openmindedgirl

Since you posted your ages, I do have to ask, has either of you ever dated other people? Six years IS a long time; however, you are both very young. I understand that it probably frustrates you when people mention age, but there is a lot of truth to it. I am 30. I have changed SO MUCH from the time I was 22. You gain so many life experiences and more wisdom in those years, and you further find out so much more about who you are and what you want out of life.

I read your (very long) post... If you two are as in love as you claim to be, sappy and "meant to be" since the moment you met, then what are you waiting for? I'd say 6 years is more than enough time to decide whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. How old are the both of you? She's been waiting, I can assure you... Now, whether or not she'll say yes? At this point, what do you have to lose? (yes, I'm a hopeless romantic.) Good Luck. Keep us posted.

That's what we have both agreed...if we do decide to go through with something like this, and either one of us becomes uncomfortable, then we will end it right there. It's about US, not his needs or my needs. We want it to be something that we both want and enjoy. I am curious about others' experiences...

Thanks for your replies. I realize that there's no way of knowing what the consequences are, regardless of how strong your relationship is. I know that's the reason I asked in the first place...because I really DO love and want to spend my life with him, as does he. If there is a slight chance that it could destroy us, then I don't want to take that risk. THEN AGAIN, everything we encounter offers a risk. It's all how we handle what rolls into our path. It's obviously a dilemma...on one hand, I trust him enough to share this experience with him, as I feel we will both be incredibly turned on by the experience. I think it would be a lot of fun. At the same time, is it worth the chance that we look back and wonder what we were thinking? To those of you who did respond, thanks for not passing judgement. The truth is, before I met this man, I never thought I'd be thinking a lot of the things I've thought. He has opened my mind in so many ways, and it's refreshing. If anyone else has a story or advice to share, I appreciate your thoughts. Thanks.

Hello, this will be my first post, so hopefully I do not offend anyone. However, I am seeking some opinions. Please do not leave nasty comments, as I am only expressing an idea that piques my curiosity. My boyfriend and I have been together a long time...we are both in our thirties. The one aspect of our relationship that we've always really appreciated is the fact that we can both be so open and honest with one another. This open-mindedness has allowed us to be experimental physically, which I think has made for greater sex. We have an amazing connection and plan to get married in the future. We have a ton in common-share a lot of the same beliefs and attitudes as far as religion, money, having children are concerned. Sometimes I feel like we share a brain...it's comforting to be able to express whatever's on my mind and know he won't laugh. He likes me exactly how I am. As I said earlier, the sexual side of our relationship is passionate and wonderful. Because of our openness, we often talk about many different things...and have even discussed the possibility of inviting others to join in. My question is...if both of us are willing to try it out and we feel strong enough to go through with it, then why is experimenting (aside from one's religious beliefs) with other people good/bad? I'm obviously on here for reason...we both love each other dearly and want to make the other happy. We want to spend the rest of our lives together...is it bad that we both enjoy the thought of having sex with others? Has anyone tried swinging? If so, was it worth it or not? I'm just wondering how many have tried it and what their feelings are... Did your relationship worsen? get stronger? Thanks.