I understand... except my problem is my boyfriend has an anxiety chat group he goes to.. and I don't mind that but he and I met online two years ago we have had problems and break ups but anyway he doesn't have to work, so it is nothing for him to just up and move he had nothing keeping him anywhere...but back to the chat room.. he talks to these people all the time some through forums and sometimes email.. and never once has he ever mentioned that he has a girlfriend.. He in fact tells them he is single.. When I tell him it bothers me that I want to be acknowledged he tells me to stay out of his business... Am I wrong for wanting to be acknowledged? We have a pretty good relationship right now, we are planning to move to Haines Ak next week, we have rented a cabin there and things are going fine but it bothers me that he talks to these people and if even thought I went to that chat group and looked at what is being said he would freak.......