told her to SIN NO MORE. Don't mess with this chick again, it is that simple.

Then I think to myself, since being involved with this woman I am a changed person for the better. I was very shy before and although I still am, I am much more confident and 'out of my shell'. I am more ambitious and want a good career. I have had a taste of what its like have the nicer things in life. I have had the experience of love. And sex. I feel I would be able to get a girlfriend now, whereas had I not engaged in this affair I don't think I ever would have been able to.

You can still be all of these things without this girl and you can be with a girl you can trust. I know plenty of girls and guys that creeped around with someone and when they finally got them, they did not trust them. God has a better plan for you. HE wants you to be with a faithful woman and not a woman that cheats.

I recommend reading Proverbs 5. It talks about staying away from unfaithful women that use charm to seduce young men. Basically nothing good will come of your relationship. Good Luck!

Even those that don't instantly put me off can turn bad. I've spent two weeks talking to several guys developing what I thought was a decent friendship. We've exchanged pics, I was expecting a face shot but was instead treated to pics of them in the nuddy. What's worse is they then say "Well what do you think?"..............what the hell are you supposed to say?.

Falling over laughing!!!

Oh my! That is funny!

Maybe she is trying to give you closure. Did you cheat on her? Why did you break up? Telll us what shes says, good luck.

I think you should go to another doctor. It is normal to pass clots. Maybe they can put you on the pill to reduce the blood flow in your periods. What I like to do is take an Advil the night before my period so I am not in so much pain the next day. This will reduce the swelling and you will have little to no pain during your period. I have clots and a heavy flow but after taking Advil on a regular basis I do not have pain during my periods any more. IB profane is best to take for periods b/c it helps reduce the swelling. Tylenol only reduces pain but it does not reduce swelling. Most of the pain during your period comes from being swollen. Take Advil every four hours. That has been a God send for me I could not live without advil during my periods.

Thats an interesting story. She wanted to talk about marriage? My ex did the same thing to me talked about marriage,then he gave me the boot (he had a chick on the side). I think that you did the right thing. If you can't fully forgive someone or trust them it is best to just let them go. At least you talked to her about your feelings. I know alot of men that cannot express themselves and tell thier SO how they feel. I think you broke up with her in a proper manner unlike the way she broke up with you.

Watch out for those downlow brothers. Some of them are spreading HIV to their girlfriends,wifes, and male lovers.

Welcome to the real world! I think that there are hardly any good role models for young men anymore. They think that life is just about sex. They are not interested in developing a loving and meaningful relationship. The sad thing is, I don't think that they would even know how to have a good relationship.

People have no class today. They see nothing wrong with being dishonest to people, and their "homeboys" reward them for being the best player/dog.

I definitely expected more people to see this as being wrong or as though she was "off limits", but I guess this ain't that bad.

It would have been different if they had just broken up or if he still had feelings for her. But this guy has not talked to her in two years. So he must not care anything about her at all.

Plus, I think you should go with the "what if question". Most people are too smart to fall for the "Oh I bumped into so and so story". He will know right away you have already banged his ex or that you want to bang his ex.

Ask your friend what he thinks about it. Ask him if he would care if one of his friends dated his ex. I have heard of a girl that dated a guy for a while then they broke up and a few years later she dated his best friend and they got married. Her ex already moved on.

If he has not talked to her in two years and is about to get married, I don't think he should care but you never know.Also, make sure this girl really likes you and is not using you just to get back at him.

Okay

I was watching MTV last night and I saw a trailer for the new season of Laguna Beach. It is a show about a bunch of spoiled bratty rich kids etc. Anyway one of the guys on the show has a girlfriend that he wants to break up with and he did not know how to do it. His buddy told him the only way you can break up with a girl is to cheat on her!

I was appalled by this statement but it is not the first time I have heard of it. Have guys turned into all time cowards these days? I have heard of guys that break up with girls by just never calling them again (how rude). Is it that hard to break up with someone? Why would a person rather cheat on their SO to break up with them, rather than to tell them the truth? Do you guys know of anyone that was too chicken to break up, so they acted like a fool just so the other person would do the breaking up for them? I have never had a problem expressing my feelings when I have broken up with someone. Why are some people such cowards?

It sounds like he is a bad boyfriend. I don't know what to tell you. I have been with a guy like that. The best thing you can do is to try to get over him. HE is not worth you time. He is careless.

You can gain weight if you just eat more. I had a friends from the islands and she gained a lot of wieght when she went to the US. Don't feel bad I am small too.

The best thing you can do is to be cordial to her and to be her friend. Don't pressure her to rekindle the relationship. If she wants to get back together she will make an effort to let you know this. Try little contact and only contact her if it concerns school. Med school is very hard, so you should put all your focus on gradating and passing all of your classes.

That was a great article. I think that 25 years of research on this subject is much more valid than the opinions of people that are blinded by love right now.